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To cringe at these football mums?

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DozyDonut · 22/03/2015 15:42

Ok, so I watched DS play footy this morning. I very rarely go as I work most Sundays.

Anyway, I was shocked by all alot of the mums watching. They are like a load of fish wives, shouting abuse and cackling. Shouting at the poor ref and the boys. These boys are all 17 & 18 so can be very 'vocal' but omg, those mums Shock I was inwardly cringing at what came out of their mouths!

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 22/03/2015 21:44

My lad likes us there as do his mates with their parents supporting.

We're all different I suppose Wink

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DozyDonut · 22/03/2015 21:48

How can it be that the likes of Rooney, Terry, etc are ok to have their family watching but our own 17/18 year olds arnt?
Even if these parents are very OTT I still don't understand people saying that the parents shouldn't be there to watch their own kids, no matter what age,
Confused

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bigTillyMint · 22/03/2015 21:49

XiCi, I am quite Shock that you think a 17/18 yo would be mortified if his mum was watching. Would it be OK if his dad was watching instead?

All the mums/dad's/aunties/uncles/grannies/grandads, etc, etc go to watch. It's a family thing. The parents are proud of their sons and want to show how much they care. These are proper teams who train 2 or 3 times a week, are in leagues with all the attendant cups and competitions and the families take it just as seriously as they take their professional adult football team matches as supporters.

These boys (all of ehom ate driven, slpha-male types at the top of thrir physical fitness and very proud), would more likely be mortified if no one from their family wanted to come and support them.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 22/03/2015 21:50

Ynbu. It's made me think of sports day. Parents yelling and shouting. Ffs it's only sports day not the freeekin Olympic games. Get A life!!
and that mums race. Don't get me started.!

SanityClause · 22/03/2015 21:54

This was posted on DS's rugby team Facebook page, recently.

To cringe at these football mums?
jonicomelately · 22/03/2015 21:55

I go to as many of the DC games as I can. Ds2 had a football game this weekend and only a couple of parents weren't watching which I thought was really sad for those boys.

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DozyDonut · 22/03/2015 21:56

Well said tillymint

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jonicomelately · 22/03/2015 21:57

I've seen that sign too sanity and it's great.

When I rule the world I'm going to banish the coaches and parents who live their lives through junior sports teams to a remote island in the middle of the Pacific Grin

ScotsWhaHae · 22/03/2015 21:58

You mean to say I've got another ten fucking years of standing in the freezing cold every bloody Saturday morning ahead of me?

Fuck.

XiCi · 22/03/2015 22:17

No Tilly it makes no difference at all whether it's mum or dad watching. In fact I find the whole premise of the thread, that basically a woman shouldn't shout and get involved in a sporting event incredibly sexist.
It's just my experience of Sunday league football that the older players do not have mums and dads there, as others have said.

And yes san diego I do have children though toddlers not 18 year olds

ChillySundays · 22/03/2015 22:22

Spent about 9 years watching football matches (2 a weekend during a lot of this time). If it wasn't for the parents how would the children get to the matches and for the 17/18 yrs olds perhaps they need a lift too and want parents there. I have seen some sights.

My DS is now a referee and since he is too young to drive I am still going to matches except now I don't support any team. It is funny listening to parents stood near me slagging the ref off and then he comes and stands with me at half time.

My DS has been lucky and there hasn't really been any major problems. I heard about a parent squaring up to a ref - the ref was 15. Bloody ridiculous. It's only a game

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DozyDonut · 22/03/2015 22:45

xici I only mentioned the women as they were the ones swearing and calling the ref f*ing blind etc which made me cringe.
As I said in my Post There was only one man shouting and that was the other teams coach.
imho the women behaved dreadfully today.

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Ceasre · 22/03/2015 23:00

Was a footie mum for about 11 years. This is first season my son has not played. Have seen it all good and bad. Worst thing I ever saw was a linesman who was a dad from our opposition turn his back to the pitch and piss. Then just turn around and carry on running the line like nothing had happened. No shame whatsoever.

Best was the manager of an opposition team who were thrashing our boys. He was so lovely and kept subbing his best players to try and make it less embarrassing for us. He then gave our boys a pep talk after the match. Lovely sportsmanship from him

BackforGood · 22/03/2015 23:01

I know it's not what the OP started the thread about, but I was involved in local league football for 20years+ and lots of the players - aged 17 - 40ish would have family come and support them. At that level, they had to pay to get in as well Wink
I'm confused why anyone would think it was odd that there were spectators at a spectator sport Confused
Would you also ban parents from watching a play if their (older) dcs did amateur dramatics, or a concert if their dc played some sort of instrument ?

MaitlandGirl · 22/03/2015 23:26

In Sydney they now employ security guards for junior rugby league to keep the parents under control as they kept being too abusive on the sidelines. If they don't settle down when asked security can kick them out.

One club had to lock out all parents for under 12s after an all out brawl that ended with a parents hands round the throat of a kid Shock

I'm so grateful my kids prefer surfing and the beach to organised sports.

Horsemad · 22/03/2015 23:34

It's very odd when watching academy matches as the parents offer no 'advice' at all. Grin

I'm all for the extended family turning out to support their player, just as long as there is no aggro.
I had to get between two dads to stop them squaring up to each other. One of them was the manager of the opposing team Shock Ridiculous really, grown men fighting over kids footy, what an example to set the players Angry

LikeTheShoes · 23/03/2015 09:13

we have to watch a video about being a good spectator at the beginning of every season and there is a part of the t&c you sign that implies that excessive advising will lead to your child being removed from the squad.

we drink tea and count the minutes 'til home time.

Stinkle · 23/03/2015 09:34

My DH is a football coach for a local kids team. The behaviour of the parents are 100 times worse than the kids.

He also referees sometimes when they have tournaments, he got screamed at and called a cunt by one mother after he sent her son off for deliberately kicking another player in the head.

One Dad has been banned after he squared up to an eleven year old

They've had to send out letters, put up signs and all sorts, reminding parents of expected behaviour at a kids football match.

I was amazed. It's bloody kids football for fucks sake!

richthegreatcornholio · 23/03/2015 09:34

There's no way in hell any child of mine will be playing football as long as I have a say in it!

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DozyDonut · 23/03/2015 14:55

Good luck with that one richthegreat Hmm

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BackforGood · 23/03/2015 15:00

Well, that's up to you, but you'll be depriving them (if they want to play) of the chance to play a great game, stay fit, learn skills, learn resiliance, and make new friends. Personally, all things I think are good, and I'm glad my dd is part of a team.

LikeABadSethRogenMovie · 23/03/2015 15:06

This is the sign on the door of our club's indoor basketball court.

To cringe at these football mums?
LikeABadSethRogenMovie · 23/03/2015 15:11

In football, I've seen 2 grown men make a (unrelated) 9 year old girl cry as they shouted at her from the sidelines when she let a goal in. The sad thing is she was really talented but that one event put her off the game for good. Some parents are complete and utter morons when it comes to watching kids sport.

SquirrelledAway · 23/03/2015 15:42

One of our coaches was asked what kind of child she liked coaching best.

Her reply - orphans.

I don't think it was entirely tongue in cheek.

richthegreatcornholio · 23/03/2015 15:55

Good luck with that one richthegreat hmm

They'll be far too busy racing go carts to bother about the boring shite that is football.

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