to give access to unlimited fruit but virtually no sugar or juice

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I give my DC access to virtually unlimted fruit but they rarely have sugar or proccesed foods and no sugary drinks. I find with fruit it is easy to self regulate and that's not something most people can do with processed foods. Had a sleepover and when I told the mum how much fruit her dd had eaten she looked horrified as if I had given her poison. When I know my dd had beans on toast (sugar) with orange juice and ice cream. I found this less than ideal but I said nothing.

Aibu or is she?

OP, was the fruit the friend ate part of a meal, or did she eat that over a long period of time? Either way, it sounds a lot. And how do you know exactly how much she ate? Were you watching her the whole time?

a few grape, blue berries, blood orange, banana and mango.

This thread is like pulling teeth. So was it one blood orange, one banana and one mango or pieces of each?

Everything in moderation surely.

Some fruit is great. Tons of fruit - not so great. It's full of sugar and bad for teeth (acid). You will be encouraging a sweet tooth, even though it's "good" sweet.

Nothing wrong with beans on toast

Yabu it was unlimited snacking on fruit that led my ds to having a filling. The dentist advised to keep fruit to mealtimes wherever possible, it's not just the sugar that's the problem, the fruit acid will damage the enamel. Plus constant grazing on anything isn't great for teeth either.

Am not sure why she was shocked, maybe her dc doesn't usually eat much fruit. I would find it hard to be about the beans on toast meal.

Fruit is full of sugar, so don't be so judgemental of the baked beans.

A whole mango would flummox me - they're a bugger to peel.

Well I would be shocked because if you have my ds unlimited access to fruit you would have none left! My ds loves fruit and doesn't like cakes or chocolate. Wonderful I hear you say -but gettibg him to eat anything else used to be a real battle as he wasn't putting on weight. So whilst ds would love your house rule it would make my heart sink!

You've managed to sound judgy and smug all at once! I'm not sure that's how you meant it to come across.

Little bear - have you tried hedgehog cutting it? Still a bugger round the stone but now dc are older I let one of them chew the flesh off the stone!

Oh god, not another one of these

Nope not going to lead to obesity, will lead to enamel erosion.
I would take fruit into work for breakfast and lunch. Did this for years.
Dentist told me that my enamel has seriously eroded away.i hardly have any left.
First thing he asked me was whether i ate a lot of fruit.
Acidic fruits are the worst, so unlimited access to fruit is not a good thing.

LittleBear that was what I was thinking! We had some mangoes in a fruit box and I did them one each last night and it was a right PITA.

Then I sat down and after they had consumed it about 1 minute later said can we have another one. And I said No I can't be arsed you can have some more tomorrow why not have a yoghurt or a piece of (don't worry OP it was homemade) cake.

OP must spend her entire life up and down preparing fruit. If someone told me I could have as much fruit as I wanted damn right i'd be saying "can you do me some more mango?" every 30 seconds

Hence the popularity of bananas in this house.

Yes Snowman it is better you're right but I can't see a child doing it abd I always end up a mangoey mess either way. It may just be me

Possibly the look she gave wasn't horror but surprise that her DC ate fruit? My friend bemoans the fact that her DC will not try anything new and lives on about half a dozen bland foods. I'm sure she doesn't believe me when I tell her what her child eats when left with me. Children will often eat different foods when copying their peers that they would refuse (or are not expected to try) in their own homes.

The 'unlimited' idea can lead to obesity
The 'must get in 5 a day' of something idea could lead to obesity
The idea young children can 'self regulate' could lead to obesity

Yabu

Peoples idea of food these days is all screwed up. Too many people worried about too much of this and not enough that.

We cook some from scratch meals, some quick out of the freezer meals, or a jar of something and some smaller beans on toast, jacket potato meals. Some meals are meat and veg, salads,some are pasta based and some occasionally (although as a family we aren't that fussed) include chips.

As snacks my dc eat fruit, yoghurts, biscuits, crisps and dum dum duuum, chocolate although none of these including the fruit are unlimited. Usually something fruit or yoghurt in a morning, same in afternoon or a biscuit and they choose after tea if they have finished all their meal.

None of us are overweight. In fact, my 2 elder dc are probably under, they are all healthy and teeth are perfect.

Everything in moderation. The children who have never had a lot of sugar, choc etc are usually the ones that gorge on it once they can do what they like (aka teenager).

No food should be "unlimited".

In our complex world of plenty and science, humans need to control and regulate their diet.

Are you talking a nice fruit salad after the meal? That sounds great if so. Also the odd green apple in between meals

I would probably offer veg sticks instead of snacking endlessly on fruit though. And protein - so nuts, seeds, eggs

Maybe she was more shocked than horrified if her daughter doesn't eat a lot of fruit at home?

Perhaps she was horrified that you were listing what her child had eaten in your company or maybe she thought you were suggesting that these were all new foods for her child. Looking horrified doesn't give you the reason why!

I'd be a little disturbed if someone gave me the low down on what my child ate. I might be neglectful but I really don't give a crap what they eat, as long as they have fun.

I would be too fruit is full of sugars and very acidic, I much prefer my dds to have access to more vegetables personally as it's far more healthy. Lot's of slices of peppers, avacado, kale, spinach, slices of cucumber, sliced carrots, peas in the pod etc.

I think unlimited fruit is as bad as fruit juice etc you aren't doing your dd any favours

True Tom.

If I was collecting a child and they gave me a list of foods that had been consumed I'd think it was a bit peculiar my mum does this

She was probably thinking why the heck is she giving me a rundown of what's been eaten, down to the level of type of orange. I would have been. And yabu for criticising the food she gave to your daughter. I'm just glad if my little girl has a great time and grateful to the parent for looking after her.

I agree with those suggesting that her look was a reaction to you listing in detail what her DD ate rather than to her eating too much fruit - I always have to ask my child what they've eaten (if for some reason I want to know - usually I don't but if we're going straight on somewhere else I might want to know whether they arelikely to be hungry soon). I can't think that I've ever been told or been asked what a child ate when playing at another child's house - perhaps she wondered what you were leadingup to (an invoice? :o )

Those lecturing you for giving unlimited fruit are being sanctimonious - the only children I've met who gorge themselves are ones for whom snacking or certain foods are forbidden or very strictly and obviously restricted (oh the tantrums of the little girl who hadn't been allowed processed sugar under 5 when her mother wouldn't let her eat practically the whole of her chocolate 5th birthday cake)...

Most kids would eats tonnes if offered unlimited grapes, mango etc. Not so much apples and bananas I would anyway. I'm always right in the breakfast fruit salad at hotels trying to avoid the apple

Unlimited grapes and mango would just be prohibitively expensive! I must admit I think of my kids as having access to unlimited fruit (theyddon't have to ask for fruit or vegetables but do for everything else) but the only things we always have are apples, bananas (and actually not always as I don't go shopping just for bananas, so if they run out it might be a day or two til I buy more) and usually pears... and carrot and cucumber. I buy grapes once or twice a week