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I suffer from irrational supermarket checkout rage. I especially hate people who stand there and slowly replace their card in their purse. I don't mean elderly people either.

sympathetic head-tilt and "Oh, dear." I need to adopt this philosophy!

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Ah joffrey I shop for eight quite often but I get very anxious at the supermarket due to anxiety and depression, im also in the process of being assessed for an asd. I find the whole checkout process over whelming and sometimes when the assistant goes to fast the stuff piles up and my hands start shaking and I feel like crying so I slow down. As for putting the trolley behind me what else are u supposed to do.

I can only shop in school time so I can avoid taking the kids, I have dp to help me in the holidays and online shopping is shit, always mess the order up.

Nice to see im a dithering idiot though cheers.

I love lidl and Aldi. Nice wide aisles so you DONT have to out the trolley behind you. Unload quickly. Bung back in. Pay. Pack at leisure. Job done.

I hate purse ditherers too though. Or those who have say a tenner in a note but have to get rid of the change in their pocket and caareefuully and slooowly count out every 10p and 2s and 1s to give to the shop assistant. My dp does this and it drives me fooking crazy.

I know this is light hearted too but the dithering idiot comments just made me feel sad really. Ive never got annoyed at someone slow packing because I wonder if like me they genuinely do struggle

I never get bothered by other people being slower than me. On the other hand, I use the self-service checkout and do all my packing, paying etc in a timely and efficient manner, but if someone is huffing and puffing over my shoulder then I will take a bit longer than strictly necessary. Can't stand people who think their time is more important than anyone else's.

I have recently started putting the trolley behind me after a few incidents of people in the queue getting far too close to my body space. I don't want some bloke breathing on my neck staring at me when I'm trying to pay with my debit card, thanks.

I used to be like you op, now I think it's not worthed getting all enraged about silly things and 2 minutes is not long to wait (even if it feels more like 5)

There's a special corner in hell for people who finish packing v e r y s l o w l y before paying.

And then produce 20 money off coupons, mainly for stuff they haven't bought but insist the checkout person scans them anyway. And then argues that an invalid one must be valid and could a supervisor be called.

I know where they should stick their invalid coupons.

justforyou I also have a neurological disorder affecting my hands. Which is precisely why I prefer to get my card out while I'm in the queue! I bung it in my pocket or on the shelf in front of the cashier, then when I'm done I stick it in my pocket again, move away from the till and sort it out where I won't be in anyone's way.

I probably have Asperger's too, and on a good day the extra time taken by someone faffing doesn't bother me. If I'm stressed and just want to get home, or in a hurry for any reason, faffers really wind me up and I have to jiggle and tap while I wait.

No I don't get enraged or impatient- I did used to be very impatient OP, but that is now firmly in the past.

I keep a tube of nice handcream in my bag. Whenever I am help up at chechouts I squeeze a dollop on my hands and give my hands a little treat, inhaling the sweet fragrance. By the time my turn comes I feel calm and my hands are lovely and smooth.

My delay at checkout is transformed into a little indulgence.

Yes, they're very annoying. Same as the ones who do this at the cashpoint.

The absolute worst offenders are the ones who stop to have a lengthy chat with the cashier.

M&S and Waitrose are riddled with these people and it gives me the rage!

Putting the trolley behind you stops the person behind jabbing their trolley into your back and invading your personal space.

I always use Scan and Shop, or self service with the conveyor though.

You have to accept that when entering a supermarket it will be full of annoying people. I go at 8am to avoid it all.

Maybe karma will come along and give all you enraged women something that is worth being enraged about.

People who have had all their shopping for a week year scanned through and then finally decided to start searching through their enormous bag for their purse. Erm, did you not realise you were going to have to pay?

I think AIBU may have been the wrong place for this particular thread.

I have an twin 18 year olds who I'm teaching to shop at the moment. They're both ASC and other people stressing them doesn't help. Bit of kindness goes a long way to making their day a wee bit better.

I started this thread as a bit of a joke after a stressy day. I honestly do understand that some people have neurological conditions which make shopping difficult.

Totally agree! Also applies to people on the bus, at cash machines and self service train ticket machines. Move the fuck on!

I hate people behind me at the supermarket huffjng and puffing and staring aggressively, or sighing, or lookIng as though I am the cause of their stress if it takes me an extra 2 minutes to pack my groceries or if my trolley is behind me (which is the simplest way to unpack it).
Get a grip people. The problem is you, not the persOn in front of you.

I took a tiny step backwards in W H Smith's yesterday and made full body contact with a woman who must have been standing about an inch behind me. Why do people have to get so close?

(I realise I was being unreasonable shopping in the horror that is WH Smith's but in my defence I was in search of eclipse sunglasses.)

People in petrol stations annoy me. Back in car after paying. Apply lipstick, open drink, have a swig, fiddle about looking for something.

Dh is like this. He has a little notebook where he writes the date, the milage on his speedo and how many litres he's put in. So he has to fill this out and file the recipt before he can drive off. I'm cringing inside!

Yanbu, go to Aldi - no chance if dithering or faffing there!!

Stopping at the top or bottom of an escalator is dangerous. Taking 5 minutes to put away cards, money, wallet etc isn't.

Nah, just rude and thoughtless.

I don't huff, puff, tap or scowl. I am outwardly the picture of zen. I am pretty good at clocking who's trying their best, and who is just so remarkably self-absorbed that they honestly think they're more important than everyone else in the shop.

And oh yes, I judge.

I'll deliberately go slowly and faff about if the person behind me has been 'hassling' me; I treat them the same as tailgaters on the road.

I used to get a bit huffy when people were being slow, but as I get older I realise that you never know what's going on in their lives. Does it actually matter if they take time folding their receipt? What are you going to do with the extra time they would have saved you by going at the 'correct' speed?

I stood behind a woman who had a purse for her coins, a purse for her notes and a third purse to store her carefully folder till receipt. Took her hours at the till to sort that lot out .