Feeling Brave- wedding payment thread!

[grumpasaur]

Hello all! My DH was "asked" to be best man for his friend from schools second weddings. DH was also best man at the first wedding.

Anyway we have just received a message from groom about the specific cravatte, blazer, shirt, trousers, and shoes we will be expected to order ASAP from ASOS.

The total will be about £175.

Not only are we already skint, but this wedding is already going to cost us significantly in terms of stag, hen, travel, present, etc.

I told DH he should say we can't afford that cost, but he doesn't want to rock the boat.

AIBu to think it's fucking ridiculous that a) we have been told to pay and b) DH is too fucking chicken to refuse???

Glad your bloke has spoken up, OP.

Sad about some of the second wedding comments though. I'm going to a second wedding (for one half if the couple) later in the year and I am so excited for them-filled with love and certainty it's got the legs. I dn't doubt for a second that in some respects it will outdo the first (although the couple wouldn't be sp crass as to state that as an aim, they are just planning the wedding that works for them). I'm ex-wife of the groom, and I shall toast them with joy and dance my socks off.

Second marriage for me - not sure why some posters assume I should have crept off to the registry office in sack cloth and ashes.
Tbh having ditched my ex after dv, friends and family were perfectly happy to pitch up and celebrate with us.