Was this Mum rude or did I ask for it?

[Rollergirl1]

DD having a friend after school that has never been before. I texted the Mum saying was planning to get pizza in and is there anything that her DD specifically doesn't like. The mum texted back saying that they'd had pizza yesterday and could I give them something else.

I'm a bit gobsmacked. Was just wanting to find out if child didn't like mushrooms or pineapple. But then I did ask....

Rude, I would have just let you know of any toppings she didn't like.

How rude! As if a child would decline another pizza.

She did say 'could' not 'make sure'

Tbh I wouldn't care if my son had pizza twice and wouldn't even mention it.

Yes you did ask

Rude. Nothing wrong with pizza two days running.

Maybe she misunderstood it as more of a 'is pizza ok?' sort of question. Otherwise it is rude, but if you haven't bought the food yet then it's easy enough just to get something else I suppose.

Other Mum was rude.

I think she was rude.
So I'd provide a meal most children eat - pasta - and give choice of (jar) tomato sauce or not, cheese, butter or plain...

rude Imo.

ok if child was allergic or really didn't like it. but not ok to dictate what you cook on the basis of their meal plans.

What a bitch.

Make gruel. Text a photo of it to her.

She was rude, but it's easy to misunderstand when texting.

Just give them pizza and say that it is what your child wanted as the teatime play date treat. Twice in a row doesn't hurt them and it is not as though she doesn't agree with her child having pizza at all!

Very rude. I'd text back and say "that wasn't the question"

"bitch"? Nice misogynistic word right there

Very rude!

Rude!

Rude!

Incredibly rude! When it's her turn to reciprocate; text her to let her know your dd fancies some fillet steak.

I've been out of the school run business for years now (pre mobile phones). Please tell me how you get the mobile number if it's the first time this child has been to your house. Does the class tutor give out a list of contacts or something?

And why didn't you ask the visiting child herself what she liked to have on a pizza?

Lesson learned, next time you have a child over to tea you ask "any allergies or dislikes?" and leave it there.

YABU you asked!

Maybe the parent gave the OP her number as her DD is going there....it's really not difficult to understand how and why one parent has another parent's number

Text back saying

Well my dad will be having pizza would you like me to give your dad a choice between beans on toast and pizza, as mine certain ly doesn't want to miss out on pizza night!

I just ask the other mum for contact details Eve.

I also routinely ask, if DCs friends are coming over, the mums if there is anything they won't eat. IME it's much easier, then you know they will like, or not, what you are cooking.