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many people here have no idea what it's like to have money worries

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suzzieanneba46 · 07/03/2015 08:47

There seems to be a huge divide on here with many clearly having no clue what its like to have money problems. I do ok, I manage a good life but all it takes is a few bad events and my finances are in tatters. Loads of people that suggested I shouldn't fly because I wanted to save some money by avoiding ridiculous airport parking fees. When you have been forced to start putting everything on a credit card and know you won't be able to pay it off for months and will have to pay eye watering interest, then yes 50 pounds is a lot of money!

OP posts:

adsy · 07/03/2015 09:05

well why are you flying then OP?

Moresproutsplease · 07/03/2015 09:05

Money has been tight for me for most of my life but what I do when I'm skint is economise, ie cut right down on my spending.

And I wouldn't come on here and be bloody rude to people.

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suzzieanneba46 · 07/03/2015 09:06

Sorry pip I didn't mean it to sound as aggressive as that, it was more a sarcastic remark. I'm just getting a bit tired of everyone assuming the only reason you can have for using an airport is to go on holiday. I dream of having a holiday in the sun ATM.

Yes its all those remarks about "its only x just pay it" they are not useful at all when you don't have x.

OP posts:

adsy · 07/03/2015 09:07

Are you flying somewhere to attend an anger management course?
"out with anger, in with love".

ClashCityRocker · 07/03/2015 09:08

Well, if you don't want people to disagree with you, and you can't afford the £50 anyway, why start a thread about it?

Posters don't know your financial circumstances. If you've got to do it, you've got to do it. Starting a thread implies you don't have to do it, therefore you can afford to pay the money.

BallroomWithNoBalls · 07/03/2015 09:09

How are you going to get from where you've parked to the airport?

AuntieStella · 07/03/2015 09:10

Whatever it's about, it's become a TAAT, as OP is depending on people having knowledge from some other thread (which I haven't read) in order to make sense of this one.

I have no idea why it's being rehashed now. Perhaps because OP didn't get the answers she liked, and now we're all mean bitches?

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 07/03/2015 09:10

I know what you mean, OP. I do not havd extra 60 quid to pay on top 450 to book specific seats. Apparently that makes me foolish, entitled and what not.

cleanmyhouse · 07/03/2015 09:12

I can't actually afford to run a car so no, i can't empathise with your dilemma.

Aladyinsane · 07/03/2015 09:13

You're angry because people gave their opinion, which you asked for, on an opinion site. If you really can't afford it then do what you need to do, but don't get pissed off When a bunch of strangers give you the 'wrong' opinion.

Perfectlypurple · 07/03/2015 09:13

Fed, of course people understand what it's like to have no or little money. People shouldn't expect people to not do things because others can't, and putting everything on a credit card to me is not having a good life.

I live a good life with decent salaries for me and dh. I won't apologise for it as we work hard for what we have but that could easily all go. I have been under threat of redundancy twice in the last 4 years, many of my colleagues lost their jobs. It could have been me. If it had happened our life style would have drastically changed. I and most people of course have empathy with others in rl and here. There will always be loads of replies on threads asking for help and advice on coping with little money.

Your attitude on here stinks quite frankly.

MaggieGreene · 07/03/2015 09:13

I agree there are many people who don't know what it's like to live on the breadline, just as there are many who do. I'm doing ok at the moment, as in I can afford a weekly shop and my children won't go hungry. I can just about afford to pay my utilities and can afford to pay £10 per month for a sim only mobile contract. I can only afford this because my dd gets DLA and honestly it's what keeps us from starving. I am shit scared of the DWP deciding to stop it at any point which we know they can. In the past DH and I have had to decide whether to put £5 on the electric meter or whther to spend the £5 on food. Thankfully it's been a few years since we were in that position.

