to just walk away from a brewing row on here, with a "fuck OFF"?

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Poster asks for advice re child in her dd's class who is struggling and can get violent. Posters advise. Of COURSE an "ADHD isn't real" poster comes along

I am too tired to bloody argue and try to explain and educate this idiot.

Feel a bit like I'm copping out but experience has shown that some fools will never learn

If just one poster either ignore it or post fuck off in the thread

I did. Twice.

That should pretty much cover it then

You felt the need to make a thread about me....... I'm touched

I have ADHD. And Asperger's.

Totally real. Don't mind talking about it.

More than happy for anyone to PM me if they want to chat. Several posters have done.

So you are spoiling for a fight Proudmummy. This forum is designed to support parents you know.

And you are actually ill-informed in your opinions.

proud you haven't been around long. Where are you originally from?

king not real, proud says so. Her word is fact

There's evidence to prove that people with ADHD have brains that work differently, but a thread to garner support and basically rip someone a new one isn't on.

You can't always teach an old dog new tricks

Probably not being unreasonable to walk away from a row on the other thread, but YABU to start a new thread which will just carry the row over into a higher traffic area.

Not real? Well that's a relief!!

I can chuck the meds away then, yes?

Agree that it's probably not a good idea to start a thread here, but sometimes the boiling rage experienced when a poster is being idiotic and goady can override logic.

Yes KingJoffey, you were imagining it all .

I take the point about me starting a new thread. I'm just sick of people bleating their ill informed and damaging views. I didn't name any names, to be fair. It's hard being a parent, it's harder still being a Parent of a child with SN and having to constantly fight for everything and try to educate folk.

Bedtime for me I think.

Aye, they were only sweets anyway surely

My dad was called thick, dumb and told he wouldn't do a thing with his life.

Turns out he is dyslexic. He didn't find out til he was a lot older and mum told him. It didn't exist you see.

My brother was told the same and mum fought hard to get him diagnosed.

I still hear people saying it ain't real.

Now that's thick

It did exist years ago it just didn't have a name. Although there is debate about that there may be quite widespread misdiagnosis, particularly in the states.

Proud, then you reacted completely wrongly.
You should have gone apeshit with the school about their safeguarding, and demanded proper support for the child who was violent.

No one should have had to get hurt for the boy to get the support he needed, but you know what? Parents who blame the kid, and demand they get removed are the absolute pits.

Blame the school. Not the child. They were the one's that did NOT support the child correctly.

You will of course hide behind your 'well it was the best thing for the kid in the end' routine, but your impetus was to get rid as fast as you could, and blame the boy.

Appalling.

If the school had correctly supported the child in the first place, recognised triggers, and taught coping mechanisms, chances are your child would not have been injured and the boy would be developing and learning socially appropriate behaviours, not been removed.

But you know, as long as he's out of your hair, eh?

It did exist years ago, I remember there being children with various difficulties when I was a child. They were called naughty, blamed, humiliated, punished and generally had a miserable school experience.

That's all well and good proud and I have no doubt in my mind that for some people, that article applies and children are being misdiagnosed when their 'symptoms' are just them being children, but there has been study in which we've looked at brain patterns of children with ADHD compared to children without and there were considerable differences.

ADHD has always existed, it was just not known...
I do think it has been over diagnosed to explain some naughty behaviour in children (my cousin is an example, was diagnosed by one gp, tild 4 years later by other professionals he had nothing wrong with him and just enjoyed acting up as a young child, cousin agrees with second opinion! )
but it is definitely real and some people suffer on a daily basis because others refuse to accept it as a condition.
no a child should not be "allowed" to hurt another child because of it, but I would be taking it up with the school (presuming this happened at school) as they should have special measures in place to deal with this behaviour.

kingjoffrey obviously you are just being silly and never once needed medication! how dare you have problems that are just made up shite?!

And I'm sorry about your dd (if that really happened). If schools were prepared to support children instead of skimping on budgets and crossing their fingers, life would be a lot easier for everyone.