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DH, night shift and cheese...

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WyldChyld · 09/03/2015 19:44

DH is back on nights tonight and so is pretty grumpy (this is normal, he's aware of it and works hard to try not to be grumpy with me). We did a big shop this weekend with food which is supposed to last the two of us for one month as we're on a budget. Part of this food budget was cheese - 2 packs of 12 slices of gouda (or something like that), a big block of cheddar and some other assorted bits. I like cheese but DH really likes cheese.

I've just found out that out of the 24 slices of cheese, he has eaten 14. This includes 4 slices which he has taken for his supper tonight in sandwich form, 4 in cheese sandwiches late last night after I'd gone to bed because he was hungry, 2 maybe in some sandwiches today and because the others he was "picky-eating". I've gone mental about it - he's eaten two weeks worth of the damned cheese, and it's one that I actually like!!

I brought this up and was irritated with him, asking him how the hell did he eat it and why didn't he just have toast etc if he was hungry. He got angry that I had told him up ten minutes before he went to work and has ended up going off in a huff. He's gonna feel horrible tomorrow and be very remorseful, but I'm really upset that he's grumpy now and angry that he ate my damned cheese!

He is generally a really good husband, not normally greedy, pulls his weight around the house etc. I just wanted to know what you think - should I have not nagged him before he went to work? I just don't see a) why I should have to tell a grown man NOT to eat two weeks worth of cheese in one day, and b) why I shouldn't tell him what he's done is wrong just because he's going to work??

OP posts:
MumToFourCats · 09/03/2015 20:50

Anyone else got the need for cheese on toast?

NiceCardigan · 09/03/2015 20:54

I'm just off to have some cheese and crackers MumToFourCats

sonjadog · 09/03/2015 20:58

This thread reminded me I have some lovely goats cheese in the fridge...

I think YANBU, OP. I love cheese and would be very annoyed if someone ate my share. I suggest you only buy a little cheese at a time in future.

hopelesslydevotedtoGu · 09/03/2015 21:30

Your mistake was trying to buy a month's worth of cheese at once.
Cheese is delicious and moreish and will be eaten quickly.
It's like trying to buy a month's worth of chocolate cake- obviously it will all be eaten in the first week.
Keep your monthly shop for staples and buy cheese throughout the month if you need to ration it.

hopelesslydevotedtoGu · 09/03/2015 21:32

Oh, and night shifts are dreadful, let him eat whatever he wants to get through them. I often found the first night shift the hardest because you have had the least sleep prior.

SuperFlyHigh · 09/03/2015 21:34

You could always buy not so nice cheese and see if he falls for the bait... Yeah I know your DH isn't jerry! Grin

hiddenhome · 09/03/2015 21:38

We have cheese related arguments in our house. Ds1 eats too much cheese and dh goes crazy about it. Cue a huge argument Confused

Cheese obviously does this to people. Who'd have thought it Grin

OTheHugeManatee · 09/03/2015 21:39

I don't know how you camem-bear living with such a feta bastard.

RandomNPC · 09/03/2015 21:42

Having done my fair share over the years, any poor sod having to work nights should be allowed all the cheese he wants.

Morloth · 09/03/2015 21:44

God i love cheese.

YABU, chill the fuck out.

Doing a months shop would never work in our house. Between DH, preteen DS1, extra active DS2 and me after work/gym.

We would rip through it in a week (at most).

Iwouldratherbemuckingout · 09/03/2015 21:45

Just be thankful he didn't wrap the slices up in lovely ham ...... sigh, no cheese in this house due to bloody weight watchers and I'm gagging for some cheese on toast, gagging I tell you!

changingnameforthispost · 09/03/2015 21:47

Can't believe this discussion is stilt(going)on.

changingnameforthispost · 09/03/2015 21:48

Will you ever just leicester it go?

VanitasVanitatum · 09/03/2015 21:51

Oh god I need cheese on toast. Proper cheap plastic cheese..

I hate the word 'greedy'. Sometimes I just want to stuff my face, I would be really upset if my DP judged me for that. I love my dp and if he eats all of something I need it can be annoying but I would hate the idea of him fancying something, especially when he's tired and hungry, and not being able to have it.

Coffeemonster1 · 09/03/2015 22:02

It's not the fact it's cheese, it's the fact they have planned their shop, how long it needs to last and are on a budget which needs sticking too. If her OH eats things as and when he likes then spends more money on replacing it, this isn't part of their budget plan. It is annoying when you do a shop with specific items for a set meal plan, worked around who's cooking what nights etc and oh eats the ingredients, then complains there isn't anything for lunch/dinners!!!

Chillyegg · 09/03/2015 22:03

Gouda gracious me!

What do you call cheese that isn't yours? Nacho cheese

Yeah er YABU I'd text and apologise, I'd go apeshit at my DH if he decided to tell me what to eat and how much... There'd be de-Brie everywhere! Ahhhh now I want cheese and crackers!

canyou · 09/03/2015 22:21

My DP will eat anything that comes to hand is easy or does not need to be cooked. I freeze everything in portions yes even cheese as everyone in my house seems forget the freezer holds actual food as well Grin

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 09/03/2015 22:24

Let him eat the cheese, Edam it! Grin

Didactylos · 09/03/2015 22:35

Gouda you to admit you might brie unreasonable
perhaps if you discuss it Caerphilly you might find there is common ground, no matter how you slice it and then there will be Leicester argue about

Harverina · 09/03/2015 22:42

I am pissing myself at this thread Grin

Huge over reaction op.

That said it does seem a huge amount of cheese and sandwiches to be eating on too of meals.

I wouldn't be pissed off though.

Wadingthroughsoup · 09/03/2015 23:00

Oh, I Camembert it when people argue over cheese. Can't we all just Brie a bit more understanding about this?

cleanmyhouse · 09/03/2015 23:02

Wowsers.

We get through gazillions of cheese in this house. I just buy more.

ScathingContempt · 09/03/2015 23:09

I see your point, op, it's the fact that you're trying to make things last. People saying 'just buy more cheese', what's the point of a budget in that case?

I think he should buy you a pack of cheese out of his own personal spending fund, so you can shovel 14 slices in your face one day when you feel like it!

MkDaddy · 09/03/2015 23:30

Leave the man alone!! ITS CHEESE!! Of course cheese should be devoured asap, I mean it has to be eaten anyway right? So does it really matter how quickly it goes?

As a cheese monster myself I am pretty much the same. However my DW wouldn't dare tell me off like a school child, mainly because she's not weird enough to chide me over what I choose to eat and also because she knew right from the off that cheese is something I indulge in on a daily basis....it's not a surprise to her and neither should lt be to you!!!

Go and buy something for you to gorge on. Maybe you'll feel better.....

WilliamShatnersPants · 09/03/2015 23:49

You are definitely brie-ing unreasonable.

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