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To think this was an overreaction by new neighbours.

288 replies

DancingDays · 28/03/2015 16:55

House next to us has been empty for months. This afternoon I went to collect DDs from a party. When I went out the front door and I saw a removals van, couldnt see alot due to low sun in my eyes and didnt really want to look as they've all their belongings out. While loading DS into car, a man and woman appeared, I stuck my head over the car, said "Hi" they responded with a "Hi" and I drove off.

I return home and huddle DCS into the house as they are very nosey and ask 101 questions, I thought I would ease the new neighbours in gently once they have settled.

After a few minutes back home I hear a knock at the door, its the new neighbour. They have decided I am very rude to not welcome them and I have upset his wife. She's decided it's now a bad neighbourhood and wants to leave. Based on one 5 second interaction and 1/2 hour of me knowing they are there.

I explain I was busy collecting DCs and didnt want to disturb them while they are actually moving in.

He goes on and explains the only option is for me to go and apologise for my rudeness and go and get to know her. He said something along the lines of 'I expected more but that's the minimum acceptable'

He went to leave after my Hmm face and telling him I was busy with DCs but maybe I'll see them soon once things aren't so hectic for both of us. She then appeared at the door step, gave me a look of 'I'm waiting for an apology' then muttered "what's the point, she's left you on the doorstep" and stropped off back to their house.

I know moving is stressful but surely you don't confront your neighbours 'rudeness' within 1/2 hour of arrival.

OP posts:
isthatmorelego · 28/03/2015 21:13

That's a hi more than I've had in 13 mths . This is going to be a bumpy ride sorry.

ZombieHunter · 28/03/2015 21:14

Can we have a picture of the card please?

I'm so happy that DH is at work tomorrow and I can click refresh on this thread again and again and again Grin

SylvaniansAtEase · 28/03/2015 21:18

Yep, take round the card and comment 'I was going to get angry at the way you acted yesterday. But then I remembered how much people don't like me when I get angry so today I'm trying really hard for control. Control.'

Then smile like a LOON.

DartmoorDoughnut · 28/03/2015 21:18

OH dear Dancing they sound horrendous! Little Dancing is an utter genius though Grin

Pixel · 28/03/2015 21:21

The Watchtower idea sounds fun but is fraught with danger. What if they are already Jehovah's Witnesses? Wink

YoniMitchell · 28/03/2015 21:21

Ha ha! They sound totally loop the loop! I LOVE your DD's idea!

Opopanax · 28/03/2015 21:33

I would just like to say that your DD1 will go far, Dancing. She sounds utterly fantastic. I want to be her when I grow up.

Opopanax · 28/03/2015 21:33

Also, obviously, they are loons.

CycleChic · 29/03/2015 10:07

How did the card delivery go? Grin

can't believe that there hasn't been anyone else nosey about this since last night

TheFirstOfHerName · 29/03/2015 10:11

If he explained that She's decided it's now a bad neighbourhood and wants to leave.

I would have been tempted to reply "Yes, I think that would be for the best."

TheFirstOfHerName · 29/03/2015 10:17

OMG! I think I have just worked it out. They are bisexual swingers who are into menage and they were upset that you didn't give them the special "I'll be over as soon as DD is at school" handshake/wink.

Apologies if someone else has thought of this. I haven't RTFT.

CrystalCove · 29/03/2015 10:19

Good luck if you want a BBQ in the Summer!

Cariad007 · 29/03/2015 10:22

Blimey, I wonder what your neighbours would think of me? We moved last August and there's a couple who live upstairs. I met him for the first time last month and her I've never met though she had no problem telling Amazon to leave her deliveries with me!

giraffesNeedBigPoloNecks · 29/03/2015 10:23
Grin
LuluJakey1 · 29/03/2015 10:28

Ooh, I think you are in for a hard time there OP. Total sympathy. Nothing worse than bonkers neighbours.

I had one who was a drinker and aggressive and would walk up and down outside our front window in his dirty, once white but now very stained towelling dressing gown and flip flops muttering to himself and waving a bottle at us. Very scary. Landlord got rid of him and sold the house to someone nice thank Goodness.

Keep playing it cool and with any luck they will move.

Or put a pinny, smart dress and low heels on and bake a victoria sponge and take it round dressed like that to say welcome. (TBH that would scare me just as much as the man in the dressing gown).

Bet they don't like dogs or children either!

pictish · 29/03/2015 10:38

I agree that they might well turn out to be neighbours from hell.
That is some introduction! Fancy expecting an official welcome and a get-to-know-you session on the first day! Shock

And him coming over to tell you off and make you apologise to her!

And her turning up and stropping off again!!

Omg. Batten down the hatches.

TheAssassinsGuild · 29/03/2015 10:38

Oh Lordy....

I like the way your DD thinks Grin. You are clearly an excellent mother and must be very proud Grin.

UncleT · 29/03/2015 10:47

Wow. Just, wow. What a pair of total freaks!

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 29/03/2015 10:48

Oh dear, I'm afraid I would just ignore them from this point forward, clearly don't have kids do they - what a pair of twunts!!

pictish · 29/03/2015 10:56

I think you've had warning enough about how this pair operate. I think it likely there will be further nonsense.
Put your foot down now. Be polite but firm with them from the outset. Don't, for the sake of being nice, be persuaded into taking their shit on board. They sound awful, maintain a distance and make sure they understand you are not a pushover.

Very important!!

DisenchantedPony · 29/03/2015 11:00

What time is the card scheduled for delivery? Take all DCs and DDogs and invite yourselves in for their housewarming. So RUDE that you didn't get an invite.

DancingDays · 29/03/2015 11:04

DD has returned home after delivery.

DD pleaded with me to let her go alone. So with me in our doorway listening out, she made her way to neighbours.

Man opens the door and DD1 says she has something for wife. Wife comes to the door and DD1 hands her the card. She says not to open it yet, wait until she's gone.

Then says "I won't be long, just looking for my snail that's in your house"
Man "snail?!"
DD"Yes he went into your house the other day, when you were talking to mummy. I saw him go in" DD then makes her way in.

A few minutes later she returns. She's had them on hands and knees (while shes having a nosey round the house, no doubt) looking for a non-exsistent snail and made them promise to return him by tonight. 'Cause she can't sleep not knowing if he's ok.

So now they are having glitter/foil to deal with and a snail to source. I'm hoping they will be too preoccupied with that to moan about anything else.

I suppose she's created an icebreaker or forced them to avoid us because she will ask about snail everytime she sees them.

OP posts:
clam · 29/03/2015 11:06

Dancing, your dd is a legend! Grin

DisenchantedPony · 29/03/2015 11:08

I am crying real tears of laughter. The snail is a nice touch.

imjustahead · 29/03/2015 11:13

Dancing, that is fucking hilarious.

i love your dd. hahaha

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