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to ask what you see other Mum's doing that puts you to shame

140 replies

Totality22 · 30/03/2015 15:39

I just saw a mum jogging with her double pram.

Made me feel like shit so I've grabbed another slice of cake

Seriously though, is it normal to look at other Mum's and think "I wish I could do that"

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0x530x610x750x630x79 · 30/03/2015 16:57

Women who post photos on their blogs around Easter of their 'Left-over Easter chocolate' recipes.
we expect our easter egg haul to keep us going until trick or treating.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 30/03/2015 17:01

bumblebreed I found left over chocolate from last Easter with an end date of 3 months ago. I was more surprised I hadn't found it sooner in one of my cupboard raids. Most mums would've thrown it but not me...I made Rice Krispies cakes instead! Who the fuck has patience to faff about with a torte??

Charlotte3333 · 30/03/2015 17:01

I envy parents of boys who get on well; my two are 9 & 4 and whilst they are nice to one another in small doses, most of the time our house sounds like a war zone. I took them to Bosworth Battlefield today as a treat because we'd spent ages at their Grandad's house. I should have known it was too much for one day; as I was paying the little one sprinted off, the big one followed it and dragged it back using only it's arm, there was screaming, stamping and they got the worst bollocking they'd had in a long while.

To be honest, any kids who don't try to kill one another impress me. I'm hoping/praying that eventually they'll learn to like or at least tolerate one another. Or I'll hopefully go deaf in my old age and be able to ignore it.

I don't feel bad about what other Mums do with their kids, though. Jealousy is a pointless emotion and I'd rather spend my emotions smiling at a lovely glass of rioja.

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually · 30/03/2015 17:02

One of my (teenage) dds went to a party this weekend with a very impressive looking hairstyle which was something to do with "fishtails".

DH spent the whole morning on YouTube watching tutorials and the finished result was after about the 104th practice involving much muttering and actual cutting off of bobbles with scissors.

They were both very proud when it was done.

So my own dh made me feel inadequate

I bet my last pound, though, that every one of us feeling inadequate, has a skill in another area that other people envy. I just have to think of what mine is!

MrsDoylesCupOfTea · 30/03/2015 17:05

I was always impressed with mothers that had tissues. Blush

DoJo · 30/03/2015 17:06

The mums who have neatly cut up cucumber and carrots and what not in different coloured Tupperware and feed it to the happy child whilst I'm sat there giving dd haribo

I am one of those mums I'm afraid, but only because my son will only eat stuff like that, meaning that we have to take food with us EVERYWHERE because the little sod darling refuses to eat sandwiches, fishfingers or basically anything you can actually buy somewhere! I like to think that my jeans which I recently discover have a hole in the crotch, hair that hasn't seen a brush since sometime before I got pregnant and general air of confusion prevent me from appearing smug or in any way well-put-together though!

NancyRaygun · 30/03/2015 17:08

Oh MrsDoyle me too!

toomuchtooold · 30/03/2015 17:08

I always have tissues but that's because DT2 was really snotty from about 18m to nearly 3 when she sneezed and an ancient piece of cardboard from a box of raisins shot out of her nose.

LittleMilkNoSugar · 30/03/2015 17:18

Mums who can drive. Which is pretty much every other mum in the whole wide world, so I'm in a permanent state of feeling like failure-ness. Blush

SergeantJarhead · 30/03/2015 17:24

Mums who have children who actively participate in arty crafty stuff, I love it and bankrupted myself buying all sorts of nonsense for my son ... who likes to hold 3 pencils in each hand and then swap them round :/
Mums who have children who enjoy cooking or baking, my son likes to keep me company on my disability chair and hold a spoon whilst singing. :/
Mums who have children who enjoy running around and getting absolutely filthy, my lovely soon is very precious about not getting anything on him and will run to me and say 'uh oh'.

Actually, for those reasons and many more I don't think my standard of parenting is anything to be ashamed of. Each to their own >:}

WindYourBobbinUp · 30/03/2015 17:28

I can't drive either LittleMilk it'd never bothered me until I realised how much kid's stuff is in the middle of nowhere next to motorways!

