To be enraged by people who organise their purse very slowly and carefully before moving away from checkou

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I suffer from irrational supermarket checkout rage. I especially hate people who stand there and slowly replace their card in their purse. I don't mean elderly people either.

jessyradlett escalator rage...I feel you.

I do this! I am severely visually impaired, and have a guide dog and young children. Moving away from the checkout before I've got everything organised is too flustering and chaotic - I need to get my purse safely stowed so my hands are free, my guide dog facing the right way, and the children where I can see them!

It is probably a bit of a specialised situation, and I hope people are understanding. But the issues were similar before I had my guide dog, only people wouldn't have known about them IYSWIM. But if I just stepped straight to the side, I'd bump into people or things, and wouldn't have my hands free to hold on to DC, feel for obstacles etc.

marvellousmarbles as you have a guide dog it will be obvious that you need the extra time, and I would certainly hope no one gives you a hard time for it.

Thanks scrunchie. I meant to make the point that I've only had my guide dog a couple of months - but my eyesight has been at this low level for years and years. One of the reasons for getting a guide dog was because people are very harsh and sometimes even aggressive when they don't understand that you have a visual impairment (bumping into things/them, taking a long time to sort yourself out, etc. etc.) So, on behalf of the thousands of other visually impaired people out there without guide dogs, bear in mind that may be a factor in some slow-checkout-people!

The OP did describe it as irrational supermarket checkout rage. 'Enraged' is clearly an exaggeration, lots of daft things niggle different people.
For people who are offended, I really am sorry. I don't think any offence was meant at all by anyone on here. There are people out there who are just generally inconsiderate, this type of rant would never be directed at people with disabilities, and I doubt that issue has really crossed people's minds.

Rage, yes,
I have it when the shopper decides that they must block the entire aisle with a diagonal placed trolley while they with their back to that trolley peruse the cheeses f o r 10 fucking minutes.

Or those that place their shopping on the conveyor belt, then stand back with their empty trolley watching as their shopping glides towards the checkout leaving oodles of empty conveyor belt that I should now be placing my shopping on but can't reach it ...oh & they have not put the divider on any way...and I can't reach that either because they are still stood there in the way.

Or how about those folk exiting the shop with their full trolley who stop dead at the exit in front of you to look at the receipt or try to find their lift. Love them. It's especially special when I have a manic toddler with me and I just want to get home.

I huff and puff in my brain. All the ditherer next to me will see is a polite looking, not at all impatient looking, middle aged woman with maybe a slightly raised eyebrow and a satirical smile. Inside, I am raging. Outside, I look as calm as a swan floating majestically across a lake.

I doubt it...

I have arthritis and severe depression. I tend to do the lion share of my shop online, but little shops give me an excuse to talk to a person. I do like to apologise to those behind me and half the time end up having a good chat with them lol. I think it helps soothe any impatient rage :)

I've reported your post of 11:59 scrunchie because it contains vile, disablist language.

thefairycaravan I don't know what I said that was disablist?! I've said several times that I am disabled myself.

I've quite clearly stated on several occasions that disabled people should be treated with consideration and respect. I've told you all how I lose my sight sometimes, have to feel my way along a crowded tube platform, get shoved out of the way and get nasty comments made.

I am entitled to feel annoyed when I am made to wait ages because someone is faffing around. For clarity's sake, perhaps I should point out that I do not get annoyed if the person is disabled.

I am entitled to feel annoyed when I am made to wait ages because someone is faffing around. For clarity's sake, perhaps I should point out that I do not get annoyed if the person is disabled.

Not all disablities are visible, FFS. You do not know just by looking at somone if they are disabled. And, no you are not entitled to feel annoyed by the person in front of you because they are taking longer than you would like. There is no time limit on how quickly you have to exit a checkout! You can be annoyed with yourself for having no patience.

Re-read your post and you should see the disablist language you have used.

thefairy I really do not think scrunchie was being disablist.

I have cystic fibrosis.

I also do get annoyed with people who take ages to pay...it's human nature isn't it. luckily i don't live in a city where it must be even worse!

thefairy im sorry, youre obviously hurting and in pain (i have been there) but i do think you are being oversensitive....

