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I suffer from irrational supermarket checkout rage. I especially hate people who stand there and slowly replace their card in their purse. I don't mean elderly people either.

People standing up for people with disabilites aren't bleating either, scrunchie.

I've never experienced people thinking they have to be nice to me all the time because I am disabled, tbh.

I take my time, not because I want to waste other people's but because I like to be methodical and not loose things. I'm not standing around chatting but I do carefully put everything away in my bag and zip it up before I move.

I don't mind other people taking their time if they are doing the same sort of thing. Our local supermarket is very naice and friendly. It's not too big and you get to know the staff. I can't rememver ever feeling hassled by anyone.

It does irritate me that the cashiers don't start scanning until I have emptied my trolley.

Some of us are naturally impatient. We can't help it.

What a lot of bollocks!!!
Really, you think that it's OK to make feel bad because you can't control your impatience, to huff and puff at someone who CANNOT go faster?
To use very emotional words such as 'enraged' because you have been made to wait what... 2 or 3 mins?
Serioulsy your life depends on these 3 minutes?

All of us, every single one of us can learn to be more patient. I know because I was one of those and I did learn to be patient and less irritable.

And I would suggest all of the people that really clearly can't cope with waiting a few extra minutes to ask themselves if leaving 2 minutes earlier will make any difference at all.
It's like a sign I saw at the entrance of a village once. It read:
The speed limit is 30mph. If you through our village at 60mph, you will come out 30 seconds ealier. Is it worth it?
So have a think, how much time will you have 'not wasted' waiting for 'no reason'? What are you going to do with that time? Arrive 2 minutes earlier at school pick up and check MN whilst waiting? Have a gossip with a work colleague? Do you think you will have use that time in a way that is any more efficient than avoiding to upset someone who cannot go faster?

TheFairyCaravan

I am genuinely sorry . You are upset and that's not ok.

I am posting about the people like my dh who faffers because he's an eejit.

I never give any indication of impatience when I am out - on the contrary. And I am often out with my son whose SN makes him very slow.

It isn't unreasonable to privately laugh at the ridiculous things we get irritated by when out and about. I've just been in a shop trying to look at necklaces while a woman leant on the cabinet on her mobile phone. My wanting to chuck her phone under a passing car, whilst outwardly doing nothing more than smiling and indicating I want to see the stuff she's leaning on, is not horrible. It really isn't.

It's the huffers issue not the ditherers let them seethe till they combust

It does irritate me that the cashiers don't start scanning until I have emptied my trolley.

You see I am the opposite. I want everything out on the conveyor belt and to be at the other end ready to pack. The very last thing I want is for them to start scanning the stuff before I am ready to pack my bags. That's why I don't like it if they start scanning my stuff before the person in front of me has gone, because I can't pack until that person has gone. Years ago there used to be a divider on lots of checkouts so if you were still packing/arranging your purse etc you moved over slightly and carried on packing, but the person behind you could start packing their bags.

But I shop online for my main shop so I usually only have a few things in a basket these days so it doesn't take long to pack anyway.

You should all come and live here :)

Walk around shop with trolley (starting with wine which is the first section, always something good half price), get to checkout, unload food items on to conveyor. Cashier smiley and friendly, scans items through straight into bags which they place to the side for you to arrange in your trolley when full. This leaves hands free to scan shop discount card, get purse ready, etc while chatting to cashier about your day, their day, the weather... Scan payment card, get receipt, wheel trolley to car, job done. Love it :)

I was surprised and hassled when I had to pack my own stuff when shopping in the UK. No wonder it's such an exasperating time for so many.

Actually I should rewrite my post with people rather than someone who can't go faster.

Because really it's not about people with disabilities, it's about people and respecting them instead of thinking that you just can't control yourself therefore it's OK to huff and puff at someone.

the huffers and puffers ought to take a bit of valium, ritalin or weed to chill

It's not good for your blood pressure guys!

Alexander technique?

Yanbu but make sure you are not being outwardly stressy & glaring daggers etc as this would def make lots of people, me included, slow down on purpose. My own supermarket pet hate is if the person behind you passes comment on what you're buying. I'm sure the old man in M&S loved my 10minute diatribe on fact I was not having a party, just how far you can stretch 2 whe chickens for a family of 5, the educational benefits of baking with children & finally that the wine was all for me

Dd is a cashier in a supermarket they are told to wait until the belt is full before they move it there is a reason but I can't remember what it was

Pag as far as I'm concerned, I think that saying things in private that you wouldn't say to the person face to face isn't quite right either.

