To be fed up of the bragging

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AIBU to just wish that certain people on Facebook would just keep some things to themselves.

Actually I know IABU for thinking it and being in Facebook in the first place. I really want to come off it but I run 3 businesses from it so really can't at the moment.

My DS1 has SN. He has moderate learning difficulties and needs a 1:1 TA most of the day. He only learned to speak and understand better (and still not well at 7) when he was 5 year old and struggles on a daily basis. My DD has been diagnosed with dyslexia and has to have a lot of extra tuition.

What I don't need when I get home is to log on to my Facebook and find a braggy post about how lucky they are to have amazingly clever kids. One has been accepted into the highly gifted programme and the other has only just turned one and is knocking out sentences and picking things out of books etc.

Now it's not that I'm not pleased for her as such. I realise she is desperately proud of her dc but do we all need to know. I don't put on their that my 7 year old managed to spell his name as I may have people on my friends list who can't do that yet.

And it probably wouldn't happen in RL. Most people would have the sense not to brag about clever kids when they know their friends kids are struggling. So why on Facebook.

You should be able post what you like on Facebook because you can choose who your friends are. If you don't like something unfriend them rather than dictate what they should or shouldn't post & whether her posts should be made to consider you.

I think it's much nicer for a kid to have a parent who is openly proud of their achievements than one that doesn't voice any praise in fear of upsetting someone, somewhere.

There's loads of annoying crap on Facebook you just filter it. You don't have to read anything she posts and nor does anyone else it's a choice you consciously make. She isn't going out of her way to offend.

Ok. Obviously I am BU. But I do think there is a difference between posting achievements and bragging. The former I don't have a problem with. I would hide her but she is someone close to me but who lives in another country so I do like to keep in touch.

I do share business posts but it's hardly bragging. Xx

Hmmm well I post what I like on my FB because it's mine and anyone who doesn't like my posts can delete or ignore me.

I don't have children but I post updates and pics of my cats. That's what the internet is for - cats!

It's probably quite useful to keep in mind that what other people post or say is always about them - it's only about you if you let it be. Ignore or block them if they really upset you or you don't have it in you to be pleased for them. Post about your children's achievements if you want to - all this self-censorship will just turn you in on yourself so much that you'll end up not being able to speak.

You see OP I find business posts really annoying. Especially constant ones bragging about the merits of the business, or trying to sell me stuff. Like the majority of people, I'm on FB to relax, not to run a business. If I had a business, I probably wouldn't be running it on FB. Just like I don't bore people about my work, or divulge confidential details about it on FB.

I'd far rather scroll through posts about children's milestones than yet another post about someone business.

You also get those people who moan if you post anything negative, so I guess that's why people like to keep it a bit light and fluffy.

I'm with you, op. Facebook seems to have morphed into a never ending Christmas round robin letter.

I have just hidden a friend who has just started their own buisness, one of the current Aloe Vera ones, every day there was some positive thing happenning due to starting it and pushing people to buy.

I have a number of friends unfollowed due to the stuff they post - means I can nose when I want an update but not have it shoved down my throat.

Ah. Not really a business like that. It is a voluntary club I run for parents. I'm not selling anything or making any money.

And as I explained previously, there is a difference between putting up a status that says that DC got a certificate in school or that they have just had the stablilisers taken off their bike and the my child is super and amazing and better than others his/her age.