I never get my purse out at a checkout until asked to pay because I don't want someone stealing it while I'm busy packing.

I'm neither fast nor slow when packing. Sometimes the bags don't co-operate and I can't get them open in nanoseconds. Sorry.

I pass a few pleasantries with the person at the checkout. I find it brightens my day and I hope it does theirs. Sorry again.

Occasionally I find that because of discounts, I've underspent when I have a £40 or £50 minimum spend Nectar points voucher to use. I will apologise to the server and the person directly behind and scuttle off to the wine aisle for a bottle to cover it. This takes about a minute. The aisle is very close and I know what wine I like. Sorry if that inconveniences you but I will have those points. Take it up with Sainsbury's if their system bothers you.

I will check my change and receipt before moving off. On Sunday, because of a scanning mistake, I was overcharged by nearly £3. If you don't like that, feel free to give me the £3 out of your own pocket and I will move on. Otherwise you'll have to wait the five minutes it took for the checkout man to call a supervisor, reset and rescan and refund me.

I never use the self-service checkouts if I have age-restricted goods because it is too much of a faff. But when I do, I usually use my own bag. I can't put it in the bagging area because even though it's an ordinary cotton bag, it's too heavy. So I scan goods, put them on the shelf, pay and pack. There is no way round this and I am saving the planet and collecting one extra point per own bag used. So I will do it.

Then I check to see I've got everything because I'm fucked if I've paid with a £20 for shopping under £10 and am not going to collect my coin change and check under the scanner for my note.

So sorry, man who was crowding me while I did this and who I told to go away. You were offended by my reaction and took it that I thought you were trying to steal my change. I've no idea whether you were or not. But I wasn't going to give you the opportunity.

growing she was disablist, hence the post has gone.

I'm not being over sensitive, I am sick of people thinking they can huff and puff behind me (thinking I'm not noticing) because I'm not being quite quick enough for their liking!

After posting all that I have to say I don't have any disablities like others on this thread. But why should I be rushed?

At self-service checkouts I've found quite a lot of change, a quiche Lorraine that someone had forgotten to pack and last week a really rather nice pair of Dolce & Gabbana sunglasses.

I handed them in. Even those sunglasses...

And I had to queue to hand them in at Customer Services. But then, I'm nice like that.

I get really cross when the cashier starts putting my stuff over the blipper before the previous shopper is gone/packed. It makes both customers feel flustered especially if the person before me is slower as they're elderly, disabled or have kids. They can't go faster - so rude to pressurise them. And things get mixed up!

Someone can be completely preoccupied, whether disabled or not. Was once behind a lady at the checkout (not particularly elderly, about 70-ish, I'd guess). She was a bit slow, that was absolutely fine, didn't think anything of it, didn't bother me in the slightest. She went to pay for her shopping, but gave the wrong card to the checkout assistant. He was very patient and sweet as he pointed it out to her. Then she suddenly burst into floods of tears, explained that her husband had recently died and he had normally done the shopping. So as well as having just lost her husband, she was completely out of her comfort zone. No-one could tell this just by looking at her. Anyone could have thought she was just "faffing". Yet there was a very genuine (and non-discernable) reason for it.

All I can say is, thank goodness it was me behind her at the checkout (and the lovely young checkout lad who was very helpful), as I scooped her up and drove her home, and not one of the incredibly impatient posters on here.

Just remember - there may often be an extremely valid reason for someone's "faffing" (that word is now my least favourite of the day, BTW)

Oh Evan, what a nice thing to do

to Evans for a lovely post :)

Thank you, limited - but I think anyone nice would have done the same. (One would hope so, anyway)

Self scan is a form of torture invented to draw your eye away from the shoppers who feel it necessary to stop dead in the middle of an aisle, and the amount of staff who plonk a whole pallet in the middle of an aisle causing untold misery when everyone trying to get past realises you can only get a trolley past on one side. Long live home delivery, it will add years to my life. (Unless I use asda, their ridiculous home delivery service could cause blood pressure issues in my kitchen!)