I think if you come back and explain yourself a little more OP people wouldn't be getting pissed off with you. Telling people to fuck off and getting aggressive because they haven't read your other thread is a little childish. There's hundreds of threads on here! I read the first few posts of your parking thread and then clicked on something else. I haven't got a clue what your flying for!

adsy · 07/03/2015 09:14

If someone is really, truly skint then no matter what the reason for catching a plane they just wouldn't be able to do it. So I think you are rather guilty of not knowing what it's like to be very poor.

pictish · 07/03/2015 09:15

Well look...people can only dole out advice from their own perspective. I'm not sure what your expectations were, and why it has annoyed you that they were not met. This is an anonymous public forum with all sorts posting.

Fairenuff · 07/03/2015 09:15

OP, just to clarify, are you the poster that started a thread about parking in a residential area and walking two miles to the airport to save £50?

UpMyOwnArseMoneyFlinger · 07/03/2015 09:17

Oh God, please ask for this thread to be deleted. You are making a fool of yourself op.

MaryWestmacott · 07/03/2015 09:18

OP- most people factor in the costs to get to/from the airport in the "can I afford this flight?" decision. bit like travel insurance and any hotel booking needed. Very few people travel for reasons other than holidays or work (where the parking or taxi would be a business expense and refunded) - it's not something most people would assume you were doing.

You asked on the other thread if you were being unreasonable to want to park outside a random person's house for 2 weeks. People said you were, people thinking about it from the point of view of the person who's house you would be parking outside. That doesn't become less unreasonable and less irritating just because you can't afford the £50 parking.

It's shit not to be able to do stuff because of money. It's also not other people's fault. Leave your car for 2 weeks, it might be fine. It might be reported as abandoned and towed. And it'll cost you more than £50 to get it back.

Have you looked at someone giving you a lift if you paid for the petol? (which you'll have to pay for anyway).

thatsucks · 07/03/2015 09:20

You are spectacularly rude, OP.

Not read your other thread - it's not actually a legal requirement to read the OP's previous threads before reading a current one FYI.

Many people on MN have money worries and give very good, very thoughtful advice because of that.

Maybe sort out your anger and bitterness as that might alleviate some of your negative feelings about money too.

fattymcfatfat · 07/03/2015 09:20

well im a single mum with (nearly) 3 children on benefits. I have never been abroad. I suffer from spd/pgp amd an unstable spine, but have to walk everywhere as I cant afford bus fare never mind running a car. I dont get any extra help from the government for my mobility problems as its supposed to just magically disappear once ive given birth. it doesn't.

so yes I understand money worries. as do most people. some people are very lucky and dont have those worries. but that is everywhere you look in society not just here.

TheSolitaryWanderer · 07/03/2015 09:20

It's not just on here, it's everywhere in the world. Or just in one town. or one street.
I've thought I was poor, then I home-visited people who had way less than me and I had a better understanding of where I was on that scale. I was very poor as a student for 4 years and often chose between essentials. We used to meet up at someone's house to eat together, different houses over the week.
Now we are not well off, but can afford the mortgage and bills so we're doing OK. No frills though.

tobysmum77 · 07/03/2015 09:21

yes, that's correct. She is offended because people pointed out that getting to the airport and parking is part of the cost of the trip. Of course legally she can park where she likes and walk too departures. But apparently according to someone local cars are often vandalised where she is suggesting. Coming back to slashed tyres will cost more than 50 quid, potentially. I don't think anyone knows why she is flying, I certainly don't anyway.

Koalafications · 07/03/2015 09:22

MsMcWoodle · 07/03/2015 09:22

I know what you mean op.
Also, if you had little money and did want to go on holiday ( I know this isn't a holiday) then I wouldn't blame you either.
What's wrong with trying to cut back where you can?
The only thing is, re the parking, don't do it. Our car was parked in our street in front of our house when we went away. Another car hit it, pushing it our into the road. If our neighbours hadn't pushed it back again I don't know what would have happened.

mayfridaycomequickly · 07/03/2015 09:22

Fuck off with the assuming everyone's read your other thread and memorised details of your holiday / non holiday drama.

turquoiseamethyst · 07/03/2015 09:23

As a general point I agree with the op.

I do think mumsnet shifts from 'find £1000 from your backside' to 'of course a family of five can live on £5 a week.'

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