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Was this Mum rude or did I ask for it?

86 replies

Rollergirl1 · 06/03/2015 13:23

DD having a friend after school that has never been before. I texted the Mum saying was planning to get pizza in and is there anything that her DD specifically doesn't like. The mum texted back saying that they'd had pizza yesterday and could I give them something else.

I'm a bit gobsmacked. Was just wanting to find out if child didn't like mushrooms or pineapple. But then I did ask....

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Hissy · 06/03/2015 13:40

Your best bet here love is to buy margheritas and bits and bobs that the kids can put on themselves.

Other mum was ridiculously rude!

countessmarkyabitch · 06/03/2015 13:41

I wouldn't have said it, but I don't see how its particularly rude. You hadn't bought pizza already, its not putting you out. Maybe her kid won't eat pizza again and she didn't want you to waste your money. Who knows?
It is an MN obsession to find everyone and everything "rude" though.

WyrdByrd · 06/03/2015 13:42

Giving her the benefit of the doubt, perhaps her DD only eats pizza under sufferance? One of my DD's friend's can't stand tomatoes so she won't eat it.

I, on the other hand, have the only child known to humankind who won't eat pasta Confused!

LeahSmith · 06/03/2015 13:42

Very rude! Hmm

Witchofthenorth · 06/03/2015 13:44

Mine too Wyrd....my youngest daughter refuses to touch the stuff Confused pain in the ass when I'm fiscally challenged!

PenelopeChipShop · 06/03/2015 13:46

I don't think its that bad, you asked! Why is everyone obsessed with taking offence at the slightest thing?! You can do what you like but you can't control how other people react / interpret your texts.

WyrdByrd · 06/03/2015 13:54

Isn't it just Witch - I've probably also offended countless mums who have texted me prior to a playdate "Spag bol ok? All kids eat that don't they?"

The aggro we had when she was a bridesmaid at my friend's wedding a few years ago was ridiculous - the venue wanted all the children to have the same thing (there were only 3 attending) - but all but one option involved either mince, mash or pasta and of course the one thing DD would eat wasn't something the other 2 would.

We got it sorted eventually but I did end up offering to take her a packed 'lunch' at one point!

WyrdByrd · 06/03/2015 13:55

the other two wouldn't

ThatBloodyWoman · 06/03/2015 13:58

Cheeky.
I cba to be outraged about it.

mimishimmi · 06/03/2015 13:59

Did she ask you to have her DD over on a playdate? Something about the reply makes me think she did .... and she wants to make sure that the nutritional value of the food her child gets on a 'playdate' --free after school care provided by mugged over mums- is optimal.

Gruntfuttock · 06/03/2015 14:00

"Your best bet here love is to buy margheritas and bits and bobs that the kids can put on themselves."

Bad idea. It'd be wasteful and messy. Suggest they put it on their pizzas instead.

Sorry Blush

seaoflove · 06/03/2015 14:01

Haha! SO RUDE.

LittleBairn · 06/03/2015 14:04

It suprises me you find her rude for such a simple request yet it is perfectly fine to post about her on MN and encourage posters to pour scorn on her over such a minor issue.

nobutreally · 06/03/2015 14:05

Really, is this breathtakingly rude? You obviously haven't bought it yet, and you did ask.
I wouldn't ever say it (I might say 'ooh, s/he'll be delighted - pizza two days running'), but I wouldn't be outrageously offended to receive the text either.

Witchofthenorth · 06/03/2015 14:10

I didn't read the OP egging us on little

She asked for an opinion and even kind of conceded that perhaps she was BU by the "I did ask..." At the end of her post.

What I personally find rude about it is that she is having another child round for a play date, she is feeding this child. What is the actual harm in the child having pizza two nights in a row? In my opinion, the other mum should have just told her what toppings she didnt like and leave it at that.

The poster doesn't have to work round other peoples meal plans. If any if mine are round at friends for tea, I couldn't care if they had a duplicate of the previous nights dinner, I'm grateful that the other mum is making extra food and including my child into her meal time.

Stratter5 · 06/03/2015 14:34

They'd deliberately get pizza if I got that response.

ouryve · 06/03/2015 14:35

Just plain rude.

Sethspeaks · 06/03/2015 14:55

I'd have thought you were talking toppings and replied accordingly. I certainly wouldn't ask for a different meal as last night's tea had been pizza! I would consider that rude. I couldn't care less what dd is given by others - I'm just grateful she's getting fed.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 06/03/2015 14:56

Stuff the magheritas, I recommend margaritas for playdates.

Original poster
Rollergirl1 · 06/03/2015 16:29

I'm not outraged by any means. I was just a bit taken aback.

If she had said to me that her DD doesn't like pizza I would completely understand. There's no point giving something to a child that actively dislikes it. But I did ask her. If I hadn't then her DD would have had pizza two nights on the trot and that would be the end of it.

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Original poster
Rollergirl1 · 06/03/2015 16:34

It suprises me you find her rude for such a simple request yet it is perfectly fine to post about her on MN and encourage posters to pour scorn on her over such a minor issue.

Really? Confused

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keepsmiling2015 · 06/03/2015 16:36

What was the exact words g. If it sounded like you asked was pizza ok, then is perfectly reasonable for her to tell you her dc had it yesterday.

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 06/03/2015 16:40

Very rude

SnottyCowbag · 06/03/2015 16:45

I don't find it rude. (It wasn't polite but if wasnt rude).

I don't get pizzas very often but don't all pizza outlets sell other things such as chicken wings? I wouldn't fancy pizza two days in a row - I know it doesn't matter but as it's easy to get something else then I don't see the problem.

I wouldn't give it any thought and I'd just buy some chicken wings or something else instead.

xiaozhu · 06/03/2015 16:51

Rude! She should be bloody grateful that someone else is feeding her kid for her!