AIBU to want to know your Family secrets (light hearted) or not

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Four years ago we found out my uncle was not my grandads

Nana was having a op and was dosed up to the eye balls she very old any way and just kept repeating the baby's not his you know he looks nothing like him I was 4 months gone before we were wed

My uncle is the first and their has always been hushed coversations and dark clouds surrounding uncles birth
Tbh were all very dark looking and my uncle looks more mixed raced than black

older gay men died of aids too

it was not just young gay men dying of aids

nor was it just gay men*

I know, but even so the maths don't add up.

Actually sorry yes it does, sorry! It just requires four successive generations to have children at a very young age. Apologies for being a doubting Thomas.

This tale involves my sister's ex husband.

He has 2 sisters, one older the other younger.
The older sister was sexually abused by their df from about the age of 13.
This only came to light when df and dm divorced. After a few years alone, df met a new woman.
It transpired that elder sister went from being abused to having a consensual incestuous relationship with her df. This carried on after she was married and having 2 dc. She was mid 30's when it all came out and the reason it did was because she was jealous of the new woman and having to take a back seat to her. She reported him to the police.
He did 18 months.

To all those who where abused by family members. I'm sorry that I can't give you back your innocence/childhood, all that I can say is...it wasn't your fault.

Mummy2angel- I hope you are ok, I don't really know what to say just hoping for you x

My " grandad" was captured by The Japanese in Burma and spent time in a POW camp. My Grandma thought he was dead and turned to a local bus conductor for comfort. This resulted in my mum!
Slightly awkward when my gran got the letter with the good news my grandad was coming home and she was 6 months pregnant.
There was always something a bit odd going on with my Grandparents and Mums relationship but I had no idea until I saw my Mums birth certificate when I was in my teens.
Turns out that The Bus Conductor had a whale of a time with all the women left behind in The War and she has/had a number of half siblings - she recently made contact with one.

XDH's DGPs had interesting lives. His DGF was Czech and when the Germans invaded they seized his family's factory and put him in a labour camp. He escaped and then walked all the way through Eastern Europe and Turkey and wound up in North Africa where he joined the French Foreign Legion. He then someone managed to find himself in the Lake District where he met a young Englishwoman who'd been asked to work on "a code-breaking" project but had rejected that for the far more exciting task of driving and delivering tanks to military bases! She was very small so couldn't see as she drove so another girl always had to have her head sticking out the top of the tank to give directions.

Anyway they met, were married two weeks(!) later and not-so-dearXMIL came along soon after. After the war they moved back to Czechoslovakia and had another daughter but had to escape the country after the communist revolution and ended their days in the glamor of Essex.

They don't make 'em like that anymore!

Turns out that The Bus Conductor had a whale of a time with all the women left behind

Room for one more on top

it can add up

1985 30 years

being 5 years old your father could be 25, grandfather 45 and great grandfather 65

if they all became fathers at 20 which was not considered young until recently he may have been older or younger

Some heartbreaking stories here

My great grandad on my dad's side was from the Hebrides and came down to Glasgow to join the navy, speaking very little English as he had always spoken Gaelic. He ended up in a Brazilian jail for fighting!

If you don't mind me asking how did he end up in Brazil.

Travelling with the navy, SexyHouseSlippers