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DH, night shift and cheese...

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WyldChyld · 09/03/2015 19:44

DH is back on nights tonight and so is pretty grumpy (this is normal, he's aware of it and works hard to try not to be grumpy with me). We did a big shop this weekend with food which is supposed to last the two of us for one month as we're on a budget. Part of this food budget was cheese - 2 packs of 12 slices of gouda (or something like that), a big block of cheddar and some other assorted bits. I like cheese but DH really likes cheese.

I've just found out that out of the 24 slices of cheese, he has eaten 14. This includes 4 slices which he has taken for his supper tonight in sandwich form, 4 in cheese sandwiches late last night after I'd gone to bed because he was hungry, 2 maybe in some sandwiches today and because the others he was "picky-eating". I've gone mental about it - he's eaten two weeks worth of the damned cheese, and it's one that I actually like!!

I brought this up and was irritated with him, asking him how the hell did he eat it and why didn't he just have toast etc if he was hungry. He got angry that I had told him up ten minutes before he went to work and has ended up going off in a huff. He's gonna feel horrible tomorrow and be very remorseful, but I'm really upset that he's grumpy now and angry that he ate my damned cheese!

He is generally a really good husband, not normally greedy, pulls his weight around the house etc. I just wanted to know what you think - should I have not nagged him before he went to work? I just don't see a) why I should have to tell a grown man NOT to eat two weeks worth of cheese in one day, and b) why I shouldn't tell him what he's done is wrong just because he's going to work??

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Qwebec · 10/03/2015 00:33

I have a suggestion. I feel it's not really important who is unreasonable.
Try and find a solution that suits both of you.

My suggestion: Buy a block of cheese, cut it in two and give him one and you keep one. You can each both eat it at the pace you want.
I do this with popcorn. DP goes through the bag in 5 min. I like to take my time. by splitting the bag we are both happy. Life is too short to quabble about things like that, and they are the things that poison a relationship.
Oh and it's not your concern if he makes himself sick, he is a grown man it's up to him to take care of his health.

lertgush · 10/03/2015 02:04

I was just about to go to bed but now I must have some smelly cheese. Gouda-m you!

perfectlybroken · 10/03/2015 02:17

LTBEC let the bastard eat cheese.

AlpacaMyBags · 10/03/2015 02:36

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OwlinaTree · 10/03/2015 06:36

Wow, loving the cheese puns. You could point out he's eaten about 1400 calories just in cheese in one day! There must be healthier things to snack on.

BikeRunSki · 10/03/2015 07:00

This reminds me of Peanutbuttergate a few years ago.

WizardOfToss · 10/03/2015 08:53

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OTheHugeManatee · 10/03/2015 11:20

I think it was the fact that it was a whole 14 slices that tipped OP over tallegio. But she should raclette this go and they should have a conversation about sticking to the budget. Gouda communication is key to a healthy relationship

jemimapuddleduck208 · 10/03/2015 14:05

You're being utterly ridiculous. The man was hungry, FGS!

And if you're on a budget you shouldn't be buying such fripperies as sliced cheese anyway, so you can't be that skint.

owlborn · 10/03/2015 14:23

Now I want cheese! Mm....

BreakingDad77 · 10/03/2015 14:23

And if you're on a budget you shouldn't be buying such fripperies as sliced cheese anyway, so you can't be that skint

TRUTH

HopesDaddy · 10/03/2015 14:33

I think the OP is just a Laughing Cow.

Seriously though i have to go to the supermarket now to get cheese... damn you all.

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 10/03/2015 14:46

CHEESE-GATE the latest in a long line of absolutely bonkers responses over a mild thread. Not been so bemused since supemarket divider-gate.

Howling over the unintentional pun of "drip feeding" on a thread about food snaffling. You can only drip feed cheese if it's in a fondue.

"You sound controlling" because yeah, it's controlling to be pissed off that someone has munched their way through a stack of food that's meant to last a month as they're on a budget.

OP, YANBU to be hacked off that he's munched his way through, but there's worse things happen at sea.

MrsFrisbyMouse · 10/03/2015 15:14

Let it Gouda

BreakingDad77 · 10/03/2015 16:02

I can see though how that would grate....

hiccupgirl · 10/03/2015 16:10

Just get some more cheese. Seriously 24 slices for a month is hardly anything anyway. If you're on that tight a budget, Lidl or Aldi do cheap packs of presliced cheese or buy a block of Gouda which is cheaper than presliced.

I would be seriously teed off with my DH he had a go at me for eating food especially for I'd been up all night.

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WyldChyld · 10/03/2015 16:15

Thanks Keema haha. It was Aldi, hence being cheap, and as I did point out, we're on a budget because we're saving for something, not skint.

We've laughed about it now and he has admitted he felt bad for eating the cheese and was hoping I didn't notice tbh!

And just to point out, he hadn't been up all night - he hadn't started nights at the point he ate all the cheese.

I've already said in hindsight I was probably BU to bring it up when I did he before work

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LittleBairn · 10/03/2015 16:18

YANBU you are on a budget he knows this yet has been greedy with no consideration towards you or the family budget.
You may have gone OTT in your reaction but I can understand why you are upset.

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn · 10/03/2015 20:10

wyld good job he was going on nights really. That much cheese and he'd be having nightmares all night Grin

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WyldChyld · 10/03/2015 22:27

Keema - it was the night before he started nights when he ate the cheese, I thought he seemed very fidgety that night!!

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thatsucks · 10/03/2015 22:33

I'm probably being a Laughing Cow about this, but it's ridiculous to be havarti-ing a go at your husband over a few slices of cheese.

SylvaniansAtEase · 10/03/2015 22:44

Yes OP I don't think he Emmental that upset to ensue. Glad it's sorted.

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WyldChyld · 10/03/2015 23:16

Honestly, talk about Edam if you do and Edam if you don't... Sorry, the cheese puns looked quite fun!

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