To be enraged by people who organise their purse very slowly and carefully before moving away from checkou

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I suffer from irrational supermarket checkout rage. I especially hate people who stand there and slowly replace their card in their purse. I don't mean elderly people either.

I hate these people. All of them. Faffers. Don't freaking faff!! It cannot be a shock that you need to pay at the till.

And your self is?

God no, I'm not remotely important. Just like the person behind me acting as if every second is vital. I'm guessing they wouldn't be in Tesco at 10am on a wednesday if they were on their way to save the world.

IF they nicely said they were in a hurry I would be happy to let them go first, no matter how big their trolley. My time isn't very valuable.But you can fuck off making noises at my back and rolling your eyes if I take more then 3 seconds to pay.

And, btw, that is acting like a grown up.

Well fwiw Shan, I used to get two hours respite for profoundly disabled ds2.
Two hours for a whole week in which to do housework and shopping and all the things I couldn't do with a non verbal, aggressive, destructive, self harming four year old.
So yeah, people faffing deliberately because I wasn't saving the world were a big help.

I am a caring, considerate person, I also faff sometimes. I don't get "enraged" - not sure I EVER have...

impatient young/middle aged people tend to be the people who get enraged about things - you don't tend to get lots of elderly "enraged" people, perhaps being enraged kills you off early.

Jassy: " I am pretty good at clocking who's trying their best, and who is just so remarkably self-absorbed that they honestly think they're more important than everyone else in the shop. And oh yes, I judge."

I have impinged nerves which make everything below my waist either numb or buzzing (or both!) ALL the time. My feet basically dont work at all. I am slower than I'd like to be as the meds I take to enable me to walk at all give me a fuzzy brain. You cant see any of that, it is all under my clothes / inside my head.
You may not notice my crutch, or I may have left it in the car as I cant cope with crutch and trolley that day.

I am behaving like a grown up, just a slow and tired and ill one.
I have had Aldi staff kindly help me, and for that I am grateful.

If I sensed someone behind me silently seething - and believe me, you DO sense it, I would go on my way feeling even more kinds of crap than I already do.

I know you have things to do and places to be but not everyone is as fast as you. One day you'll be old and none of this will really have mattered.

These people wind me up so much, Some of them even look a bit surprised when the operator asks for the money, like its the last thing on their minds, so then start a slow rummage through bag looking for purse, aghhhh.....how hard is it to have it ready in advance.Daft as it sounds I really think it says a lot about the person....a person who's oblivious or indifferent to other people. I'm the opposite, I'm always aware of the people waiting in the queue and am usually stuffing the change in my purse while pushing the trolly so I don't keep anyone waiting.....
YANBU!!!!

I hate these people. All of them. Faffers. Don't freaking faff!! It cannot be a shock that you need to pay at the till.

No, it's not. But I have to juggle 2 crutches, my bag and my purse. My hands are numb and have muscle wastage. I go as fast as I can. Shoving your trolley up my arse or getting right up to the back of my neck huffing and puffing makes me nervous which makes me take longer. If you just left people be, they'd get on with it and no doubt be out of the way quicker.

CBA reading the whole thread but I put my cards into those little anti-scan wallets then into my purse .
It takes another 20 seconds and it keeps my cards SAFE so if anyone gets arsey they can build a bridge and get over themselves.

Pag, were you rolling your eyes and making noises like a steam train if anyone didn't pack and pay like they were on speed? I'm guessing not. Then in that case you wouldnt have anything to worry about, would you?

enraged, hate, wind me up....

I find the way people are talking about other people, the emotive language being used to be quite scary and sad. Why so angry?

I do get somewhat annoyed at supermarket ditherers, especially when I'm in a hurry, but tbh the worst ones are the ones who take six years to top up their oyster cards....

You literally tap the card, put the money in the slot, tap the card again and leave.

But nope, apparently it's a complex scientific operation that means you faff about staring at the screen and cancelling and restarting and cancelling again.

springtulip omg I know! It's like they get to the end of the checkout and then suddenly go: 'oh, I had no idea I would have to pay for these items! let me waste another ten minutes of your time while I rummage around in my giant handbag!'

