A six year old should be capable of feeding himself?

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My friend still has to sit and physically feed her 6 and half year old. He'll feed himself at school but once home it's her job again. Aibu to think 'sort it out?'.

You might feel promoting independence is the most important thing, others might argue that promoting emotional security in early childhood is the most important thing, for example.

The child is 4! Doing nice things for her because it makes her happy is a reasonable choice. Not one I'd make personally with the examples given, but perfectly reasonable. I don't think Keturah needs to prepare her daughter to be an orphan just yet!

As for OP, I would definitely go with 'these are the rules in my house', after checking with mum that she's ok with that. I wouldn't accept children running round during mealtimes unless they had additional needs OP is as yet unaware of.

This has nothing to do with "emotional" security though? Who said anything about that? I said I wouldnt back track on something a child learned to do.

I have friends who pander to what I consider woeful behaviour of their children. However I always remind myself that until my young children turn 33 and are generally acknowledged as marvellous individuals by one and all, I'll keep my judgy pants opinion to myself.

I think that comes down to a point of view Pretty! If my children want to be cuddled or carried or helped even with things they could do by themselves because it makes them feel secure and loved, I'm happy to do that. I value that over "independence". You feel differently about your children, not helping them do things they could do themselves and ensuring they are not reliant on you is a priority.

Lets agree to disagree here then Keturah

Because all of those Greeks, Italians and Spaniards are grossly overweight and yet Americans and Brits why typically stop feeding their babies at around one......

Oh wait.

who. Whoooooo.

Oh bloody hell. It's not doing you any harm, so why so bothered?

Perfect parents with their perfect kids, eh?

here we go.. witching hour

we were having a bit of a disagreement on parenting, no big deal then the whitty sarcastic spins come out on the back of it as usual.

blogs.psychcentral.com/single-at-heart/2012/06/leaving-home-in-15-countries-how-old-are-the-grown-children-when-they-leave-and-how-far-do-they-go/

But they might leave home later....

I have a friend with a ten year old dd. Went out for a meal and she got up, stood behind the child and physically cut all her food to into bite size pieces. (No SN I add).

Always the same people. Do you live on here? You really get on my nerves. Are you so damn bored and life isnt that great?

TBH I feel like you made the discussion ridiculous at 21:50. I probably would not have come back to the thread were it not for that comment, because it was getting circular anyway.

I don't post to inflame, or to goad. I might try to raise a smile but that's it.

Anyway yes my life is great thank you :) It's nice to have time to be bored. And I am going to bed shortly anyway.

Of course you are free to ignore any comments you like and continue on with the discussion.

I can be as ridiculous as I like thank you very much Bertie. Yes you do inflame and your posts always depict this in my eyes, they are funny in a non-funny way. But heyho that is my opinion.

Pointing out an actual time of a post smacks of... ummmmm... I would be kicked off for saying what I think about that.

nunite.

I can be as ridiculous as I like thank you very much

On holidays to my homecountry and today having my niece over who is almost 6 and still spoon fed. I had a fight with my mother because she even spoon feeding her cake . I was like this is not even healthy food, if she doesn't want to eat sweets better she doesn't eat them . The background is my niece is really fussy food which I get and is completely normal but not only she will not anything outside the few things she eats but also wants to be spoon fed. They even went on a school day trip with parents and while she was in the kids table she asked her mother to go and spoon feed her . If she eats something she doesnt like she vomits and is generally discussed easily from food. I am mentioning only the mother as my brother is away for work for long periods. I am getting preoccupied as my mother claims she is babysitting only a couple of days per week during summer and is not her responsibility to educate her and my sister in law and her family is spoon feeding her and they don't even try to stop that. I am the bad auntie that every time I visit I complain for her being spoon fed. She is a really clever energetic and communicative little girl but denies to eat by her self. Is that normal? I am afraid the reason could be psychological. Should I speak to my brother when he is back to ask specialist help? I still cannot understand how a kid wants to be spoon fed even a cake and when I said no she just didn't eat it .