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DH, night shift and cheese...

123 replies

WyldChyld · 09/03/2015 19:44

DH is back on nights tonight and so is pretty grumpy (this is normal, he's aware of it and works hard to try not to be grumpy with me). We did a big shop this weekend with food which is supposed to last the two of us for one month as we're on a budget. Part of this food budget was cheese - 2 packs of 12 slices of gouda (or something like that), a big block of cheddar and some other assorted bits. I like cheese but DH really likes cheese.

I've just found out that out of the 24 slices of cheese, he has eaten 14. This includes 4 slices which he has taken for his supper tonight in sandwich form, 4 in cheese sandwiches late last night after I'd gone to bed because he was hungry, 2 maybe in some sandwiches today and because the others he was "picky-eating". I've gone mental about it - he's eaten two weeks worth of the damned cheese, and it's one that I actually like!!

I brought this up and was irritated with him, asking him how the hell did he eat it and why didn't he just have toast etc if he was hungry. He got angry that I had told him up ten minutes before he went to work and has ended up going off in a huff. He's gonna feel horrible tomorrow and be very remorseful, but I'm really upset that he's grumpy now and angry that he ate my damned cheese!

He is generally a really good husband, not normally greedy, pulls his weight around the house etc. I just wanted to know what you think - should I have not nagged him before he went to work? I just don't see a) why I should have to tell a grown man NOT to eat two weeks worth of cheese in one day, and b) why I shouldn't tell him what he's done is wrong just because he's going to work??

OP posts:
callamia · 09/03/2015 19:50

I think it's just cheese. Can't he buy some more on his way home from work?

TidyDancer · 09/03/2015 19:51

Are you serious? I can't imagine having that kind of reaction to someone just because of cheese.

monkeysox · 09/03/2015 19:52

Greedy and annoying when you're budgeting x

Oldraver · 09/03/2015 19:52

Is the stress worth a few quids worth of cheeses ? It sounds like this is a one off, and I bloody well bet he doesn't do it again for fear of a telling off.

cansu · 09/03/2015 19:52

Go be honest I would be a bit pissed off to be nagged for eating too much cheese. Maybe you could have just told him to buy some more cheese as he has eaten it all?

woollytights · 09/03/2015 19:52

YABU. I would be astounded if my partner went apeshit at me under the circumstances youve described.

CupidStuntSurvivor · 09/03/2015 19:52

I wouldn't nag before work (for something like this anyway). But I would definitely start separating the cheese into 'yours' and 'his'.

NiceCardigan · 09/03/2015 19:53

Sorry this made me laugh I can't imagine having a cheese row.

Humansatnav · 09/03/2015 19:54

Thank god you don't live in my house - all my shopping would disappear within hours if the dc ( 16 &20) had their way!

Fannydabbydozey · 09/03/2015 19:55

cheesus christ! That man needs cheesaholics anonymous.

Don't string him along op, by cheddar gorging on this much cheese he's really putting his health at risk.

ChipDip · 09/03/2015 19:56

Yabu, fighting over cheese, that's a new low!

ClassicTron · 09/03/2015 19:56

He's the grumpy one?

If things are really so tight that someone will be hungry as a result, then you both need to do something, otherwise FGS!

What would you have preferred him to have in his sandwiches? Next time, buy less of that and more cheese.

2 packs of sliced cheese is really not shopping on a budget. Just saying.

FernGullysWoollyPully · 09/03/2015 19:57

What is this?

Cheese

Grin
DH, night shift and cheese...
Cherrychocolate · 09/03/2015 19:57

Cheese must be really important to you op. Have you considered you may have been a mouse in a previous life?

kewtogetin · 09/03/2015 19:58

YABU.... Night shifts fuck your body up, they're unnatural, make you miserable and send your appetite haywire. As anyone who's ever had a baby will be able to identify with.....He's tired and hungry, give him a sodding break and buy some more cheese.

SpooneriseShinyTights · 09/03/2015 19:58

YAB Edam U. And ridiculous.

It's cheese. Either buy some more or live without. If DP dared to kick off at me for eating food from my own fridge I'd shove a wedge of Stilton up his (c)raclette.

The poor man(chego).

windchime · 09/03/2015 19:59

The poor bloke is comfort eating because he is on bloody awful night shifts. Cut him some slack. He has got to have something to look forward to.

BigbyWolf · 09/03/2015 19:59

I wouldn't get worked up about my Dh eating something that was supposed to last for days/weeks. It's just cheese.

I reckon that the 'pick your battles' thing applies to marriages as well as parenting.

myusernameisusername · 09/03/2015 20:00

Its cheese its like 2 for £3 for those slices in a pack Confused its there to be eaten unless you exepct him to worship it or something Biscuit

CoffeeBeanie · 09/03/2015 20:00

24 slices is 2 weeks ration of cheese?

0.5 slice per day per person.
He's had them as meals. YABU

youmakemydreams · 09/03/2015 20:01

I think YABU a little bit but I can totally understand why.
It isn't just a few quids worth of cheese when you are on a righ budget. In scheme of a tight food budget cheese is expensive and when you are trying to get to the next shopping day and have a nice equal share if Hingis it feels shitty and miserable when someone else is eating what is one of the expensive items when there are cheaper alternatives they can snack on as well.
You may have over reacted a bit but I totally get why and I know I have done similar in the past.

XLIX · 09/03/2015 20:02

My dh always works the night shift and is very cheese minded.

kewtogetin · 09/03/2015 20:02

Plus, if you're buying packs of sliced Gouda you're not really on that tight a budget....

AgentProvocateur · 09/03/2015 20:03

You sound really controlling, OP. He's an adult, eating food in his house after working nights.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 09/03/2015 20:03

I love crisps and eat shit loads and replace them. I'm sure he will do the same. It's cheese it can be replaced. Gouda is naff anyway

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