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To consider dumping boyfriend over his bacon obsession???

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GinaHair · 19/03/2015 16:20

Been seeing someone for about 3 months. First date we went out for a meal and I happened to mention that I didn't like bacon. Well he went on and on and on about it, must have mentioned it about 6 times over the night saying he couldn't understand someone not liking bacon etc. It started off as a joke, I laughed along but by the end of the night I was getting a bit Hmm (ok drop it now eh?).

Apart from that little detail he was lovely in all ways - so I went for date number 2. Another meal. Whilst sat looking at the menu he said "ooo bacon carbonara that sounds lovely! shall I order us two of those?" (and he was deadly serious). I said "no I don't like bacon remember" and he immediately went off again with "oh thats right!! you're a non bacon fan! wow I just don't get it! so how long have you not liked bacon for?" etc etc. after two more mentions of bacon I said "ok look can we drop the bacon thing now? it's getting a bit tedious". He apologised and agreed he would drop it.

Well anyway as I've said it's been 3 months and whilst everything else is great this bloody bacon thing will not fuck off and I'm finding it so frustrating. Everytime we go out to eat he mentions it, everytime its on TV he gets excited and brings it up, he even went as far as to photograph a packet of bacon crisps and post it on my facebook wall saying "stalked" or some shit.

Yesterday we met up with friends and he started on about it and tried to embarrass me saying I didn't eat bacon because I'm a muslim (I'm not, I'm athiest) and because I like fluffy pigs etc etc and I snapped and shouted at him. Friends thought I was out of order because they don't realise the scale of this fucking bacon thing. Now I feel like a twat and I'm furious at him. Thinking of calling it a day with him but everything else is so perfect I just don't get why he's doing it Sad

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viva100 · 20/03/2015 08:45

This is not about bacon, it's about the fact that he found a way to push your buttons and THAT is what he finds entertaining. He doesn't care about your feelings, in fact, he likes to see you annoyed and/or upset. He is purposely ruining your nights out for his own entertainment! You've only been dating for 3 months so he's only making slightly more 'trivial' jokes so as not to push you away completely but it will get worse and worse and worse. DUMP him!!! Don't accept any apologies, make a clean break, if he doesn't care about you now, he won't care in the future either.
I speak from experience btw, I had a boyfriend at uni who did exactly this (it was about sth else though) but it took me a bit more to realize that that was just the beginning. And there are plenty of men out there who don't do this kind of crap.

welloverdue · 20/03/2015 08:45

I went out with someone who didn't like cheese. I don't think I particularly went on about it but you would be surprised how often it came up (all the time.)

HellKitty · 20/03/2015 08:46

Oh God and the wedding speech will be full of bacon quips with a fondant bacon rasher on the cake. End it now or that is your future Shock

AlternativeTentacles · 20/03/2015 08:46

The thing which would worry me is what happens when he forgets about the bacon

He will never forget about the bacon. On their golden anniversary he will stand up and talk about the bacon to their children and grandchildren and family and friends who will all groan as they have heard about this year in year out at every family gathering and barbecue. But it will be 'When I first met my wife, she hated bacon. I managed to persuade her Wink and when she conformed, I could then marry her'. You will die a little more inside and wonder why you didn't take the advice of magimedi all those years ago.

hesterton · 20/03/2015 08:52

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AlphaBravoHenryFoxtons · 20/03/2015 08:53

Turn up at his dressed in your best frock and dump him.

StayGoldPonyBoy · 20/03/2015 08:58

Are you having it off with my FIL? He does that to me because I don't like lamb. He tells people it's because I'm soft on the baby sheep because he can't fathom someone having different taste budsHmm

I'd dump him, if he is as hilarious as my FIL he's most likely fucking irritating, and it'll only get worse as this'll be him on his best behaviour!Grin

ClockwiseCat · 20/03/2015 09:00

I'm feeling murderous rage at the thought of the same annoying joke over and over for three months - and I don't even know the guy!

Dump him.

(also PMSL at 'The Bacon Hut' flipping the on switch :o)

FrankTurnersGuitar · 20/03/2015 09:07

Dump him

To consider dumping boyfriend over his bacon obsession???
FenellaFellorick · 20/03/2015 09:09

It's not about bacon though, candidkate. It's about the attitude. People shouldn't get hung up on the fact that it's bacon. It's the behaviour. The bacon itself is irrelevant.

Remove the bacon and what do you have?

He cannot accept or understand that she does not like something.
He raises it at every opportunity
She has asked him to stop and he will not stop
He posts stupid things about it on facebook, designed to make fun, even though he knows that she does not want him to do that.
He uses it to make her the target of his mockery in front of his friends.
He has gone on about it for three months and shows no sign of stopping and does not care what she wants.

The bacon is so not the point. If you see the bacon then yes, it's trivial. If you remove the bacon and analyse the behaviour then no it is not trivial.

RandomFriend · 20/03/2015 11:28

FenellaFellorick is right.

So, OP, YANBU to dump the boyfriend over his "bacon obsession" because his "bacon obsession" is just a front for a whole lot of intolerable behaviour, neatly described by Fenella.

This behaviour would most likely get worse the longer you stay with him.

LittleBairn · 20/03/2015 11:32

YANBU. I don't drink the amount of people who go on about it constantly is aggravating. I've ended friendships over it I can't be arsed to have it as the main topic of conversation every time we would meet.

MissMuesli · 20/03/2015 11:36

Don't go bacon his heart op :-(

Just joking, he sounds very annoying, you anbu!!

TenThousandSpoons · 20/03/2015 11:39

This would frazzle my brain.
It sounds like he has a mean streak.

TenThousandSpoons · 20/03/2015 11:41

It wouldn't be rash to end this now.

PilchardPrincess · 20/03/2015 11:49

Yeah chuck him.

I mean really that would get on my tits so much. He's not going to stop.

I like "bacon is a red herring" myself Grin

Quenelle · 20/03/2015 11:52

Get rid.

You won't be able to cure him.

Number3cometome · 20/03/2015 11:56

Dump him, or he'll bring you out in a rasher

scattercushion · 20/03/2015 11:57

I think there should be a new term for his sort of dragginess: going Danish.

MrsCosmopilite · 20/03/2015 12:00

No advice but he sounds like someone I worked with years ago. I'm vegetarian, and when he found this out he took delight in telling me every day how in his last job he was a butcher. How he had different cleavers for different meat, what was best to cut up.... fucking idiot.

EricAteABanana · 20/03/2015 12:01

Honestly, I'm not sure there would have been a second date. He mentioned it about 6 times on your first date and you were getting annoyed. That's not a good first date!

Number3cometome · 20/03/2015 12:05

Is he at least good in bed?

Fuckup · 20/03/2015 12:08

yanbu, chuck the fucker over a bacon sandwich, then see how much he likes bacon in the future. In all seriousness though I hate it when people won't let something go, your guna have to tell him bluntly that if he mentions it again it's over (sounds insane written like that but it signifies a bigger problem that he doesn't acknowledge or value your own opinions)

championnibbler · 20/03/2015 12:10

ditch the wanker.
and he is indeed a wanker.

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