I'm amused that people, whose time is so important that someone taking an extra thirty seconds at the checkout enrages them so, have so much of it to waste on MN talking about how angry they get at losing those 30 seconds.

Maybe take up yoga? Or weed. Chill out, either way.

I am the person who stands and zips u their purse and puts it in their bag before moving away from the till......at Waitrose and the Co Op the staff don't serve the next person until you have left so I don't really feel any pressure. Mini Tesco, it's a bit more 'step away from the counter' like but I don't care

What does stress me out far more is getting all of my shopping unloaded into the conveyor belt before he till person starts whizzing it at Mach 3 down the hill !! Then I get really huffy. I want her to wait until every item is out of my trolley and nicely piled up ready to be scanned.

Sometimes I probably did Shan. In fact I'm sure I did.
I had a big argument in Waitrose once. That's like breaking a mumsnet commandment.

So your assumption that I would be alright is slightly misplaced. People don't behave normally under extreme pressure. My mum - the nicest woman in the world - lost in her local telcos. She was getting supplies while my day was at home just before he died.

I wish we were allowed to laugh at life on here sometimes. I was quite enjoying the comedic hyperbole around people wanting to kill my dh because he has an anal change obsession. But it's all just grim now.

I'm off to the shops. I will do everything at a reasonable pace.

Personally I get more annoyed at the people who are in such a bloody rush that they are breathing down my neck at the checkout, pushing ahead, moving my stuff forward so they can put their stuff on the conveyor belt, getting impatient because I may not be moving as quickly as they would like.

Tough. I will go the pace I'm comfortable with. If you're that panicked over it, go to self checkout or shop online or what have you. But there's no need to crowd me or rush me. It's shopping FFS, it's not an ambulance run where seconds count.

Pagwatch you have my total sympathy. I remember my mum having much the same issue when my dad was dying of cancer - all shopping/errands/fresh air were crammed into the 2h when the Macmillan nurse came (and the weekends when I was up - I don't live nearby). Just because someone's not saving the world doesn't mean they're not extremely hard up for time.

The reason why it's grim, Pag is because it's not funny for people like me. It's all very well everyone coming on and having a laugh about what annoys them about people at the checkout erc, but when you are that person, through no fault of your own, it just makes you feel like shit.

I already know that people get pissed off with me in shops due to the fact I get huffed and puffed at, I get bumped out of the way with trollies and I get buggies up my ankles. I didn't need a "comedy" thread to tell me.

I saw a guy lose it in a train ticket queue once. He ended up being arrested.

He had a mobile phone jammed to his ear and wouldn't end his incredibly loud and angry conversation to actually ask for his ticket at the one open window - this is at morning rush hour - so people started going in front of him.

He went absolutely beserk. Anyway I think being arrested was too good for him. Knobber.

Some of us are naturally impatient. We can't help it. Some of us are naturally faffers (and I am excluding the elderly, disabled or otherwise sick or infirm here, before I get bleated at). I suppose they can't help it either.

I take 25 minutes to get ready in the morning, including shower, make up, hair etc. My colleague takes 2 hours. C'est la vie right??

I dont get the faffing either: health probs/disability forbidding, (If someoe is ill or disabled i of course get the need for understanding) you check you have your purse and its in its usual pocket before you go. You shouldnt wait til the shopping is all passed thru then look surprised that a) it needs packing b) they are asking for your money & then not be able to find the purse. Keep your purse in same place! Madness.

And whats with not moving off but standing there reading your till receipt and then fully reorganising your purse and handbag?

Where I live, the cashier gives you one receipt, followed by your change (notes) followed by another receipt, and any remaining coins on top. Grrr.

And no I don't think it's unreasonable to get annoyed by having to wait for ages because someone is faffing unnecessarily. It is annoying. I mean, good for you if you've got the time to waste standing in a queue, but if you haven't...

scrunchie -I'm not 'bleating'... and yeah, you're right, I 'cant help it' .

Sazzle - but what if you cant SEE that someone is ill / disabled / distracted because their mother died yesterday / they just lost their job / whatever...

Save your fury for things that really matter - like poverty, child abuse, etc