GlitzAndGigglesx · 30/03/2015 17:28

LittleMilk don't worry I can't drive. Everyone mil keeps telling me I need to learn as I'm a parent and pregnant and it'll be more convenient blah blah blah. Yes more convenient for me to get to the McD's drive thru

TruJay · 30/03/2015 17:34

I do lots of crafting with my DS but I absolutely love it and have done crafting since before I even met DH and any dc came along. I make cards/wedding invitations/gifts etc and DS loves to make so am guessing he takes after me. We can sit for hours together.
I've also done the different veg/fruit in Tupperware too, not regularly but sometimes and I like my kids to look nice but they are free to roll around in mud as they please, I just dress them according to where we're going/what we're doing.
My house on the other hand looks like a bomb has exploded, I need to do a massive de clutter but it just never gets done! I'd also like myself and DH to be a bit more presentable but we haven't bought ourselves new clothes for years. It's usually just any jeans/top we can find. I've never really worn make up but mums who manage a full face and immaculate outfit for the school run in a morning, I have no clue how they do that. I'm lucky if I get to wash my hair, if I do get time I like to style my hair. You pick your battles I guess, I grab every minute in bed I can instead of getting up to make myself look good.
One thing I've learnt though is you never know what's going on inside people or at home, everyone does need some help and no one should ever feel inferior to anyone else.

TarkaTheOtter · 30/03/2015 17:47

Lol at "left-over chocolate". I've been eyeing up the dc's eggs today. They can share one right?

MrsTedCrilly · 30/03/2015 17:59

Mums who lose the baby weight quickly.. I was chuffed when I had my son and didn't look half bad once the initial c-section bloat had gone down.. But all I've wanted to do since then (a year ago) is stuff my face!

Mums who go to all the groups and are pro-active about socialising. They wouldn't be able to stand sitting at home all the time so I think I'm odd for liking being at home in our own little fun world.

Some might look at me and wonder too though! I do my hair and make-up as it makes me feel good and only takes 15 mins. I shove on nice-ish clothes (with holes out of sight) Wink I'm organised with making sure we have everything he needs when we go out. We are all good at something Smile

LittleMilkNoSugar · 30/03/2015 18:07

GlitzAndGigglesx my inlaws go on at me about it too. I have tried and I bloody hated it. I believe the world is a safer place without me cavorting around in charge of a dangerous (which it would be with me driving it) vehicle. But still, it's a pain in the arse not being able to do it.

LaPomme · 30/03/2015 18:17

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Hygellig · 30/03/2015 18:17

Another vote for the little Tupperware containers of fruit and veg snacks. If I remember Organix cheese puffs I am doing well.

geekymommy · 30/03/2015 18:20

Charlotte3333, I'm not so sure that Bosworth Field is a good place to take your boys to inspire them to good relationships with relatives... Wink

Is there anything to see there? If there is, I'd love to go there someday. I've always found the Wars of the Roses interesting.

confused79 · 30/03/2015 18:21

There's a mum I see at school pick up who is always so patient with her kids (she has a 4 year old and one under 1), and it's genuine patience if you know what I mean. Makes me feel a bit crap as I'm always so shouty and sometimes I don't find parenting that interesting Sad Lovely lady though.

PuttingouthefirewithGasoline · 30/03/2015 18:21

The ones who pull out beautiful tubs of food when on a picnic. No matter how hard I try, we end up with squashed sandwiches, burst juice cartons and fries/squashed fruit.

Yep this is always me!

cupcakesandapples · 30/03/2015 18:23

Pregnant mums with their 2nd/3rd/4th etc baby who look all neat and petite- i look like a whale! And the ones who stealth boast..."im 38 weeks and have gained 2lbs should i be worried?"

Haha not that im jealous or anything....

ElizabethHoover · 30/03/2015 18:29

...Use apostrophes correctly? Wink

carbcraver · 30/03/2015 18:29

We all sound so normal!

A lot of this rings true with me! I am a Tupperware lover though! And luckily smugly my DD's eat anything.

I find the school playground a wash of mums perfectly dressed, hair and make up done and there's me, lucky if I'm not in pjs or DP's clothes!!

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 30/03/2015 18:35

The ones who do arty crafty stuff with their children. I don't...