DS1 has come downstairs wearing red trousers and purple tshirt. Can I make hiim change?

[JuniperTisane]

Its making my eyes water. I haven't broached it yet but we have a birthday party to go to later.

AIBU to engineer a weetabix accident over breakfast?

My dd (10) when she was three had a penchant for wearing a green t shirt and orange skirt together. It really made my eyes smart. These days she would never dream of committing such faux pas

WTF?

DH has just come home from a night shift and he was wearing red chinos, purple shirt and a black waistcoat. I thought how nice he looks. He's wearing Batman pyjamas now...

I am failing to see the problem. Even if they don't 'match'.

For information though, my DS is currently wearing jeans and a dress so I clearly don't care about social norms.

I wear patterns with stripes. And patchwork. And rainbow stuff.

I simply don't care. This is why I'm not allowed on style and beauty.

Clashing colours shouldn't really be something a child worries about surely

Another school mum once said at a party that we should make DD wear matching/coordinating outfits so she didn't look silly. She was 5 FFS. Have to admit I looked at her differently after that I think I started a thread at the time and most agreed with me IIRC.

Children don't get to control much in their lives so it's nice to let them choose what they wear - as long as my 2 are wearing something practical (eg if they'll be climbing trees) and weather appropriate I couldn't care less. At 7 DD has a very, erm, unique look :o and I love that she doesn't give a damn what others think of her outfits.

Nah Showy, I can live with mismatch but my eyes were watering. I have my limits

He's gone out now with his dad and an orange/black stripey jumper over the top so the offending purple is hidden for now. I can live with that because I can't see it

Just for the record, I haven't once this morning said a word to him about his choices. That's what I come on here to do.

This may have been one of those threads where you needed to put "lighthearted" in the title :o

Lighthearted?! I'm deadly serious .

DS went out last night wearing purple jeans, orange t-shirt, oversized blue specs and a fedora.

He's 16, so he really is old enough to know better.

Ds came down in shorts and a t-shirt last weekend. Apparently it was summer as the sun was shining :)

I used to wear a scarlet skirt and imperial purple jumper - of course they go

There was one time I realised dd2 was in same combo, which I admit might have looked a bit Mommie Dearest

In that case OP, you're being completely unreasonable and very patronising towards your son. Women who do this make me cringe to my core. I don't ever see men performing in this judgemental manner about something so unimportant. It's just so controlling and proprietorial.

Perhaps you think people will think less of you for your son's ensemble today? If so, that's very sad.

Now when you said red and purple, and making my eyes water, I imagined some kind of neón combo, but that pic looks fine.

Plus I reckon Panda is right.

The clothes look nice. (I think you must be a bit of a square.)

He looks really good. They don't clash at all, those colours go very nicely together. I always think black and a bright colour look awful much better to see two colours together.

Haha...he looks OK. By coincidence DS2 came down in the same purple and red combo but with lime green socks and with his blonde hair it is quite a sight. He always gets away with it though as he is quirky-cute. Hope the party went well.

I think some people are being unnecessarily judgemental. The very thing they are accusing the op of. She had said that she is going to leave him in the ensemble. Calling her "Unreasonable, patronising, controlling and proprietorial." Totally unnecessary.

Hope you ignore them op. I had been enjoying this thread.

looks okay

Of course OP is going to ignore anybody whom she doesn't agree with. It is judgemental to pick holes in what people are wearing generally, when it's your own child it's worse somehow and it's naïve to think that the 'correcting' isn't picked up on. Why would anybody do that?

We all bring our own views and experiences to any thread we post on. I really don't mind if people disagree with my views, they're mine. This kind of thread is insidious on MN and it goes hand in hand with the ones picking holes in whatever the dad has picked for his child to wear - unreasonable, patronising, controlling and proprietorial - and I'll add 'totally unnecessary'.

I don't understand the back-slapping because I think it's horrible but, horses for courses.

lyingwitch this is weird. We are disagreeing here and swapping ketchep tips on another thread.

I really think the op was just starting a jokey, lighthearted thread. Its not serious. (Even though she did say deadly serious).

She never did say a word to her son about it so how can she be controlling? I agree that not allowing a child to have any control over what they wear is overbearing but that's not the case here.

The first outfit my dh ever dressed our dd in was an orange vest and pink tights, looked horrendous interesting to say the least. I have now embraced it and we now dress her in all sorts of random combinations, always colourful(my choices slightly more tame than dh's perhaps). It will be a while before she can dress herself, but i hope she is creative with her dressing and enjoys colour mainly to shock the gps

I think your son's outfit looks great btw, i suppose if an 'accident' were to happen and he needed to change would he insist on picking the replacement?

I popped back on apologise to the OP because, despite my checking with her that this WAS lighthearted - and she said it wasn't - I think perhaps she didn't mean that really.

I'm a bit too literal much of the time and I suspect this is one of those time... so, sorry Juniper.

SummerHouse... as you can see, I'm far more reasonable about condiments than parenting...

lyingwitch

I am so pleased. I really hate to disagree especially with one who has passed on the aldi ketchup tip off.

Now all is right with mumsnet again.... Apart from the thread about the man who doesn't want his partner to breast feed. Grrrrrr.

What do you mean red and purple, I only see blue and black...

back at you, SumerHouse

I will make amends by telling you about the pate in jars where the bottles of ketchup are... duck, venison or salmon - all at 89p each and they're delicious. I will also draw your attention to the lightly dusted lemon sole - lemon crumb or garlic and herb - both outstanding and very reasonable.

Because I now feel a kinship with you, I will not direct you to the pain au chocolate because apparently that is more addictive than crack. Stick to the sauce and freezer counter.