To wonder why EatShitDerek aka FuckitBucket has been banned?

[Arsenic]

Oh . At least it's not permanent. Is she ok now, Arsenic?

I've now got incredibly worried about stuff I may have posted in the past
that may have offended people due to misinterpretation. In fact I'm pretty sure that I had a (completely minor) discussion/disagreement with sliceofsoup recently under my regular name. Although if I told you to to calm down you're perfectly within your rights to punch me in the face, metaphorical like. Saying that is pretty patronising in RL and on here.

ScrambledSmegs

(Who is off to work out how to namechange back on this stupid fucking phone)

It will be a short suspension, ESD says sorry and gets let back.
A week at most.

Warnings to PM would be a good idea. Automatic email in the case of suspension along the lines of 'Your posts on X thread contravene Talk Guidelines. Please contact us to discuss this'.

I hope she's back soon. She's one of my favourite posters, and I really wish I knew her in real life coz I reckon she'd be awesome to have as a friend.

It's a bit like saying 'you wound me up so much I had to hit you in the head'.

Well, no, its not. Goady posters cannot expect to just get away with the shit they post, but too often on here, they do.

If you are equating words on a screen with physical violence, or you actually feel attacked and that carries on into your daily life, then there is an issue there. This is a forum on the internet. There are all sorts of people posting on the internet, and it needs to be taken with a huge pinch of salt. Everything does. Its not nice to be attacked on here, or wrongly accused, or patronized. But you can't take it personal. Report it. ESD went too far and she has been suspended.

When one is called a goady fucker or whatever, it is probably advisable to ask oneself if one has been acting in a way that warrants that description.

I was on the bunfight thread last night. she got deleted repeatedly.
I can't say I blame her, bloody wind up merchant was getting on my nerves too

Nail/Scrambled I don't recognize either of those user names, are you sure it was me?

Even if it was, what happens on a thread stays on a thread. This place would be drab as fuck if we all agreed. :)

and mine!
don't think it's fair for her to be banned. the goady fucker other poster was being deliberately difficult.

I can't speak for anyone else but when I came in it was already well underway.

Worra - I completely agree about using PM for warnings instead of emailing. An old email address is hooked up to my MN account and I rarely check it.

NailIt/Scrambled, the thread I'm thinking of dealt with a sensitive matter and the poster in question was disagreed with by practically everyone, but for some reason they kept addressing all the replies to slice. If that sounds like you, then take the punching like a good patronising git poster, but I think your face is safe enough. For a start you wouldn't worry about causing offence if you were that poster.

Unwittingly causing offence (or on a couple of occasions perhaps wittingly, due to getting a little overexcited ) is something that could happen to anyone so I wouldn't worry too much if I were you. I would worry too much if I were me, because worrying is what I do.

I now want to use 'the word twat was created for people like you'

I think that shunning of goady fuckers would be effective. Imagine, no audience for their nonsense. They'd either mend their posting ways or leave.

I don't think that thread, that ran into 15+pages, could be described as minor, so I don't think its that one. :o

Trying to rack my brains. But can't think. I was called a terminator on a forum in the last month, but I can't even remember if that was on here or elsewhere. It just made me laugh.

I can be stubborn. :o

easy to say "ignore & walk away"
not easy to do. not when people deliberately dig at you and accuse you of very nasty things.
of course you will get het up and end up loosing control (exhibit A : AnyFuckergate)

these bloody goady fuckers are counting on it. not sure if there's an agenda, but it's not the first time this happened

fatty

danger alert! look away now! do not get pulled in again, do not answer.

just look in my eyes, the eyes, only the eyes and you're calm

ignore ignore ignore

I know, Zing, I hit 'post' too soon. I get caught up in things that usually trolly and goady beyond sensible comprehension. I wish I could take my own advice because I know it would work. I also wish there was some kind of international sign that could be used to warn the denser amongst us with myself being most lead-like.

I remember AF-gate. Horrid.

Who sits there with 2 tabs open, constantly checking their email?

I agree I'm in my phone and but the old email address I use is not my main one linked to it. I check old email maybe once every two weeks, then it just pages and pages of 'someone posted on a thread you are watching' or something a pm on here is the best idea.

Zing - I think sometimes perceived 'goadiness' depends on which 'side' of the debate you're on. If the 'goady' person shares the same opinion as you, you are less likely to call them out on it.

I don't even use my email I signed up with anymore

[untouchable]

Oh, God no it wasn't 15 pages (don't do pages, but even so it was short) ! I think it was something on In the news, about police shooting a homeless man in the US. To be honest I wasn't heavily invested in it at all because y'know, life and all that, but I know how it can look like you've got really strong opinions on something when actually you're just enjoying a debate and clarifying your opinion in the process. And I'm pretty sure that there were other posters on both sides of the argument too. It wasn't just us having a ding-dong

I'll join you on the worrying-too-much bench though Annie, because that's how I roll.

So what happens to the goader in cases like this?

my rule of thumb - PA behaviour tends to be goady

clear as sky "fuck you" is not nice but honest. That's my side, that's my peeps

While agreeing that there are some GFs about I see the term bandied around on some threads where people just disagree.

It isn't being goady to disagree with what another poster says. I see people being accused of it sometimes with absolutely no cause other than someone else doesn't like what they've posted.

Didn't see he thread being spoken of here but felt I had to say that there are far too many accusations of goading in general, imo.

well I was on it.
it was classic goading