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To consider dumping boyfriend over his bacon obsession???

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GinaHair · 19/03/2015 16:20

Been seeing someone for about 3 months. First date we went out for a meal and I happened to mention that I didn't like bacon. Well he went on and on and on about it, must have mentioned it about 6 times over the night saying he couldn't understand someone not liking bacon etc. It started off as a joke, I laughed along but by the end of the night I was getting a bit Hmm (ok drop it now eh?).

Apart from that little detail he was lovely in all ways - so I went for date number 2. Another meal. Whilst sat looking at the menu he said "ooo bacon carbonara that sounds lovely! shall I order us two of those?" (and he was deadly serious). I said "no I don't like bacon remember" and he immediately went off again with "oh thats right!! you're a non bacon fan! wow I just don't get it! so how long have you not liked bacon for?" etc etc. after two more mentions of bacon I said "ok look can we drop the bacon thing now? it's getting a bit tedious". He apologised and agreed he would drop it.

Well anyway as I've said it's been 3 months and whilst everything else is great this bloody bacon thing will not fuck off and I'm finding it so frustrating. Everytime we go out to eat he mentions it, everytime its on TV he gets excited and brings it up, he even went as far as to photograph a packet of bacon crisps and post it on my facebook wall saying "stalked" or some shit.

Yesterday we met up with friends and he started on about it and tried to embarrass me saying I didn't eat bacon because I'm a muslim (I'm not, I'm athiest) and because I like fluffy pigs etc etc and I snapped and shouted at him. Friends thought I was out of order because they don't realise the scale of this fucking bacon thing. Now I feel like a twat and I'm furious at him. Thinking of calling it a day with him but everything else is so perfect I just don't get why he's doing it Sad

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pod78 · 19/03/2015 16:35

Poor you! He's making alot of this. When we've just eaten something really, really good DH and I often joke about not trusting someone who doesn't like XYZ, but we don't mean it!

He clearly can't quite get this of his mind (perhaps he's worried about future compatibility? and food can be important to some folks!?!) but he should be being more sensitive to you and realise when he's taking it too far.

Have a word and if he doesn't get it and stop, then yes, I'd take it as a sign that he has bit of a cruel streak and is maybe not as perfect as he first appears. Then really it looks like you'd be best to part ways Sad

diddl · 19/03/2015 16:37

"One more serious convo needed, including the words, 'I'm thinking of ending it over this."

Really?

hasn't he had enough chances?

gaslamp · 19/03/2015 16:41

He sounds a bit boring - repeated joke about the same boring things think. Bacon is a red herring...he's dull!

Isittimeforsandalsyet · 19/03/2015 16:43

It sounds to me like he is a bit of a bore with a pretty repetitive sense of humour.

If that style of person is not for you, I say end it. You don't want to be getting a bacon themed card on your 40th wedding anniversary and be sat there gritting your teeth.

BoatsAgainstTheCurrent · 19/03/2015 16:43

There's only one way to solve this, OP.
Buy some of those crumbly bacon bits (the ones you sprinkle over salad.) Put them everywhere - in his bed, in his clothes, his sofa, bathroom...
Then tell him to fuck off.
[smile}

ShutTheFuckUpBarbara · 19/03/2015 16:44

Arf @you should drill a hole in a side of pork and leave him to it.

I would dump him. He doesn't respect your opinions and does something that he knows annoys you. Twat.

ShutTheFuckUpBarbara · 19/03/2015 16:44

Bold fail

kewtogetin · 19/03/2015 16:44

I don't like bacon either, a difficult concept for many to come to terms with. I also don't like ice cream, he'd have a field day with me....
Seriously, he likes making fun of you and embarrassing you in front of friends.....after 3 months? These should be the halcyon days where he's declaring undying love and going all out to bring you happiness.
I agree with one more serious conversation and then you can have my very first LTB......

Theoretician · 19/03/2015 16:48

Maybe he's a bit socially challenged and struggles to think of things to talk about. Harping on about something that gets a reaction lets him feel engaged.

mawbroon · 19/03/2015 16:48

You need to develop a large crush on Kevin.

Kevin Bacon that is. Wink Grin

Sorry, couldn't help it.

Seriously though, it is a bit odd.

BoatsAgainstTheCurrent · 19/03/2015 16:54

I've tried to attach a picture of Kevin Bacon made out of bacon but it's just not working Sad

To consider dumping boyfriend over his bacon obsession???
BoatsAgainstTheCurrent · 19/03/2015 16:54

Oh, it did work (just didn't in preview...)

Hissy · 19/03/2015 16:57

Tell him to trotter on...

Seriously, he's not funny and he's not listening to you. going on and on and on? This in 3m? I am willing to bet that he will get nasty in future and torture you with some thing you have fallen foul of.

SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed · 19/03/2015 17:02

I can see the Kevin Bacon made of bacon picture :)

YANBU. Either about bacon or the boyfriend.

FuckingLiability · 19/03/2015 17:06

magimedi BLT (Bastard, leave the)

Grin
AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 19/03/2015 17:08

Someone going on about bacon is just about as annoying as people assuming that if someone is being a jerk that they may be autistic. Hmm

Guess that lands him more on the side of "stupid twat."

tethersend · 19/03/2015 17:09

I went to gourmet burger kitchen yesterday and had sweet potato fries with baconnaise.

BACONNAISE.

AlpacaMyBags · 19/03/2015 17:12

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SoonToBeMrsB · 19/03/2015 17:12

tethersend

My DP loves baconnaise. Sadly it's where I draw the line.

OP, he sounds like a real weirdo and I couldn't be arsed with his odd fixation on this and I say this as someone who LOVES bacon

WhereYouLeftIt · 19/03/2015 17:14

So on your second date you told him it was tedious.
You've sat him down and told him it's boring.

Let's face it, this man is simply not listening to you. He finds it funny to harp on and on about some small detail, and what you think about it matters not one fuck to him. He is going to go on and on and on and on UNTIL - well, forever really.

It is a bit of a red flag. You're three months into this relationship, most people (i.e. the normal ones) are still on best behaviour. He, on the other hand, has been asked not to do something but instead persists to the point where you lose your temper.

No matter ho 'lovely' he is on other ways - he's not worth the aggro. I'd move on.

Aridane · 19/03/2015 17:16

Gosh you don't like bacon?

LadyDeadpool · 19/03/2015 17:17

Play this then dump him or harass him about something he doesn't like making a point to cackle hysterically every time you mention it.

CapnMurica · 19/03/2015 17:17

I think if he is being as annoying as this only three months in when you should be loved up and able to overlook all those potentially irritating little foibles - then it's probably time to call it a day

WilsonWilsonWoman · 19/03/2015 17:22

Yeah, there wouldn't have been a third date if I'd been in your shoes! How annoying and childish like an obnoxious little brother! Ewww.

Grin magi

Bellwether · 19/03/2015 23:44

Alicedoesn'tlivehereanymore:

My son's autistic. Obsession about a single topic and being unable to stop talking about it is a symptom and one that can be dealt with with a number of redirection and questioning techniques. As one of the posters above said, it's something they can say that gets a reaction and can suggest they are involved in a pleasant conversation and not an adversarial one.