About childcare professionals and healthcare professionals calling people "Mum"

[MrsFlannel]

When I went to have my babies I was very irritated by people (nurses etc) saying stuff like "And what does Mum think?" to me...or "Would Mum like to hold the baby now?"

It's unnecessary but seems ingrained!

My neighbour works in a nursery and when she tells me little anecdotes about her day it's all "Well Mum was told about Timmy's early reading ability and she wasn't pleased that he has been spending time with books instead of running about."

Or

"Mum came to pick Nancy up early because..."

"Johhny's got a cold again and Mum's complained about it."

WHY?

Is it so hard to say "Tommy's Mum came early today."???

Also if anyone could please help me understand WHY I hate this I would be pleased.

Is there something about the training HCPs and teachers receive that makes them allergic to pronouns and adjectives?

His mother. His mum. Her dad. Tommy's mother. Your mum. The apparently hugely difficult 'you'.

If pronouns are really difficult, when talking to colleagues about the person in question, you could try the definite article.

I deal with a huge number of people each day, too. I somehow avoid calling any of them by their role in the situation. If I don't know their names and time is of the essence, those pronouns come in reallly handy again.

But yes, a wee bit of eye contact and 'what would you like me to call you' takes, what, a few seconds? And shows just a tiny smidgen of respect for the adult human sitting opposite you. That said, I'm happy with 'you'. Referring to me in the third person while talking to me, in a name only my child uses, is ridiculous.

I do think it's a verbal crutch with some HCPs in particular - they use it as punctuation. And mostly with mothers, not fathers. Apparently DH is more deserving of his own identity and respect.

I have found, in extensive dealings with professionals, the higher the namecheck of 'mum' in any conversation (esp when not even bothering to look up) the greater the lack of respect for any information pertaining to the situation that I can offer as a parent.

See, that's the bit that worries me. It's hardly conducive to best outcomes for the child.

you should try being called "mum" at dog training classes....even weirder!
I am definitely NOT the dog's mum!