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To consider dumping boyfriend over his bacon obsession???

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GinaHair · 19/03/2015 16:20

Been seeing someone for about 3 months. First date we went out for a meal and I happened to mention that I didn't like bacon. Well he went on and on and on about it, must have mentioned it about 6 times over the night saying he couldn't understand someone not liking bacon etc. It started off as a joke, I laughed along but by the end of the night I was getting a bit (ok drop it now eh?).

Apart from that little detail he was lovely in all ways - so I went for date number 2. Another meal. Whilst sat looking at the menu he said "ooo bacon carbonara that sounds lovely! shall I order us two of those?" (and he was deadly serious). I said "no I don't like bacon remember" and he immediately went off again with "oh thats right!! you're a non bacon fan! wow I just don't get it! so how long have you not liked bacon for?" etc etc. after two more mentions of bacon I said "ok look can we drop the bacon thing now? it's getting a bit tedious". He apologised and agreed he would drop it.

Well anyway as I've said it's been 3 months and whilst everything else is great this bloody bacon thing will not fuck off and I'm finding it so frustrating. Everytime we go out to eat he mentions it, everytime its on TV he gets excited and brings it up, he even went as far as to photograph a packet of bacon crisps and post it on my facebook wall saying "stalked" or some shit.

Yesterday we met up with friends and he started on about it and tried to embarrass me saying I didn't eat bacon because I'm a muslim (I'm not, I'm athiest) and because I like fluffy pigs etc etc and I snapped and shouted at him. Friends thought I was out of order because they don't realise the scale of this fucking bacon thing. Now I feel like a twat and I'm furious at him. Thinking of calling it a day with him but everything else is so perfect I just don't get why he's doing it

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textfan · 20/03/2015 00:14

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MistressDeeCee · 20/03/2015 00:34

He's a bully. I had an ex like this, your story immediately reminded me of him. It was as if, he couldn't stand me not liking something he liked, and he wouldn't let it go. It moved from food...to TV programmes..then certain songs. Bloody control freak it gave me great pleasure to kick his pisstaking, disrespectful ass to the kerb. He is "mr nice" so everyone thought I was mean...but people like this look for your buttons to push..and then keep on pushing..because they're nasty characters really, and they have a great need to control, and push your boundaries too. I see your charmer has moved to trying to embarass you in front of friends. Please LTB but before you do so, stick some bacon rashers under his mattress

CupidStuntSurvivor · 20/03/2015 00:57

I'd dump him. If a guy took the fact that I don't like raisins (a tiny and completely non-issue fact about me), made it into some big thing that not only got mentioned at each meeting, but questioned extensively, then used it to mock me in front of friends, I'd get rid. It's fucking annoying.

How the fuck did bacon suddenly become a sacred food anyway???

SolasEile · 20/03/2015 02:12

Sounds like a wind up merchant. I'm sure he thinks he's being hilarious and a great laugh but he's being an arse to drag it out this long.

If it's bothering the hell out of you then 3 months isn't long so you could end it easily. If you're on the fence then find something about him that's quirky and then wind him up about it a few times. If he's as funny as he thinks he is then he'll take the joke. If he gets annoyed then you know he's not worth your time. In my experience people with this kind of SOH love to wind others up but get irate if anyone does the same to them.

Anyway, I'll be honest: I only commented so I can sit back and watch the bacon jokes roll in

t3rr3gl35 · 20/03/2015 06:06

Sounds like a water torturer to me. Drip, drip, drip until you snap - then you're the unreasonable one. Run for the hills, don't look back.

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molyholy · 20/03/2015 06:50

He sounds like an immature, unfunny dullard. Dump him.

Branleuse · 20/03/2015 07:11

the whole mm bacon thing everyone does lately. Really fucking weird.

I think he is just going to do this joke forever. He thinks hes hilarious.

id probably dump for it

Whocansay · 20/03/2015 07:16

I hate this kind of thing. This kind of wanker will always say it's your fault for not being able to take a joke.

I hope you've already dumped him. What an arse.

TeWiSavesTheDay · 20/03/2015 07:25

How have you lasted 3 months?!

Dump the bacon obsessive!

Loving Kevin Bacon made of bacon.

HellKitty · 20/03/2015 07:31

He sounds like Colin Hunt from the fast show - DP does an amazingly annoying impression of him when drunk so I can only imagine how hideous the real thing would be. You do know you'll be forever known as 'the ex who didn't like bacon'. He sounds a right knob.

MinceSpy · 20/03/2015 07:34

The bacon issue is a massive red herring. This man is a bully plain and simple.

ahbollocks · 20/03/2015 07:43

I wonder if hes using it as a conversation filler but tbh its just plain weird, not sexy at aall. The first three months are for being giddy in love not bacon interrogations

Mousefinkle · 20/03/2015 07:51

Yanbu. This countries obsession with bacon is out of fucking control. It's not even nice, it's just salty fat. I wouldn't have gone back for a second date personally. Anyone who "can't live without bacon" has already lost my interest.

candidkate · 20/03/2015 07:56

Strange ... Can you really dump someone over bacon guys? Really? Practically?

TeWiSavesTheDay · 20/03/2015 07:57

Um... Of course I would dump someone who constantly took the piss out of me. No matter what it was about!

krustyem · 20/03/2015 08:04

Yes, you can dump someone just over baco, oh,and the fact that he sounds like a total tit

Seriouslyffs · 20/03/2015 08:12

Oh bless him, he's incredibly socially inept. It would be something else if it wasn't bacon.
(magimediBLT (Bastard, leave the)

Fairenuff · 20/03/2015 08:20

Strange ... Can you really dump someone over bacon guys? Really? Practically?

Yes, of course. You can dump anyone over anything. What are the 'practical' obstacles?

Fudgeface123 · 20/03/2015 08:27

This would totally annoy me too, it doesn't matter that it's about bacon, it matters that you've asked him to drop yet he still continues. And to make you look bad in front of your friends was bang out of order, especially as they didn't know the history.

I would be binning in but be prepared for him telling people you dumped him because he likes bacon, not because he's an annoying, disrespectful, unfunny cock

Bakeoffcake · 20/03/2015 08:27

"...a shop called the bacon hut flicked the switch back on again"

Pissing myself

Seriously....The thing which would worry me is what happens when he forgets about the bacon but finds something else to tease you about. He just sounds an annoying prat.

Tell him you hope him and his bacon live happily ever after.

HoldenCaulfield80 · 20/03/2015 08:39

This is possibly the epitome of a first world problem

You should just ask him to stop bacon a big deal about it.

*gets coat, opens door, leaves.

ImperialBlether · 20/03/2015 08:41

"Bacon is a red herring."

No, it's not, really it's not. It's pork.

OP, this guy is irritating and childish - fgs dump him now.

AlternativeTentacles · 20/03/2015 08:42

I would never have lasted 3 months if someone went on about what I don't like - I don't eat meat or fish and can't stand mushrooms unless I have personally cooked them.

If someone was in any way hung up on that after 3 months, I'd not be there to listen to it.

BLT - genius.

PlumpingIsQuiteUpForThud · 20/03/2015 08:45

I'm vegan. I told DH (who is quite fond of bacon himself) about this guy and he laughed for about 10 minutes at the thought of locking me in a room with BaconMan

OP, please do just ditch him. It's not about the bacon, per se, but about him being a (possibly unintentional) asshat.

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