You might say it was irritating, that you wish said person had move away from whatever. To laugh at yourself about how irritated you were for not a lot really.
But the way a lot of posts have been on this thread isn't about laughing at yourself.
It's about expressing high annoyance about people that dare slowly you down by a minute! It's about wishing that they is a special place for them in hell. It's about wishing bad things for them or making fun of them because .... well tbh I'm not really sure why.

I find it sad. Very sad.

TheLastMan for the millionth time, I do not huff and puff at anyone. I simply feel annoyed. As pag says, there is nothing wrong with that.

I huff and puff in my brain. All the ditherer next to me will see is a polite looking, not at all impatient looking, middle aged woman with maybe a slightly raised eyebrow and a satirical smile. Inside, I am raging. Outside, I look as calm as a swan floating majestically across a lake. So the ditherers who think if someone sighs or looks at their watch, or tuts, they will go slower... know this. Some of us in the queue are not giving away the fact we think you're inefficient bumbling timewasters.

Do I have to rush home to a sick elderly parent/child/pet? No. Am I an international businesswoman to whom time = money? No. I just want to spend a minimal amount of time shopping and the rest of my life... arsing around and not shopping. I get it that there are some people in the world, to whom shopping is a recreation - even buying frozen peas is Fun with a capital F, to some people. Those people are weird.

Thank you Pag.

srunch I con't think I've mentioned your name. So wonder why you think I was referring to you?

The huff and puff is a very common reaction from people annoyed in a queue as mentioned by posters who have experienced it (And I witnessed it too).
I wasn't talking about you in particular. Sorry.

I also think that a lot of people think thay are only huffing and puffing in their head, that they are only highly irritaed in their head but that outwardly they don't show a thing.

Well I'm sorry but I don't think it's the case. Even though you might want to hide it well, I can promise you most people will 'feel' you are annoyed.

Well you were, as I was the one making the comment about some of us being naturally impatient.

Believe me, I'd love to be all zen and peaceful, but that's not my personality. It doesn't mean I'm not a happy person!

See you all think none of us can tell you are seething, but we can. Your lack of patience and understanding is your problem.

I completely agree with the Lastman laugh at yourselves for being unable to wait without the rage rising inside of you, but don't laugh at people who want to put their change away or who might have a disabilty that you can not fucking see!

thelastman so what do you suggest? we can't simply stop feeling annoyed?! If anyone is seriously offended by someone's perceived body language towards them when that person is a stranger in a supermarket line...

I don't think you get to call people weird if you are actually RAGING at a few extra seconds at the checkout. Cos thats pretty fucking weird. You've obviously got time to burn on here, after all.

I just think the logic is a bit daft if you're going to say you shouldn't get annoyed or laugh at anyone because you don't know what they're going through...

Why should I care if some random stranger in a supermarket thinks I'm a bit of a faffer and goes back to their office and laughs with their colleague about it?! I'm sure they probably do!

I tend to be very calm and collected when in a queue at a supermarket. There have been onstances when I have felt The Rage build up very quickly.

The most recent was a couple of weeks ago in Lidl. I complete my shopping and make my way to the tills and select the one that only has one customer. What I didn't notice as I unpacked my goods onto the conveyor was that this person was packing her bags at the fucking counter and talking at the checkout operator not giving him a chance to ask her to get her stuff in the trolley and pack at the packing shelf.
She then got her handbag, and looked in all of the sections for her purse, all the while talking at the chap before paying in cash, insisting on finding the exact money and sauntering away. That gave me the rage.

Ach, I'm very good at hiding it. Even my nearest and dearest express surprise if I mention I was annoyed by an incident when I had The Calm Face on.

Maybe more people are irritated by the minor things in day to day life than most folk realise?

Disclaimer: I do not do The Calm Face at French schoolchildren on holiday in London, people who stop at the top of escalators or people who block ticket barriers searching for their lost ticket. Step to the side, folks.

Why should I care if some random stranger in a supermarket thinks I'm a bit of a faffer and goes back to their office and laughs with their colleague about it?! I'm sure they probably do!

When you've been bumped out of the way with trollies, almost knocked over with buggies, huffed and puffed at at the checkouts or been given a passive agressive fake smile you already feel like shit and in the way. So to think that the random stranger then goes back to their office to have a good laugh about you makes you feel completely unworthy, tbh.