To cringe at these football mums?

[DozyDonut]

Ok, so I watched DS play footy this morning. I very rarely go as I work most Sundays.

Anyway, I was shocked by all alot of the mums watching. They are like a load of fish wives, shouting abuse and cackling. Shouting at the poor ref and the boys. These boys are all 17 & 18 so can be very 'vocal' but omg, those mums I was inwardly cringing at what came out of their mouths!

I heard this last week and it took everything in me not to bite this mums head off.
8 year olds playing football, parents sit on bench watching , this mums kid was in goal and Everytime he let a goal in he would throw a tantrum or storm off
He went over to his mum after 3 rd time and me thinking she would say something like don't worry you re doing great she told him it wasn't his fault the goals went in it was his team letting him down and they were playing rubbish.
This was said in front of all the kids on his team , she then had to persuade her lovely boy to play on the rubbish team and carry on as he was saying he wasn't playing anymore.

I am a footy mum (well, not every week!) of an U14, but know very little about football, so I just shout encouraging things occasionally and cheer if they score.
However, there are some teams where the mums and dads are very inappropriately vocal. They are well known I think in the higher leagues it seems much less so, although they do shout "advice", and at academy level you are not allowed to shout at all!

Ds3 used to play at academy level, parents were told that any 'coaching' was deemed as inappropriate and frowned upon.

There was no abuse shouted ever.

bigtilly the under 18's supporters are only allowed to stand on one side of the pitch, and have to keep so many feet away from the touch line, Sometimes there are ropes up too, But unfortunately that doesn't stop the loudmouths

I have been screamed as an umpire at by an unhinged parent. After the game I went over to explain my decision and say that while it was OK for the coach to ask the umpire to explain a decision, it is not acceptable to scream abuse, she carried on screaming at me. It was very embarrassing.

I love the Facebook pictures of billboards outside sporting fixtures that say something like:
Remember: this is not the premier league, the referees are human, the players are children, the spectators are their role models.

I certainly don't think people should be banned from watching!

I've been going to dd's football matches for two seasons now and don't hear any of this behaviour. We all encourage and support.

If any parents abuse the ref (or players) in any way then the club gets fined - I thought this was the same for all youth leagues - I know it has been in both leagues dd has played in and also the one my niece plays in.

I do think the professional game should set an examply by clamping right down on the bullying of refs that is seen so often at the 'top level' though.

I just can't believe 17 and 18 year olds have their mums watching. They are grown men. My DH, and every other male I know for that matter, would be truly mortified to have their mum there shouting them on. I bet the piss taking in the changing rooms is merciless

Ugh, this sounds awful.

My oh is close to my young cousin(age 8) he went to see him play football and could not believe how intense some of the parents. He said some were shouting, swearing and one mum dragged her son off the pitch to bollock to him about playing properly otherwise she would take him home.

It's 8 year olds! He was really shocked and found it unpleasant to witness but my cousin loves having him there.

You should go to dance or stage school shows. It's like a bundle getting a seat and last time I went to one two mums had an out and out fight it was hilarious!

That's too bad. Our mums stand around discussing Centreparks & bad job interviews.

At a school sports day, a parent videoed the reception race. His daughter came second but he insisted on the staff watching the video replay to conform it. He thought she came first.

It's a fucking sport's day race. Not the Olympics.

Ragged - I read that as "centreparcs and blow jobs "
Which seemed a likely thing to go with Centreparcs to be fair!

xici mums and dads do certainly watch their 17/18 year olds. It doesn't seem odd, every match has parents watching, and if you think about it grown men who play have supporters, so why shouldn't these teens?

woolf you just reminded me, one of the parents was photographing/videoing the goalie on his phone as he apparently was 'out of his box' whatever that means
The goalie turned round and said"oi mate, if you what a photo, I've got a good one of your wife's fanny on my phone"
The parent put his phone away!!

I went to watch an under 18s game with a friend. We were waiting in a corridor outside the changing rooms. One young man left the showers by the door to the corridor instead of the door to the changing room. He had a towel over his head, he peeped of the towel and saw about 30 mums, girl friends etc and kept the towel on his head and went back into the shower. We never worked out who he was. Most exciting football game I ever went to, it was along time ago over 40 years in fact. There was a stunned silence initially but some inappropriate remarks as he disappeared through the door.

The descriptions in other posts reminds me of this Joyce Grenfell monologue :-

ETHEL
by
Joyce Grenfell

I don't understand Ethel.

I don't, I don't really.
She's one of my very best friends,
Just about the best, nearly.
She's an awfully nice girl, Ethel is,
Dainty and refined,
I mean she'd never do or say
Anything unkind.
But get her inside a stadium
And she seems to go out of her mind.

'KILL HIM!' she yells, 'KNOCK HIS BLOCK OFF!'
At ice hockey or football or what.
'KILL 'EM!' she yells, turning purple,
'KILL THE PERISHING LOT!'
'SH-SH!' I say, 'ETHEL!'
'SH-SH!' and I die of shame.
'KILL HIM AND BASH HIS TEETH IN HIS FACE!'
She says,
And calls him a dirty name.

I don't understand Ethel,
I don't, I don't truly.
She is always gentle and sweet,
Never a bit unruly.
She's an awfully shy girl, Ethel is,

xici of course parents watch, age is irrelevant.

You don't have children? judging by that comment.

Just flicked over to 'el classico'.

I'm going with a Madrid win 2-1.

Haha sports parents, they can be quite wild!
My DH has been a children's football coach/manager for over 10 years and when we first got together I used to go along and watch games.
He managed a team from the kids being aged 5 up to their teens. The parents of other teams at matches were horrendous, I've seen parents full on physically fighting in the middle of pitches at matches of children aged 8!
Also DH's team was multicultural and the amount of racism they received from parents from the other team during matches would make your skin crawl.
DH no longer manages but coaches still and is back working with little ones aged 4+ including DS. It's much more relaxed and all about fun. DH said he will never manage his own son and is just looking forward to watching DS enjoy football with his friends.

It's quite hard to believe until you witness it yourself.

I played football at that age and would have been mortified if my mum had turned up to watch let alone started shouting the odds on the touchline.

A moot point, as DS hates most sports, but not a hope of me ever getting out of bed on a weekend morning to watch a teenager play sport. For that alone, these parents are unreasonable.

I'm a football mum and it's nice to support the kids. I've never seen any abuse just the odd over enthusiastic coach really. I get quite a tear in my eye sometimes looking at how many coaches and parents and grandparents are there come rain or shine cheering on the kids, its a great team sport and a really nice thing to be part of.

Round our way we must be very unreasonable as we all turn out every Sunday to watch our lads, (apart from one mum,)all Mums, most Dads, Grandparents en masse.