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To cringe at these football mums?

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DozyDonut · 22/03/2015 15:42

Ok, so I watched DS play footy this morning. I very rarely go as I work most Sundays.

Anyway, I was shocked by all alot of the mums watching. They are like a load of fish wives, shouting abuse and cackling. Shouting at the poor ref and the boys. These boys are all 17 & 18 so can be very 'vocal' but omg, those mums I was inwardly cringing at what came out of their mouths!

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DozyDonut · 23/03/2015 16:28

richthegreat you may be right! you may not

My DS had no interest in footy until the age of 10, he has now been playing for 7 long years

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 23/03/2015 17:05

They'll be far too busy racing go carts to bother about the boring shite that is football.

Each to their own and all that but you'd actually stop them playing football even if that was what they wanted to do?

richthegreatcornholio · 23/03/2015 17:57

Each to their own and all that but you'd actually stop them playing football even if that was what they wanted to do?

I most certainly would. It's game for yobs and thugs.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 23/03/2015 18:34

I most certainly would. It's game for yobs and thugs

Generalisation at it's worst ^ my sons are neither yobs or thugs, none of the boys they play along side are and I'm guessing plenty of others here would agree about their own children.

What a ridiculous statement you've made.

ScotsWhaHae · 23/03/2015 18:34

And there we have it! Didn't take long for the snobbery to break through.

ScotsWhaHae · 23/03/2015 18:36

I grew up around motor sports, still enjoy rally, moto x and off roading. It aint so clean I'll tell you that!

BackforGood · 23/03/2015 19:12

What Still said.
You are showing your own ignorance and bigotry with statements like that richthe

It is pretty offensive, tbh to the hundreds of thousands of people that enjoy playing the game week in, week out, without any problems.

ForalltheSaints · 23/03/2015 19:21

It's not just the mums- did you see the Prime Minister this evening on the BBC News?

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DozyDonut · 23/03/2015 19:22

rich the boys that play are not yobs and thugs Thankyou very much. Infact my DS and a few of the other boys play cricket for their county.......it's the parents that act like thugs IMO

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 23/03/2015 19:31

There are always 'those' who are happy to stick their noses up at football whilst admitting they would 'never' let their child play yet know nothing of the actual game and the satisfaction it brings.

dementedma · 23/03/2015 20:26

Ds isn't remotely sporty so dont have to do the touchline thing
However dd2 danced competitively.. .lord, was I glad when she gave that up! The bitching was horrendous and little girls reduced to tears because they had got their steps wrong!
Just horrible!

AGirlCalledBoB · 23/03/2015 20:43

My 18 month old loves to kick a ball around. Better start discouraging him now, wouldn't want to turn him into a thug now would I

What a weird viewpoint. My dad, my oh, my uncles, all my male cousins love football and none of them are thugs. It's just a sport like all the others

SanityClause · 24/03/2015 22:28

Racing gocarts? I hope you really are rich!

TantrumsAndBalloons · 25/03/2015 07:26

Yobs and thugs.

Ok then. I'll pass that on to ds1. He is 16, he's played football since he was 5.
He, alongside a lot of his team are fitting football around gcse revision and their DofE at the moment.
He is hoping to join the college programme where he will study 4 Alevels alongside full time football training.
But yeah. Thug. For sure.

Also, he plays at u18 andu21 level. There are always parents supporting the players. I did ask ds1 when he started playing with the u18/21 at age 15 if he would prefer it if me or DH dropped him off rather than stand on the sidelines watching. He was horrified :)
He said- why would you stop watching me? You have been to every game since I was 6

Sickoffrozen · 25/03/2015 08:06

17/18 and parents still go to watch? And even worse, mums? I can understand when they are under ten but 17/18? They are men not kids. I could see the odd bloke being interested if he had nothing to do but surely there are better ways of spending a weekend than this.

Just shows how pampered kids are now and how parents won't let go. When I was younger, my brother used to play football. Me and my young mates used to go to eye up the talent and if there were more than the odd bloke there watching it was unusual, certainly not loads of mums!

I couldn't think of anything worse.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 25/03/2015 08:13

sickoffrozen I've been watching my D's play football since he was 6.
He likes us to go and watch.

Why would it be worse that mums go? Dads are ok then?

Like I said, there's always a crowd of supporters at u18 and u21 matches. Why would you not support your child? Because I am a mum?

bigTillyMint · 25/03/2015 08:37

Sickof, and rich you clearly have not got a DS who plays footy to a highish level. Not that you'd want them to anyway.

BumblingBoris · 25/03/2015 13:41

sickof how do you explain the 1000's of people who watch their team every week, paying £'SSS for season tickets. Men, women and children all watching the game they love,
How is that different than mums and dads watching their 17/18 year olds ?
My DS hates it if me or his dad can't make the match, recently his GF has been watching too, and there are plenty of grandparents that go along too,
I just don't understand your logic

BackforGood · 25/03/2015 16:23

What an odd post sickof.
Hundreds of thousands of people go and watch football week in, week out, and yup, we are in the 21st century...women are allowed to enjoy watching sport you know. Why wouldn't they watch the team they happen to know someone who is playing for ?

No-one (who thinks parents shouldn't be wanting to watch their dc's football team) has yet answered my question from a few days ago when I asked if you felt the same about going to watch an orchestra that your teen or adult dc is in, or a play if they are into dramatics. Is it enjoying seeing your child flourish you object to, or just football ???

cinders456 · 25/03/2015 17:02

We had a ref (one of the dads from opposing team) who swore at one of my son's team mates (8/9 year olds!)

Horsemad · 25/03/2015 18:36

sickof, I pity your DC if you can't put yourself out to support your child/ren at their chosen sport - whatever their age.
What about Olympians whose parents spend lots of money following their child and supporting them?

Good job some DC have supportive parents eh?

BumblingBoris · 25/03/2015 19:01

I know the parents of Olympian cyclist Dani King. They have supported her all her life, they go to every event she takes part in, they always have.
It's what you do when you're a parent well most people do

Horsemad · 25/03/2015 19:25

Yes BumblingBoris, and who do the winning Olympians always pay credit to when they're interviewed after winning? Oh yes, the PARENTS and family for their unstinting support...

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 25/03/2015 19:28

sickoffrozen

Just shows how pampered kids are now and how parents won't let go

What a ridiculous comment, you clearly know fuck all.

Thank God there are parents who choose to support their children, whatever the age.

Wellthatsit · 25/03/2015 19:52

People are getting offended about the comment about thugs and yobs (taking it too personally "My darling child isn't a yob" etc etc.) But the fact is that the culture around football is very different from a lot of sports. The crowds at matches swear a lot. The refs get abuse. Racist chants, and so forth. It isn't pretty. And while the youth scene might be trying to clean things up, making parents sign contracts and watch videos, the crappy behaviour pretty much goes unpunished at the professional level.

My DS is heavily involved in cycling, and you see this sort of behaviour VERY RARELY. Don't have much experience of other sports, but have heard anecdotally that it's better behaved at rugby, and I'm pretty sure I haven't seen much swearing going on in the Wimbledon crowd (just Kim Sears!)

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