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many people here have no idea what it's like to have money worries

137 replies

suzzieanneba46 · 07/03/2015 08:47

There seems to be a huge divide on here with many clearly having no clue what its like to have money problems. I do ok, I manage a good life but all it takes is a few bad events and my finances are in tatters. Loads of people that suggested I shouldn't fly because I wanted to save some money by avoiding ridiculous airport parking fees. When you have been forced to start putting everything on a credit card and know you won't be able to pay it off for months and will have to pay eye watering interest, then yes 50 pounds is a lot of money!

OP posts:
turquoiseamethyst · 07/03/2015 09:46

Honestly, I behaved very out of character when bereaved.

Please back off some of you

ilovesooty · 07/03/2015 09:48

I might turquoise if the OP weren't so rude and offensive under every single name she uses on here.

Pipbin · 07/03/2015 09:55

Parking might not be considered as part of the cost of the flight, but getting yourself to the airport will cost some money unless you can walk the whole way.

SnottyCowbag · 07/03/2015 09:55

I don't think you have to have been skiing yourself to understand 'being skint'. Confused.

I'm one of the posters who was supportive of the OP in the other thread and I fly buisness or first. It's pod parking all the way for me at Heathrow. Blush. It doesn't make me unable to understand that £50 is a lot of money.

I understand why the OP is fed up of the sarcastic posts from people assuming she is wasting money going on a holiday.

OP - I'd hide the thread. Wink

turquoiseamethyst · 07/03/2015 09:57

Well I didn't know that.

I just know 2 days after hearing about my dad I screamed down the phone at the funeral director. I still feel so awful for that and I apologised so much and went back with flowers and s card the next day but I just felt so angry and lost it.

I feel so sorry for the op as she has been out of order but when you're stressed repeating yourself can make you snappy: I get like that too as I feel like I have to justify myself.

Nightingalemumoftwo · 07/03/2015 09:57

YANBU
my perception is that most posters on here are comfortable. Lucky them Smile

Purplepoodle · 07/03/2015 09:58

Arnt most people 3 pay packets away from poverty. We certainly don't have contingency funds anymore as it's a scrape month to month

forago · 07/03/2015 09:59

I'm not poor anymore buy when I was very hard up (probably not actually poor) a car wasn't even on my radar. poor people can't buy, tax, or run a car, never mind airport park one. nor can they buy flight tickets, for whatever purpose. so whilst I sympathise with how you're feeling and money being tight, you have a car and internet connection which many people don't so I doubt that things are much different for you than a lot of people on MN (not all of course, there are extremes of wealth like in life)

instead of complaining on here, have you tried one of the many airport parking websites? you can often get it very cheap with discounts if you book in advance and use the comparison sites and more so if you're prepared to park away from the airport and get a courtesy shuttle bus. We leave our car at Gatwick for 2 weeks for £60 so if you are going for less time than that you should be able to get it down to £30/40 I'd have thought, if that helps.

TheSolitaryWanderer · 07/03/2015 10:01

Could your partner not take you? A friend?
How do non-drivers get to the airport?

ilovesooty · 07/03/2015 10:09

No turquoise I wasn't criticising what you said. Smile
I know I was on the receiving end of the OP's unkindness and rudeness a few months ago, she's name changed several times since and her posts are characteristically rude, provocative and obnoxious every single time.

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 07/03/2015 10:10

Also OP, you said on our other heartwarming thread that you only paid £900 for your car and didn't really care if someone keyed it etc as it as you weren't particularly bothered about it.

I also remember your 'tipping' thread. And the gym one. You're clearly not on the breadline. Some are. YOU have your set of priorities and being tight over parking (and then repeatedly slagging off anyone who disagrees with you) is what is acceptable to you.

I know some on here are down to their last 50p with no options. They may be a little Hmm about this latest thread. You obviously think that everyone else is loaded and no one understands poor old you.

And you have been extremely rude and aggressive to people who have taken the time to reply to you. I would get a few manners before starting any other threads about your trip/money/whatever.

Yes, YABU.

turquoiseamethyst · 07/03/2015 10:13

I know you weren't ils Daffodil

BalloonSlayer · 07/03/2015 10:17

FGS!

