teen fucking dramas!!

[Mintyy]

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

Highly alarmed (dds currently 6 and 3) ??

Steben Don't worry, there is life after teens . . . if you make it that far

Dd1 (15) is on a school trip. She hadn't been well with anxiety and depression so we had agreed she would text me frequently. At least every night before she went to bed.

Yesterday she texted at 11:30am then nothing. No bedtime text. I sent a couple.
Then this morning at 8:30 she sent a "God don't have a heart attack I just forgot about you"

Seriously she just forgot about her mother ?

I am of course delighted she having that much fun

She is home at 1:30am and I will kick her ass hug her to death then.

Mayz, I told lazy-arse DD to stop talking and get on with some work, and got 'I'm exercising my mouth. You keep telling me to get some exercise.'

There is fake tan all over the white bath suite.

I have approached dd 16 who looks like she has fallen asleep for 10 years on an Egyptian beach and been told to chill out.

Ugh what a morning she rolled out of bed at 5 to 8 she needs to leave at half past she bangs about the bathroom looking for something faff about getting ready dissappear s into her room to put shoes on hear her throw stuff about her room said your tie is in here cue shrieking that wake bats that she knew her tie was there THEN she switches the printer on and fannys about with her laptop . Whatya doing dd oh i need to print of my dissertation for English the whole thing

This thread makes me feel better!

Steben don't panic! they're not all bad.

Mine snuggled on the couch with me last night like she used to when she was little. She kept fidgeting and putting her cold feet on me, but you've got to take it where you can get it

Business as usual this morning though - huge fuss because she couldn't find her PE kit.

When I pointed out that
A) she doesn't have PE on a Friday and
B) it was in exactly the same place it always lives

I got "god mum, why do you have to make everything such a drama?".

Err......???
She did come back for a hug before she left the house though

DD is 17 and coming out of it now, but she was your classic "Shouty Teen".

THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP
Me - Stop stomping on the stairs please! (House rule, we have non carpeted wooden stairs so they are loud)
She - [looks at me with utter contempt at my lack of telepathic abilitly] I've. Lost. My. KEEEEEEEYYYYSSS!!!!
Me - [grits teeth] Have you checked the key hooks?
She - WHAT?! I put them in my bag and SOMEONE has taken them!
THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP
Me - STOP STOMPING!!!! And why would anyone do that? Check the key hook
She - (Screamed from the top of the stairs)They're not there, someone has been in my bag and taken them so that I am late for school
Me - No they didnt. Check the hooks
She - You always blame for EVERYTHING!!!
THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP
Me - Sigh.....
She - Fine! You dont care! You dont care if I am late and get excluded and fail my exams! You just dont care if....... [pause]......I've got my keys, I'm going.

Door slams so hard the foundations rock.

The keys were on the hook.

I wonder if there is a higher ratio of functioning alcholics amongst parents of teens.....

Oh yes definatly wine helps.

Oh my good god ! I've just knocked over a bottle of clinique lotion (which costs a fortune) over because she left the top off just why

Wine, gin, that gloopy stuff left over from Christmas, the whole drinks cabinet. I'll have the lot.

It's all so exhausting. The cajoling through GCSEs. The asking what's wrong a million times and dd clearly upset but it has to be dragged out of her. The emotion. The over thinking.

And the friendships. Gawd help us. One minute they're all kissy huggy, love my friends. Then within an hour it can all change because someone has been upset or offended over some infintessimal tiny thing that has been interpreted in the most bizarre way.

Not to mention the over complicated plans to go anywhere, days and days of discussion, me offering lifts, times, who will sit next to who in the car, then it all gets binned cos someone has got upset over some infintessimal detail. Aargh!!

Dd texted me last week at 9.30 on a Tuesday morning to say she had no money for lunch as ihad forgotten to put any in her purse! I am needed to drive to her school and leave some at reception for her!

I work full time.

Where do you start really?

mrsJ if course now drop everything and immediately go and buy her some more lotion or her life is over as her skin will implode,

Parents evening last night, year 9. DD1 had glowing reports from everyone, pleasure to teach, on course for great GCSE results, always pleasant and friendly, several teachers begging her to choose their subject as an option ..... I was beaming and walking round the hall in a smug fog.

.... then we met DD2's teachers. Oh dear. Rarely hands in any homework, often late for class, chewing gum, talking constantly to friends, doing bare minimum in class, rarely knows what is going on when asked a question, unlikely to achieve very much at GCSE unless she changes her attitude. Was she upset or concerned about this ... nope she sat there, flicking her hair, rolling her eyes, with a defiant, bored face on. Very embarrassing, felt ashamed of her. In the car on the way home "Every one of those teachers HATE ME". Nothing to do with her attitude, they just hate her and pick on her apparently, not her fault of course .

I only bought it on Tuesday I don't use bloody clinique . Oh and yes the arrangements get on my wick too it's just the pictures Ffs not an Artic expedition

Yes YES to tops being left off things. Often my things.

And empty packets left in the cupboards. No one ever throws anything in the bin.

Oh god, yes to tops being left off things.

I once trod on a newish tube of foundation that she had left on her pit of a bedroom floor with the top off. It squirted all up her bedroom wall.

And yes to arrangements. Negotiations for the walk to school seem to be on par with solving the Middle East peace crisis.

Underwear screwed up and shoved down the side of her bed, then huge fuss when she's run out of clean bras

She has this smirk as well, I'll be bollocking her and she'll pull the smirk. Aaaarrrgggghhhh!

Constant arguments with friends, one her friends usually knocks for her in the morning, she didn't yesterday so I asked where she was "god mum, she's such a cow". This morning said friend appears and they're all friends again. Happens at least once a week.

She used to be so laid back and relatively drama free.

The worst bit about all this is I also have a 9 year old DD, so just as DD1 is coming out of this phase, her younger sister will just be entering it. God help me!

I once had a bit of a hissy fit about her putting empty milk bottles back in the fridge.

So she now puts them back with about half a teaspoon worth left in the bottle.

Oh the SMIRK! I forgot about that!!

How fecking infuriating is that!! How I haven't slapped her face I don't know.

Also the humming whilst I'm giving her a bollocking .

I've been meaning to ask this question on mumsnet before .... is this sort of behaviour mainly aimed at mothers. DH seems to escape all this attitude, or most of it anyway.

Looking through dds school bag to find my hairspray and it has in it perfume, deoderent, body spray, Hollister room spray huge makeup bag, mirror, tweezers and eye lash curler. Absolutely no books!

The arrangements,

Me ' I am out tonight so if you need a lift you must let me know your arrangements'

Dd, 'I don't know yet, tell you later'

Five minutes before I am ready to leave she comes out of her room dressed for a hot summer evening in the med and says 'right are you ready to go??'