To take his bedroom door off

[Shinyshoes2]

I've bloody had enough ! Ds2 just won't get out of bloody bed in the mornings . He's still in bed now and he should be leaving for school . Every morning we have this battle he manages to lock it from the inside when there is no lock !
He Goes to be at a reasonable time 9.00 ish
He has no laptop after 6pm so it's not that keeping him awake . He just mumbles " leave me alone I'm trying to sleep '
He
Constantly has detentions for lateness
I've had enough !!!
AIBU to take his bedroom door off that way I can fucking drag him out of the bed or tip him out of it at least. I'm sick of him dictating to me and the school when he arrives
He's 14

For the poster that asks if he sleeps well. Yes he seems too apart from messing about on his phone until late which is where I think some of the problems lay. He sleeps throughout , we never hear his door go if he goes across the landing to the toilet and there seems to be no movement after he puts himself to bed.
Apparently he didn't want to get up this morning as 'she pissed me off ' he told his dad.
We have sat him down and told him he's to get a final warning things HAVE to improve, if they don't then the door is OFF , I don't want it locked . I didn't want to take it off to humiliate him, I wanted it unlocked so I know what's going on in there and for safety reasons.
We are all going to try hard to find a positive resolution and tomorrow is a new day, at the moment he's clearing up that stinking room, where he's growing mushrooms and cheese by the smell of it.
We haven't completely agreed on Internet usage time but he HAS agreed to give me his phone at 9pm every night and the laptop is to come downstairs after he's had his allocated time on it. ( he would be one of these gamers that are found dead after a 72hours gaming marathon if I let him) .
We are setting boundaries,
We've come to an agreement that he gets up in the morning at 7.15am and showers every other day ( he doesn't shower unless I threaten to scrub him myself ) at 14 that's not appropriate for either of us .
So, hopefully, fingers crossed , I'm sceptical this won't last long, but hopefully he will prove me wrong
Thanks so so much for all of your replies. I appreciate it

Yes take it off.
I give it a couple of days and he'll be begging you to put it back on.

HoneyDragon - in which case it gives OP an extra half-hour...

op my cousin changes the Internet password daily to get her kids to do the chores. When they do them - they get the pass word. Maybe that could be a carrot ?

I know someone who removed his sons door for two weeks. And the curtains so he was awake as soon as it got bright....

My Dad bought a battery operated water pistol. You learned to shift pretty fast if he was exasperated enough to go and search it out.

Pre phones and home computers for teens. I used to read until the wee hours though. 2-3am wasn't unusual.

Jesus wept, I had to share a room, and bathroom, at that age.

There was no internet, no cordless phones, no computers, no games consoles but what had to be plugged into the only telly in the living room.

I was 16 when my first cousin for whom my parents were guardian and who was my brother moved out to join the military, age 18. The room was free then my folks got our sister, well, we considered her our sister from the time she came and do now, on exchange from Japan. So we shared a room.

It never occurred to me to complain or try to jig it so the door would lock. LOL.

Never occurred to her, either.

Privacy was something you had when you paid your own rent.

I shared a room at that age, first with my elder sister, because our first cousin, a boy, was living with us. Then with our Japanese sister, an exchange student. She was from a well-off family, they lived in an actual house, as did we, but her father had to work in Tokyo during the week in a company-provided flatshare to pay for that house in Yokahama-shi, and she shared a room and futon with her own mother, her brother had the other room.

Never thought twice about sharing a room.

There was no way to lock the door.

No school bus, so we had to get up and be ready for Mama to take us to school.

Seriously, people saying it's horrible to put a curtain up, so damaging. I never lived in that world.

That all seems very positive Shiny. Tell us how it goes tomorrow, fingers crossed for a good start to the day!

Personally I would never take the door off, simply because it's the most effective defence in a fire and I wouldn't want to expose my children to that danger, however frustrated I was with them. But equally it needs to be unlocked for safety reasons. Could you replace it with something like a roller ball catch with a static handle so it's harder to 'lock'?

My dad took my door off when I was about 15 because I was messy and lazy I soon learnt, didn't even have a curtain ha just had to get dressed in the bathroom. I don't really understand the fire comment (probably me being dumb) but if I was locked in my bedroom in a fire I'd be dead the door wouldn't protect me.

Sorry, crazylady. It's really important to have doors closed in the event of fire because they stop the fire from spreading. All downstairs doors too, especially those between large electricals (tv, dryer, dishwasher) and the rest of the house.

If there is a fire in your house and your doors are shut then it's highly likely you will be woken by the smoke alarm long before the smoke reaches you.

A curtain can't do that.