Mils

[Pyjamasandwine]

I am a nice mil. I adore my dil. I had a nice mil. I adored my mil. Please tell me aibu to think this is common? Who has a nice mil. Who is a nice mil? Who gets on with their dil?

Mine is awful, she drives me insane.

I limit any contact I have to have with her and leave her to DH.

We're a couple of hundred miles away so I don't see her very often, but we get on with each other in a grin and bear it kind of way.

She's not interested in our kids (they're girls and she only likes boys) so we're not troubled by her very often

My MIL is wonderful and a pleasure to be around.

However I totally believe the negative MIL stories because my 'D'M is a highly 'interesting' person and a very special snowflake. My poor DH.

My mil was lovely. Very welcoming and easy to talk to. She was a great grannie too. Occasionally she would have a fall out with hubby or bil but I was never drawn into it. I used to remind him to phone or visit and take our son to visit. I didnt go every time as they would go to give me a bit of time to myself when M was little. I used to chat on the phone to her too, or take M to visit when I was on mat leave. Maybe she got more contact because of me and appreciated it but then it was normal to me to be in touch as I did it with my mum.

My MIL is lovely, she's kind, helpful, amazing cook and keeps her opinions to herself (which is handy, as she clearly thinks I'm very wrong in a lot of things as she does stuff very differently). I'm very lucky with her.

On the other hand, my poor DB's DP and my DH. Gosh, MIL from hell there...

I'm so lucky, my MIL is amazing. She is genuinely one of the nicest people I know. She's an amazing mum and granny too. My FIL is the same.

My MIL is nice 90% of the time. But the 10% is awful, really really awful behaviour. Really Jeckly and Hyde.

My MIL is also ace!

I have a lot of admiration for her actually.

As well as being a mother to 6, she is a medical professional so I value and trust her advice about childrearing and medical issues - and she never offers her advice unless asked but her door is always open to me.

We genuinely get along and worryingly I think we're quite similar.

I cannot think of a single "issue" I've had with her in the 8 years DP and I have been together.

My MIL is pretty nice. She dishes out unsolicited childrearing advice (my child isn't even born yet), but she means well by it so I keep my patience with her.

My fiance, on the other hand, gets to have my mum as a MIL. Poor man. She's awful.

Mine is lovely though we don't see much of her which is a shame, would love to see more of her and FIL. We all used to go on holiday together but they don't keep so well these days.

Most folk I know get on fairly well with their MIL's. MN is not representative and I'd often like to hear the other side.

My DM has a great mil - my 90 year old granny and they are great friends. I don't. I wish I did but she is very toxic as is fil. They have driven my DH to depression and near nervous breakdown and they are now very low contact.

of course it is common, it's just not common for people to ask for advice about nice MIL on internet forums.

I thought everyone knew this by now.

I have a wonderful, fantastic MiL.

She visits once a week for about an hour.
Dh speaks to her during the week to check she's ok.

When the ds's were small she would babysit if she was free. [she has a very good social life]
She never told me how we should raise the boys.
DH would take them round at the weekend to play for a hour or two, I wouldn't go and it suited me fine.

If Carlsberg did a MiL she'd look like mine

Love my mil!

Mine is horrendous

The reason there seem to be so many horrible MILs when you read MN is because you have a self - selecting sample. The people who have 'good' MILs are less likely to post AIBU/WWYD threads about them whereas the ones with horrible MILs will post threads asking for advice/wanting to vent.

This. I get along well with my MIL. There's nothing of particular interest to anyone else for me to post about her.

I really my mil. I wouldn't say I love her but I am very fond of her. She isn't particularly involved with the kids, they live quite far away and then moved even further. I think my mum is a great MIL, she treats dh very well and loves him. She doesn't treat him like a son as such. But she loves him because he is the father of her grandchildren who she adores. Me and dh split for 6 months. Mil and fil never even contacted me, didn't really expect it. Mum was still in contact with dh and acted the same with him, even though he was being a knob. as far as she was concerned he was still the kids dad and a shit relationship wasn't going to help anyone.

Since getting back together she has never been different with him, despite his brief time as a dickhead. She says as we have worked out our issues, its not her place to carry it on. We don't have any pil drama.

In fact you can tell my mum is a good mil as dh always asks if her and dad want to come on holiday. They don't look after the kids while we are away, he just enjoys it. Him and dad get on really well. Dad has a stressful job and is nervous about arranging holidays, getting to the hotel etc. Dh likes that he organises it and dad can really relax.

I get on great with mine, she has three sons and a really good relationship with all three DILs. I've got three sons and despite all the MIL threads I still look forward to being a MIL one day.

I too had a lovely mil and fil OP. They've been dead a few years now, sadly, and I wish I'd told them how much I appreciated their lovely, gentle ways . If your lovely mil and fil are still around, give them a hug next time you see them .

My MIL is awesome. We sit at home with wine together often.

Mine is perfectly pleasant, as am I to her (I hope!). Bit reserved tho- not the kind of woman you'd go for a pint with.

I do wish they'd babysit, but other than that there are no simmering resentments on either side.

I've got a lovely MIL and ex MIL.

Yanbu at all! I love my DMIL. She has always accepted me and gone out of her way to make me feel like part of the family. Now I have a child with her DH she is an amazing GP and I feel very fortunateto have her in all of our lives.

Oh good lord sorry! I meant my DH, MY DH!!! Her son. Yikes.

My MIL is lovely, and dotes on dd. I managed to marry into a genuinely lovely family, and get on very well with all my ILs. I agree with PPs that most are at least nice, they just don't get talked about on mn.