To wonder why EatShitDerek aka FuckitBucket has been banned?

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I'm allowed to call her that

My irony detector just went off.

(The above was not connected to Zing's most recent post.)

Annie

I was wondering!

Uppity fucker...why was someone called an uppity fucker? I'd laugh if someone called me that...such a lazy personal attack.

That was fast Zing!

I don't use a phone for Mumsnetting, so I would actively have to log into my email to check on the off chance that HQ might have sent me a warning for something.

Rebecca said... We have temporarily suspended her account for personally attacking several times on the same thread in a short space of time when we have sent previous warnings about similar behaviours.

If it was in a short space of time, she might not have seen the emails.

Whereas if her inbox lit up, she probably would have and then heeded the warning.

It's how lots of forum moderators do it.

uppity fuck

Fair enough Mnhq. wonders what we can call the goadsters

Glad its only temporary. See you soon ESD

Zing I think 'words on a page' is actually quite helpful. Far too many people seem to get over invested in forums & their internet life and seem to believe that people are exactly what/who they purport to be when posting.

I could be a hairy handed 21 year old trucker for all you really know about me. I can't see that it does any harm to remind people of that.

Worra would you like to, or could I quote your post about emails on a thread in site stuff, where this point might then get answered or at least get some clarification?

I think PMs would be much better for warnings and can't see why they aren't used.

Zing - re attitude. I do understand what you're getting at but I think that some people can and do interpret having a different opinion and standing by it as being goady. It may seem like you're not listening/being dismissive but if you genuinely don't agree with them and aren't going to change your position simply because they think you should then it can come across as you having a 'bad attitude' from their pov.

It has been a bit quiet on the healthy debate front round here lately, or maybe I just haven't spotted them.

I started a thread recently to discuss the merits of various beds for 6yo dds new bedroom. Got told I should be asking her rather than discussing it with randoms! That upset me more than it should I have to admit.

I do hope Derek gets de-banned soon. I like to read her posts, even if I sometimes disagree with her - I come to Mumsnet for a range of opinions, not to stay in a precious snowflake corner.

Don't let yourself be provoked and get banned, because then the buggers have won their nasty game.

We all know Mumsnet's rules:

• Criticise the views expressed, not the person

• If anyone finds a GF, or suspects a troll or sockpuppet, do NOT post about it, just report, so THEY get deleted / banned.

Yes, MN Towers are slow sometimes, but allow them time to pass around the gin bottle, scratch their behinds etc like we all need on a busy day.

but bumbley you can agree to disagree and move on just as me and psip have done over a certain opinion.
no harm in saying ok fair enough thats your thoughts, these are mine I don't think we are going to come to an agreement so lets move on.
derek tried to do that but the other poster would not leave it be.

Go for it magimedi

Even at Christmas when Sandy was doing the secret santa, she was panicking that quite a few people who were chosen, hadn't answered their emails.

I pointed out that HQ used to PM them and so that's what she ended up doing.

It proved a much more direct way.

I used to start a lot of threads. Not so much anymore, it's not worth the bother. There's no such thing as healthy debate on here.

I wish we could have MN Lite and MNTerriblySerious. I have so many topics hidden if I hide any more I may as well dereg.

magi

noooo. no hairy hands! don't give me nightmares!
I see what you mean, but it's just such a cold, uncaring, PA phrase to me.

bumble

true, but having difference of opinions changing into "are you on crack? you are not fit to be a mother" etc surely is not ok. no swear words, but syrupy toxin.
disgusting

I agree about the pm thing, even if there's a reason they have to communicate warnings by email, a 'mumsent calling' pm would be ideal in addition really.

Also if you had been warned before you can look back on your pms, so when MNHQ tell you 'we have warned you several times before about your robust style of posting'

you can say,

'no you haven't you fuckers, you've told me ONCE'

PMs would be much, much better than e-mails.

YY to Sparklingbrook

Laughs or just pleasant, supportive chatter seem a bit thin at the moment.

Glad ESD will be back (hopefully). When you spend a lot of time on MN then surely you get invested in it. I remember being outraged when some twat started a fight in my local pub because it was 'ours'. We all waded in to stop it rather than hiding under a table.

Of course fatty. You can get caught up in answering lots of questions/trying to explain/defend your position though. Particularly if you're expressing a minority opinion and most of the questions/criticisms are directed at that opinion. They don't stop expressing their opinion - why should you step back from yours?

I didn't see the Derek thread after it kicked off.

and to show strength of character magi I will now feed kids instead of posting.
although virtual live stock needs feeding too. what to do? decisions decisions....

Dino... although PMs aren't on the system forever, unlike e-mails, so there may not be much of a reference point if you're not always getting them.