To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

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They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

The supper thing probably 2 hours after bed time is weird. I don't care what the sample menu is. I still thank god you weren't my mother. I might be "rude" but you're potentially giving your kids issues. Well done you.

Sunshine if you are ...of course eager to avoid food issues... I would do a bit of reading about what affects people's attitudes to food. I feel that being quite restricted or controlled as a child with regard to food may affect later view to food. I may be wrong.

It is not just what you give them but when you do not allow and the messages that go with food. I am a great fan of fruit and yoghurt but I feel your thinking about breakfast is not very healthy generally.I am not sure how old your kids are and mine do not get a massive choice for breakfast so I am not being critical of the actual fruit and yog thing but of the lack of variety. Food is a hugely difficult area for so many people.

I am no expert and so please do not feel I am being negative. If you wish to read something this is quite interesting, interesting for me too! I am guilty of trying to get my son to eat veg, something new for me as my dd loves it but ds does not!

edis.ifas.ufl.edu/fy1059

The bit I felt was relevant here was...

Restricting Access to Food

"You can't have any more or you'll get fat."

"That food is off limits; it's not good for you."

Research shows that for some families, restricting access to certain foods can actually lead to greater problems with weight. Some researchers found that when parents restrict access to certain foods or try to control the amount of food that the child eats, the child may actually eat more of that food when it is made available (Rhee, 2008; Savage, et al., 2007). This is particularly true for children who are already at risk for becoming overweight. Although it is common for parents to restrict food or control food portions as a way to encourage health among their children, it can result in unhealthy food habits.

That does not mean I give my kids unlimited whatever and of course we all have to restrict some things but I think giving them more choice would be better and accepting your dislike or breakfast is your issue and as an adult in almost any job you would probably have more access to food later in the day where as children at school (if yours are) will not. By that I mean many of us wil have a chance to eat carbs or protein at break time later in the morning but for some kids at school they will only be offered fruit or veg at break time.

Anyway, just my views.

Are you cerealophobic OP?

You do realise that fish eat cereal don't you? So you're all getting it second hand.

I'm not shoving food into them, it's just how I structure meal times at present.

I'm surprised I've taken such a kicking on here - perhaps have got too accustomed to seeing some of DC1's school friends having a packet of salt n vinegar crisps and Milky Way for breakfast! - but I promise their eating is important to me and if it was verbalised (in Dc1's case) or shrieked (for DC2!) I would certainly give them more - it's just been rather 'if it ain't broke ...'

Incidentally it isn't a windup. I have name changed twice recently due to some odd behaviour of other posters, no one who has posted on this thread to my knowledge.

The issues are there because you're "overthinking" it all. Eating should be natural. You've trained them not to eat at breakfast. For no other reason that YOU don't like it.

I don't get the 'straight out of bed FOOD' thing. My kids wake up, play/ read, get dressed and then have breakfast half an hour to an hour later. They don't eat much - ds will have yoghurt with muesli and dd a slice of toast and milk or a sugar free cereal. They don't shovel it down and eat a normal child's portion.

I don't get where the greed is and how that is making them then eat too much in a day?

If your dd (under 5?) is finishing that lunch off then she must be hungry as that is quite a lot.

What does your dh have for breakfast?

Hilarious

I can't eat as soon as I get up either. Not can DS. So I have breakfast but after I drop DS to school. He has one Weetabix with milk and sugar as its all he can face. So I kind of see where op is coming from but do feel she is projecting her dislike/aversion to breakfast onto her DCs.

Your children may well need or want more breakfast than you do. Fruit and yoghurt sounds healthy but needs something with it to make it more satisfying. You don't need to do eggs. But porridge, or granola with the fruit and yoghurt or a bagel with Philadelphia and a banana would satisfy for longer.

Other posters are odd? How curious.

You are proper scary, OP

so your mother tells you breakfast is greedy - this gives you an issue with food which is not healthy. You are now passing this issue on to your own DC - which is also not healthy.

I have not said those things to my children Italian - apologies but I am confused as to the relevance of statements I have not made, and nor would I.

As has just been pointed out the OP has rather fucked it all up by admitting giving the poor kids omelette in the evening. Which is odd because eggs make her gag and retch and they make the kids stink all day. Or something. There's certainly a whiff about this thread. Think it might be fish.

Other 'food straight out of bed' thing is weird. They need to food then to fuel the activity of the morning ahead, not to retrospectively fuel the half hour since they got out if bed.

No cherry, that has not been said.

I said that possibly my mother had said something which possibly made me view breakfast as greedy/excessive/surplus.

Possibly

Given that's twice I have been misquoted - if you do not mind I shall not engage further as I am familiar enough with aibu to know I could spend the night saying 'no, what I said was ...'

It just seems that you are revolted by breakfast so you don't really care if your kids need it or not. When I was pregnant I had hyperemesis and opening our fridge made me puke. Just thinking about milk could set me off. I still made sure I gave my 3yo breakfast if my husband had gone to work before we were up. You could make granola, muesli or breakfast bars in advance. You could put fridge porridge in the night before. You could do smoothies with nuts and oats. Would you really think your kids were greedy for having something like that? It seems so strange that you can't imagine that other people could 've hungry in the morning just because you're not and even weirder to ascribe some sort of moral judgment to it.

Far - in the morning.

Mornkng sixkness?

If a child has had a decent breakfast and will have a decent dinner in the evening, just a sandwich and a piece of fruit should be fine midday

Completely disagree with this. My dc are 7 and 4. They both eat a decent breal fast at 7.45am...but by 12.30 they're ready for more than just a sandwich and fruit. For a typical lunch they eat a sandwich, a decent sized tub of salad sticks, a small yoghurt, a few slices of Brie, grapes and a treat (cake/biscuit/mini cheddars).

Ds1 world be horrified at just a sandwich and apple!

Or even morning sickness

Is this an Archers plot?

Your dc have morning sickness?

Nowt wrong with fruit (only fresh fruit, mind!) and yoghurt for breakfast. Everything wrong with your weird attitude to food.

A large portion of full fat Greek yoghurt with a piece of fruit might be suitable as a breakfast per se, but your attitude and relationship to food just seems bizarre to me. You say you're surprised you've taken such a kicking, can you really not see that people are concerned about you and what your posts seem to indicate? It's very very odd to be honest.

Sunshine I am sorry if you are having a hard time. I do not want to add to it. I think lots of kids do eat lots of unhealthy food. It is a balance that is needed. But you must have wanted to explore this to have posted so please ignore any rude comments and just evaluate in the light of sound nutritional research and appropriate info on how children develop their own ability to eat healthily, that is the goal.

Are you thinking of Helen, Julia?