Was this Mum rude or did I ask for it?

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DD having a friend after school that has never been before. I texted the Mum saying was planning to get pizza in and is there anything that her DD specifically doesn't like. The mum texted back saying that they'd had pizza yesterday and could I give them something else.

I'm a bit gobsmacked. Was just wanting to find out if child didn't like mushrooms or pineapple. But then I did ask....

I don't think it's rude. Am I missing something?!

Personally I think it's pretty rude, I would just have told you which toppings she did or didn't like not requested you change your menu!
Furthermore I would still be planning on giving them pizza...but then I'm a spiteful cow

Are you the other mother LittleBairn?

The rude other mother, that is.

Wow, yes that's rude.

not rude at all - there seems to be a MN proliferation of rudeness..

"I'm PLANNING to get pizzas in" means something different to "we're having pizza for tea" leaves a "please can they have something else" opening there.

So nope - not rude to take the opening given....

Somewhere: how is it different? I'm not being stroppy just interested to know. IF I'd said "was thinking of doing pizza, is that okay?" then that would be different.

Beyond rude. Sweet Jesus she makes rude look the epithany of politeness.
Even if my wildest dream was having it's wildest dream. I would not say to someone.
Dd is older now so more or less past the friends coming for tea, and I'd always ask about prefences allergies cultures ect

Being kind maybe she just replied without thinking. Maybe took it more in a 'what would her DD like for tea?' type way?

It wasn't the most polite text in the world but I don't think this woman should be branded RUDE forever more.

If you are ordering pizzas in anyway then it's very easy to order something different for the friend at the same time. I really don't see the issue.

How about:

"Sorry, there seems to be some misunderstanding. Your DD is our guest, not our customer. "

Rude.

I think her response was strange.. Clearly your text meant "does your DD not like any specific foods".

I would put her in my 'odd mum' category and be on the alert for further odd behaviour!

Note: some of my best nights out have been with odd mums, so not necessarily a bad thing :-)

Of course it's rude!! Can't believe anyone is saying otherwise! The Op isn't a restaurant!!!

I think she was rude

YANBU

Rude!

Offer beans on toast as an alternative.

But in future, just serve what you are planning on serving and NEVER ask parents for their input.

I was thinking of doing pizza is also leaving an opening for her to ask if can have something else.

How hard is it to say "we are having pizza - any toppings they can't have?"

I often ask the mums what their kids like/dislike. One Mum told me her son eats everything, she was a tad superior about it. So I decided not to do pizza and did chicken fajitas, with salad, pepper, olives, cheese, refried beans etc. The boy ate half a dry tortilla!

It's not that bad is it. Some kids won't readily eat the same dinner twice in a row. There's far worse things to get het up about.
If it was a family member would you take so much offence?

Rude. The only possible reply was with regard to pizza toppings. I wouldn't have texted though and just bought a couple of different ones. Tough luck if they weren't acceptable.

I'd have replied "Oh sorry it's pizza night for us. Would you like to reschedule?"

I'd find it very odd that anyone would reply with such a weird message but it's not rude exactly...more like cheeky. I can't imagine dictating what someone else was doing for tea even if my DC were there. Plus they'd be thrilled about having pizza anyway.

Rude. I'd have done what Sparkling said!

I didn't have kids over to be chef and waitress, I had them over to have some fun with my kids. If that meant they got the same for tea as they did the night before, tough shit!

Somewhere: I think I would have still had the same reply.

As others have said next time I won't text. I only did because it was her first time here.

We didn't have pizzas in the end (I bottled it). I plumped for spag bol, which our guest didn't eat much of as she "doesn't really like tomatoes." Oh well.

Nuts. Yanbu.