teen fucking dramas!!

[Mintyy]

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

YY to the "teenage DD monologue". usually starts with "oh my god right" recounts an endless tale of "he said/then she said/then I said/then he said" and ends up "I know, right" usually it is about a trivial event eg someone falling over on the bus yet the recounting of it can last twenty minutes and have more drama than Casualty.

Dh leaves for work at 4.30am and gets home at the same time as the Dc. Yesterday dd recounted a tale, starting from the garden gate, sitting in the lounge while he listened patiently, outside our bedroom door as he got changed for a shower and finished the recounting from outside the bathroom door. When I gave him a sympathetic look he said "at least she talks to us".

I love it when parents without teenagers give advice on teenage issues threads, along the the lines of "mine will never be allowed to do that" . One of my DDs went to school yesterday in minus temperatures with bare legs, and I know she got a can of fizzy drink on the way. I judged myself.

Sorry to those with serious issues though. Some of mine have sn so I find the "normal" awful teenage behaviour quite reassuring and at least the majority of others parents can empathise. But it can be a bit like other parents worrying about a "good" rather than "outstanding" report when you are battling the lea for transport to a special school outside the borough.

We should definitely have a badge for surviving bringing up our Dc, no matter what age. It's the hardest thing I've ever done. I see teenage behaviour as a reward sometimes, it can make me laugh!

Salmotrutta Wed 25-Mar-15 22:50:20

But have you been told yet that everyone else is going should you dare to refuse to allow them to go somewhere?

ok try this ....... well if everyone else is going I'll come too.

Trouble is you have to mean it, although you only have to actually do it once!

I had to sit with mine (DD14) in "the conference room" - my bedroom - for 2 hours at bedtime last night listening to a never ending saga about how everybody dumps their troubles on her shoulders but when she has troubles they just change the subject back to their own problems... 2 HOURS.....

I stupidly asked what troubles she had... to get the reply shouted at me "NONE - but that is sooooooo not the point, haven't you been listening."

ermmmmm yes - for 2 hours... of circular crap to find you don't actually have any troubles anyhow...

I was ok as a teen, but I was the outcast. Uni / leaving school was the making of me so there is light at the end of the tunnel. I think my most ridiculous argument with my parents was when I was clearly really ill (I was green) and it was snowing, so cold, and my school was COLD but I insisted on going in because I didn't want to miss the day (massive geek here). I made it all the way to school (journey over an hour) only to fall asleep in our librarians office and be sent home. I was so grey (and then spent a week in bed) my parents didn't even say I told you so.

Ah the joys.

Do you want breakfast? "Oh fgs mum! You know I don't eat breakfast, I hate you" slams door.

Huh???

God, mine just got home

DD - can I have some icecream?
Me - we haven't got any, I made some cookies (please note, that DD would usually sell her soul for these cookies, I even timed them to come out of the oven and still be warm when she got home)
DD - oh for gods sake, you're so tight. We never have anything nice in this house

Me -

DD2 and I are now polishing off the cookies

nonetcurtains - thankfully mine are all grown up now!!

And are actually quite nice now!

DS is 7. I am actually scared reading this. And it's such a lottery. Will he be an angelic teen like me preens or hell on legs like DH? If DS is anything like DH was he'll be drinking meths around a camp fire while being encouraged to do so by his Scout Leader, smoking, and getting drunk on apple schnapps aged 14. DH is nice and normal now btw.

DS was absolutely no trouble as a teen, never had a problem with attitude or anything else,...DD though,...turned from sweet, considerate angel into devil child and would even leave me notes to say she hated me.
It didn't bother me at all and made no difference to the rules and boundaries,... so perhaps she was right to hate me

Yesterday morning, school run, teen1 (14) in passenger seat, teen2 (13) at the back.

Teen1 suddenly notices the driver of the car in front of us is the school's receptionist.

Cue total drama about how apparently this is 'massively awkward' and 'embarrassing', with them trying to duck under their seats. And of course I brought this all on on purpose because I'm such a horrible person. :D

Light at the end of the tunnel moment.....I found out today that I now need bifocals as my vision is getting old. I feel very decrepit. Came home and told dd. She started to make a joke about me being old but I welled up (I didn't take the news well) and she gave the biggest longest hug. Almost made it worth it.

The minute ds1 (13) grew taller than me he started to call me 'hobbit'

Salmotrutta
yes mine too, but we do laugh about my outing to Ozfest at Donnington Park with a car full of 14-15 year olds!

I was a perfect teenager apart from one hissy fit.

Of course you were, Owl, and the yeti shall lie down with the unicorn and Elvis shall lead them!

It's the lethargy that amazes me. I remember the days whenDs2 would run, climb, jump all day long. Never wanted to come off the swings, up at the crack of dawn, arts and crafts and projects on the go.

He is now the sloth to end all sloths and prefers to live his life in or on his bed.

My teen is an absolute darling and treasure. Hardworking, polite, good-humoured. Gets excellent school reports, has two voluntary jobs and a circle of delightful and supportive friends. She tidies, she does laundry, she cooks for the family. I have had no problems with her at all.

I put it all down to my excellent parenting.

Until now...

DD2 is not even yet a teen and I am going grey rapidly. How can a reminder to put your PE kit out for the next day turn into a two hour stand off? Even my utterly laid back DH called her unreasonable and blocked Sky.

It's odd though, my mum and elder sister (by 7 years) say I was a terrible teen and I get I was completely horrid sometimes, but I do remind them that I never bunked off school, only drank to sickness once (and got caught!!) , no drugs, no pregnancies scares etc etc. I never ever even snuck out of the bloody house.
But apparently I was awful!!

Ds is 15 and is alright. Had a drama with the stalky girl, but that wasn't his fault. Doesn't wear a coat though. Ever.

Twin girls. 12. They make me cry.

I'm not quite sure if it's worse when they hate each other (had a curtain stapled to the ceiling in their room last week because DD1 didn't want DD2 to see her stuff) or when they are in rolling-eye-cahoots.

My teen hasn't worn a coat since she was 11. Even when we lived in Scotland and had snow six months of the year, when dd 2 and I were taking an hour to put on our 23 layers of clothing, dd 1 would swan out wearing a hoodie.

me to teen dd clean up the floor please dd to me "starfish" followed by limp flopping on sofa hmmm my logical response = starfishes clean the ocean my carpet is blue therefore it is the ocean CLEAN MY OCEAN!!! she actually did it

My niece has been horrendous since yesterday, zayn has left 1 direction and omg the moods.

DD2 "hey mum I've been picked at school to be in the chorus of an opera- professional job in Central London. I'm so excited."
Music teacher: "Dear Mrs Spud, please can you chaperone at the opera for three nights of the run"
Me: "yes of course, no problem"
Me to DD2: I'm helping for three nights"
DD2 : " I'm not doing it. You're too embarrassing. I don't want anyone to know you're my mum"

Sigh.

Two DDS in their 20s now, so two survival badges for me.
DS is 13 and so far not too bad.......