OP, I posted on the other thread. I do not live near the airport you are flying from, but another one. If you were flying from "my" airport I would quite happily keep an eye on your car and I would even drop you off and pick you up from the airport too if I was able - as I have done for others, as do all my friends and neighbours. It's considered completely normal living here. I couldn't believe the responses you got on that thread.

Higheredserf · 07/03/2015 10:26

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SnottyCowbag · 07/03/2015 10:48

ILoveSooty. Ooh! Now I understand your posts on the other thread. I was a bit Hmm at the 'tone' of them. It makes sense now I know you were trying to piss her off deliberately because she pissed you off in other threads.

turquoiseamethyst · 07/03/2015 10:52

That's not fair snotty

I think it is fair to say ils doesn't suffer fools gladly but I've never known her lack compassion.

ilovesooty · 07/03/2015 11:02

snotty I disagreed with her regardless of her posting history. I wasn't trying to piss her off on purpose but I do admit that my feelings about her posts are probably affected by her serial name changing, how rude and provocative she us every time and the run in I had with her many names ago - around Christmas. She was personally very antagonistic to me then.
Thanks turquoise I'd like to think I don't in general lack compassion but I don't have a lot of time for posters who are transparent serial name changers who post provocatively, rudely and in an attention seeking way then object when people disagree with them.

SnottyCowbag · 07/03/2015 11:09

Ok, probably best to avoid her threads though. I thought there were a lot of overly aggressive posts on the other thread. I'm all for posters disagreeing with each other but I don't understand why people have to be so aggressive.

It is one of the reasons that I think MN should have a hide poster function.

There is one poster that pisses me off (really boastful and really opinionated) and I find it hard not look at her comments objectively.

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IonaMumsnet · 07/03/2015 11:12

Morning, morning. What 'ave we got 'ere then? This all looks a bit bunfighty from the top of MN Towers. Could we have a bit of peace and love on this lovely Saturday morning, please?

turquoiseamethyst · 07/03/2015 11:13

In fairness there is one poster I just want to SLAP.

And she ALWAYS posts where I do! Grin swear she knows and does it on purpose ...

ilovesooty · 07/03/2015 11:13

I could avoid her threads snotty I agree, but if you're posting on a phone you can't see who's started a thread and as she name changes so often it's not always immediately obvious it's her yet again until you've read it. Once I have I find her attitude something I want to question.

turquoiseamethyst · 07/03/2015 11:14

Sorry Iona Blush Daffodil

ilovesooty · 07/03/2015 11:15

Sorry Iona. I think the thread invited bun fighting - quite intentionally in my opinion - but I'll shut up now Smile

wickedlazy · 07/03/2015 11:16

If I can't afford it, I can't buy it. That's how I live my life.
This is us.

I can't actually afford to run a car so no, I can't empathise with your dilemma.
This is us.

If someone is really, truly skint then no matter what the reason for catching a plane they just wouldn't be able to do it
This is us too. Can you not have the documents faxed/mailed to you? Then sign them and mail them back tracked first class delivery (less than £10, much cheaper than flights..?)

£50 isn't a lot of money - even if you don't have it it's still not a lot of money, just means you don't have it...
This is true. I wouldn't have it spare at the minute, but it's not a huge amount. If I really truly needed it, I would probably ask the bank to extend my overdraft. When I was a working teenager living at home, I regularly blew this within 5 minutes on amazon. (The good old days).

When I say I'm skint I mean I'm lucky if I have £0.53 in the bank and £0.25 in purse!
Yes! But if your bills are paid, you have food and toiletries, it's fine. If your electric has just run out, you've eaten the last of your food, used the last of your toilet paper and you haven't topped up the gas for while, that's poverty. And I've been this close. It's a very fine line the breadline (thank god I've always scrapped through money wise).

I'd get the bus there and leave the car at home. Would this not be the obvious solution?

Arnt most people 3 pay packets away from poverty We're quite honestly one away. One missed payment and we'd be screwed.

53Dragon · 07/03/2015 11:19

OP you're right. I'm lucky enough not to have money worries but I know a lady who has been saving for months to buy herself a season ticket for the zoo - it costs £93.75 but she lives on a small pension so she can only afford to put away a little each month.