Come around for dinner they said…

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So we have friends that live forever away (well not that far maybe an hour ). It has been a long day but our friends were very keen we came around for dinner as wanted to cook for us etc etc. Have just received a text saying "so looking forward to you coming! Can you eat beforehand as we can't be arsed to cook! See you in an hour x x "

This gives us no time to get food and comes across pretty rude. When they have come to ours for dinner we have given them dinner…

AIBU to be really late as we now have to eat without having been given any prior warning?

Well done you. I once went to friends in Surrey for the weekend - drive down after work on a Friday night , after 3 hour journey , arrived about 8pm, no drink or food was offered! Not even a cup of coffee. Apparently they had. eaten already - I was so hungry had to ask for some food. Same couple invited friends for housewarming party in their new (large and expensive ) home, they told everyone that they had thought long and hard about the 'cheapest' way to feed everyone - which apparently was portions of chips from the local fish and chip shop. I wouldn't have minded the chips it was the "cheaper" thing.

'Turns out they didn't want to cook as had a big lunch and so weren't going to be hungry.. oh well their loss!'

WTF? What thoughtless arseholes. What ssd said. I CBA with flakes for friends like this.

Glad you didn't go. What selfish pigs. Who thinks like this.

What kind of pals invite you for dinner knowing you have an hour drive to get there, and then eat a big lunch and decide they can't be arsed to cook after all?
Selfish ones.
Sounds like you made the right decision. I'd think twice about making plans with them again.

Scrub them off your invite list. Selfish arses they are.

My response to the initial text would have been "haha very funny! Can't wait to see what you're cooking us. We've not eaten all day as we really want to appreciate your efforts. See you soon"

We have casual/flexible meet-ups with friends all the time, so I totally 'get' partialderivative's stance in the normal run of things.

This, however, is bloody rude. Glad you didn't go. It also prompted them to kind of acknowledge their rudeness and apologise.

I think I'd be 'too busy' the next few times they invite you and see if they take the hint (if indeed, they do ever try to make it up to you by rescheduling).

I can't get over how many of you have been asked to travel somewhere and the hosts have eaten before you get there knowing you'd come straight from work or been travelling through morning/lunch time.If I was invited at 1pm between xmas and new year I woud assume lunch was on offer. If you don't want the expense or faff of feeding folk, invite them at a non meal time when you can just do a cuppa and cake!

I'd be a bit busy for a while too. I had a friend who turned up for dinner at mine having spent the afternoon getting pissed and she couldn't eat what I'd cooked. Okay, well, not good but forgivable.

Some weeks later she and her BF were over an hour late for dinner with no apologies and....yeah I dumped her.

I've had people round on evenings when I was too blerdy tired to cook : but I pre warned them and we ordered fab takeaway that I paid for.

It's the rudeness of the whole thing. People don't mind if you're tired and get takeaway.

Knowing people are making an effort to come visit and then not to even put the kettle on for a tea or coffee or open a pack of biscuits. Rude!