aibu to think the school can get fucked telling me what i can and can't put in packups

[InTheWhiteRoom]

ds is 8

he came home with a letter saying his pack up today was inappropriate. it was a very patronising letter "we promote healthy eating" and all that shit.... i can only assume this is because as I put a marshmallow in his pack up. a SINGLE marshmallow. along with his sandwich (cheese salad on granary) 2 bits of fruit and a yoghurt.

aibu to think I am the parent and I decide what goes in lunches?

jeez anyone would think his pack up was a can of coke and a packet of biscuits.

Is this a parallel universe where sweets in lunch boxes is ok? Because I don't think sweets have ever been allowed, even in the olden days when I was at school and lunch was a white bread sandwich, packet of crisps, chocolate bar and a carton of Ribena with the same wizened apple going back all week.

What do you think a chocolate bar is?

I know this is slightly off topic, but when did packed lunches start being called pack ups? This is a totally new term for me. Am I on my own?

I wonder if schools have got a bit over controlling these days.

Have always called it a pack-up ( I am 41)

In my family (of origin) it's not packed lunch or pack-up, but piece.

::channels the Broons::

Pack up was a term always used in my school( North of England)

My dad always called his packed lunches his SNAP

Snap..... 'I'll take that for my snap tomorrow'

I loathe the lunchbox police in any form. It amounts to schools treating parents like children, yet in the majority of cases there is no need for that. I get that a handful of idiotic parents will send in lunch consisting of mars bars and cans of coke, but it is crazy to send home a letter about a single marshmallow in an otherwise good lunchbox.

It makes me so glad that my children are no longer at primary school. There are some rules such as no nuts, which I adhere to but in 5 years of attending the school my daughter's lunchbox has never been checked to my knowledge.

I've been known to put kitkats and crisps / mini cheddars in her lunches along with other healthier stuff. Shoot me if you want to. Donning my flameproof suit now.

Haven't read all of the comments on this so please excuse me if I'm repeating what others have said!
Oh and 2cats2many, I also call it a pack up and I'm 22! Could just be areas, lol.

I agree and disagree.
Definitely think a pack up/packed lunch should be balanced out.
I was never one of those kids who had raw carrot sticks with a Humous dip, bottle of water, you get the gist...
I do remember having things along the lines of Capri Sun or some other juice drink, crisps, sandwich, a chocolate bar, an apple, and a fruit winder! I turned out ok health-wise, I haven't grew an addiction for chocolate or sweets or anything and I eat a balanced diet.

What do I think a chocolate bar is? Well it's not a sweet although i'll grant you both are confectionary.

The schools are damned if they do and damned if they don't.

My DD found herself been given the very unfortunate job of checking lunch boxes and at the great old age of 7 was shocked at what some children had in their boxes. School lunches in her school are really healthy though, no chips or burgers and a choice of fruit for pudding.

Sugar rushes are a myth

Hahahahahahahahaha!

Ha! As far as I'm concerned schools can start dictating what goes in packed lunches when they stop serving rubbish for school dinners! DD1 has type 1 diabetes and so requires insulin when she eats carbs, sugar etc. I have a nutritional analysis of school meals in order to calculate her insulin dose and the days she has a school dinner her insulin dose can be more than double that on days she has packed lunches. Double carbs anyone? Pizza and garlic bread? Followed by jam sponge and custard? Just let them stop me putting a little treat in her lunchbox!

Never heard of the expression 'Pack up'. Live and learn.
It's always been a packed lunch.

I genuinely can't get too worried about the school dictating to us what I can take. I quite like the guidance TBH and can see that it's a blunt instrument sometimes but can't get too worked up about it.

I'm from Yorkshire..we always took a pack up in my family, but when I read the thread title I knew some people wouldn't have heard of it before! I'm usually a meek follower of rules, but I have to say Id rather teachers focus on teaching ( which I know is wider than just the curriculum) than being the lunch box police. Yes , sadly, some parents can be irresponsible , but until they make you apply for a licence to have a kid, we have to accept that some will make better choices than others.

Did they say in the letter that it was the marshmallow? Or just that it was not a healthy meal? Sandwich and 3 or 4 lots of sugar... 2 fruit, marshmallow, yoghurt ( or was that unsweetened natural yoghurt?)

What type of yoghurt and what drink did you put in?
I ask because some people consider chocolate flavoured puddings to be yoghurt and send a can of coke as refreshment!
If those two parts of his lunch were healthy then the school have gone loopy!

Nowt to do with teachers. That one's not our circus, not our monkeys.

Generally we'd prefer that kids didn't eat crap, but we don't make the rules or enforce them.

I think it mean that they didn't let him eat it on this one occasion

It's way ott

I've worked in schools that you were grateful there was any food in their lunch box

What do I think a chocolate bar is? Well it's not a sweet although i'll grant you both are confectionary.

Surely, all confectionary are sweets? How can anything made primarily of sugar not be a sweet?

It's pack up in and around Hull.

In my family (of origin) it's not packed lunch or pack-up, but piece.

This really did make me LOL. My dad used to make his 'piece' up and wrap it in the wrapping the plain bread came in. Thanks so much for that memory of him that I'd forgotten about until tonight.

Some of the packed lunches I have seen in schools I can fully understand why there is the need for schools to have rules. Yes they should have some flexibility but at the same time they need to draw the line somewhere so if a no sweets rule is needed to help control things then fine. There is plenty of time at home for sweets if parents so wish.

Sweets (Skittles/lollies) are sweets. Chocolate is chocolate. Both are confectionary.

I'd like to see their school menu. If its really healthy then, they have a point. If not, then YANBU.