teen fucking dramas!!

[Mintyy]

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

We are moving house soon and the bedroom is giving me nightmares it's a tip dunno how i am going to face it

I have one too. It's like a switch was flicked on her 13th birthday.

I find the whole thing baffling.

She'll swing from wanting a hug to being unbelievably vile, back to wanting a hug in 20 seconds flat.

I switch off during the "she said/so I turned around and said/then she said" monologues, I have no idea what she's on about half the time. She always starts up in the middle of Sewing Bee or something then gets huffy when I pause the telly.

I agreed with her over something the other day so she had to change her whole stance

My mum thinks the whole thing is hilarious, I was a bloody nightmare so she sees it as my richly deserved comeuppance

Then once a month we get the PMT rage for about 2 days She's totally irrational and unreasonable and we all take cover.

And what is it with coats?

It's bloody freezing and pissing with rain here today. Will she wear a coat?

If we're out as a family she'll put one on, but if we see a friend or something when we're out the coat comes straight off

I have a 13 yo DD who has me mainlining Rescue Remedy, she wears so much black eye makeup its like living with a petulant panda.

The 17 yo wasnt too bad. She had terrible MH problems from ages 11-12 but was a joy.

Now we appear to be an embarrassment to her. When the second Hunger Games film came out DH took her over to meet her friend to see it. Dh stayed because he wanted to see it too.
He passed DD at the sweet counter and she totally blanked him while her friend said hello to him

DD is 12 but been a hormonal wench for 2 and a half years
She came out with a cracker last night
DD"my shoulders are killing me"
Me "why?"
DD "because of the massive weight I have to carry on them"
There were tears last night because zayn left one direction
Me and DS 9 started making songs up while she was eating her tea, it wasn't a smart move really I just couldn't help it
She actually asked me for a bereavement day today..........errrrrrm no

Cocolepew!! I was stunned when I bumped into DS2 (15) and his friends when out one day - he actually said 'hello'!!! I was assuming the invisible mother position like I had to with DS1.

And what is it with coats?

Both my 16 yo and 14yo boys went to school in coats today (and, indeed, every day where a coat is necessary)

[smug]

I will ignore the rest of the shite they dish out.

Beloved72 - I'm currently trying to help a friend of mine with a DD who sounds very similar to yours. Heartbreaking and I now understand what you mean about the fallout for the rest of the family. i'm just praying that all these kids grow up a bit in the next few months and sort themselves out, although I realise it's not as simple as that.

I got blanked by DD when I bumped into her in town a couple of weeks ago too.

She was with her best friend, who we have known for years - who had stayed the previous night at our house and I had dropped them both off in town about 10 minutes beforehand and I would be giving them both a lift back when they'd finished parting with their pocket money in Superdrug

I nearly told the ungrateful little madam she could get the bloody bus back

Ahh coats. I remember one winter the snow was so bad the buses couldn't get through so I had to walk home from school, many miles. The entire grim freezing walk I had my coat unbuttoned so that it flapped behind me (in the blizzard) like a bat and I thought I looked cool.

Beloved - I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. It must be horrendous.

My eldest is 16 and we have had problems with her - not like your DD but with the fall out of bullying etc. I watched my daughter crumble. Hopefully the worst of it has passed now but it horrendous at times. I would lie awake crying at night not knowing what to do next and where to turn for help and support.

I am not comparing the worry or stress to yours,it must be horrendous. Although I can joke on here about DD2, what happened to DD1 has made me very over anxious about the teenage years ahead. I worry so much about DD2 about they way she feels and the way she treats others. I often seem to be stressing about stuff other mums of teens seem not to.

I sincerely hope your situation will improve as the teenage years pass and you can start to rebuild a better future and relationship soon.

swazza I know exactly how you feel. It is horrible when you feel that your child is a social outcast. DD has taken to self harming and is on the CAMHS waiting list.

I heard mine looking for her keys this morning, which I had tidied into the key drawer.

I called her name and was going to tell her where they were until she shrieked back 'don't talk to me!!'.

I cannot wait for her to go to UNI.

I'm of the opinion this is an evolutionary tactic to encourage us to chuck them out of the nest.

The odd thing is that everyone on MN was a perfect teenager!

I was a perfect teenager apart from one hissy fit. My older brothers OTOH...! Same genes, same parenting, completely different result :)

I'm of the opinion this is an evolutionary tactic to encourage us to chuck them out of the nest.

In the wild, they would be long gone by now!

Dd has just rang me to say she's forgotten her activity week forms, I repeat, SHE has forgotten them.
She demanded that I drop them in to school and that I text her friends mum and ask what choices she has out before I fill in her form.
She then got annoyed when I dared to suggest that I was fairly busy as packing to go away tmw so I hung up.
She then text me instructions.
I have had a row wih dh about my temper now. We never argue but he has a fair point, teens can just make you furious.

Ahhh teenagers. There should be an Attenborough series on them.

What gets me are the petty lies? Why the he'll tell lies about stuff that doesn't actually matter
I agree about the lack of coats. I'm also driven insane by the trailing shoe laces, shuffling feet along pavements, not brushing teeth. I could go on...
Teenagers are so bloody secret active too! My 13 yet old has managed to watch 4 episodes of Breaking Bad without me ever realising. I thought I knew pretty much everything about him. Apparently not

Not 4 episodes of Breaking Bad! 4 bloody series! That's hours and hours of watching it and I didn't realise a thing!!!

Out the other side with the older ones now delicious 20s.

Girls are now teens. Dd 15 has spilled so much makeup on her carpet it's vile. He reply to my structures.. Well it's your fault you didn't get me a makeup mat. WTAF.

Dd 16, I am now officially embarrassingly stupid as she 'helping' me with my phone and barked something about a back up cloud? I looked out of the window.

I have them special towels just for use when dyeing hair!! all my fucking white towels are now red because the other towels with dye on are mingy.

Yes coats and boys!! In the snow and minus 4 they don't wear them. Er why? Why?

And if I hear about dds friends mothers successful diet anymore And her 'enormous new kitchen and why can't we have a new kitchen?' I won't be answerable for my actions.