to laugh at this second-hand wedding drama?

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It's second hand because it's actually happening to someone I know vaguely on FB who is in America.

She is getting married! And man, does everybody need to know about it! So far she's had:

An engagement shower (which seemed to be a party just for her thrown by her mother)

An engagement party (for the couple and potential invites to the wedding)

A wedding shower (same again?)

A bachelorette party (hen do)

Sent out save the dates (which I'd never heard of before her fb post about "looking out for them"), invitations, RSVP cards. And on and on.

Many many public dramas on the way, including rants about the fact that some people RSVP'd "sorry I can't attend" AFTER getting their save the date cards - she sent the save the dates SEVENTEEN MONTHS before the wedding. I'm sure most people had lost them by the time the correct year rolled around!

Anyway the wedding is this weekend (yay! An end to it all!). This week's FB drama is that people are cancelling last minute. She posted a screen grab of a text convo today though that has had me scraping my chin all day (my jaw is on the floor). It said:

Friend: Wanted to warn you hun, I won't be able to make it on Saturday. I'm so sorry. I'll call you tonight.
Bride: You know what, DON'T call me. You're the second to do this. So sick of selfish people wrecking my special day.
Friend: Mum died this morning.

Bride is on FB asking her friend list AIBU to think that "if her mum died on Monday then she could totally attend a wedding on Saturday".

Amazing.

And before anyone says it, yes I know I should unfollow/unfriend but I am shamefully addicted to this stuff...

The one year reunion of the post-wedding reunion gang

That's the funniest thing I have read in ages!

just

I bet she still marries him. Sounds like she's more interested in the wedding than the marriage.

OMG I am weeping at "sat on a dead hog"!

Please PLEASE give us her name so we can follow the brilliance madness!

Whoa, bagelfiend There are a lot of Americans on this thread. Showers are fine in the US, but there are rules. One of them is that your mother is not the host (especially is this true in the South). Another one is that you don't have one for the engagement.

But at least one wedding shower is usual. When DH and I got married, our friends gave us a couples shower with a "stock their bar" theme. We didn't have to buy wine or spirits for years.

Quite apart from all her other crimes, I think BZ is also confused about the idea of a 'Wedding Breakfast'. I've always been under the impression that this was the name of the meal at the reception (regardless of what time of day it's taking place), but BZ has taken it literally and is having an ACTUAL breakfast with her guests, and then another meal at the reception.

Each to their own I suppose. I didn't mean to offend anyone but I suppose it is just very different from what I know!

Pulls up a chair

Those glass coasters would have the pictures carefully removed, tach and beard drawn on bride, picture reinserted and be put on the top table before the bride said 'I do' if I were a guest

Wedding breakfast is not a common term for an after-wedding event in the US.

Considered 'de rigueur' here (at least in my area) is:

Parental Dinner (if the parents haven't met yet)
Engagement party (usually to announce the engagement, no gifts involved)
Bridal Shower (NEVER given by a close relative, that's tacky!)
Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties
Rehearsal Dinner (wedding party and parents only)
Post-ceremony Reception (anything from cake & punch to a sit down dinner with dancing)

Occasionally, a 'next day' get-together for out of town family will be given but that's usually something more along the lines of a 'mini family reunion' potluck or picnic. Very informal and more for the family getting together to visit the people they didn't get to visit with at the reception.

Anything other than this is considered a bit of overkill unless it's just an informal get together with no expectation of gifts or an off the cuff 'after party' when the receptions over.

I've worked in many a banquet hall as a teenager. I've seen bitchy brides on the day and chalked it up to stress.

But Jesus! This shit is insane.

And I'm also dying to know the name of this woman so I can have something to lurk when I'm feeling low.

Oh what fun I'd have...

What's better than a bridezilla thread? Not much, in my book. OP must keep updating. I don't suppose it's a South. Carolina wedding?

AcrossthePond I agree with most of what you said, but every rehearsal dinner I have ever attended, including the one DH and I paid for (traditional for parents of groom to pay) had many more people than just the bridal party and parents. Maybe it's more of a thing in the South, but the tradition is to invite all out of town guests, on the assumption that most of these will be people the groom's family invited.

Also traditional in the South and some other parts of the country is the bridesmaids' luncheon, usually given by a close relative of the bride the day before the wedding. No presents for this either.

Christ on a bike.

My first thought was that I'm glad I'm not the only one who keeps the crazies on their Arsebook feed to gawp at.

Secondly, please link this thread to them when it's done.

Some perspective; just before my best friend's wedding where my daughter was a bridesmaid, my dd had an accident.
I called bf and told her. She was simply concerned, and all her wedding pics have a kid with a giant scab where her face should be in them. .
I luffs her.

Jeez, she sounds like a peach.

Much like a friend of mine. I phoned her in tears one Saturday as my mum had died the day before. A few minutes later she asked me if I had seen any long dangly sparkly earrings for her special day in four months as she was struggling to find any.

Few months before, same person wanted to find a way to force her brother's ex partner to put the 2 year old niece alone on a plane to Spain so she could be a flowergirl, so I should have seen it coming to be fair.

this is insane!

where is the other bridezilla thread that pp are talking about?

Am I really the only person who thinks the OP is being pranked?

I love wedding threads and I am still shocked at how outrageous some of them are but these Facebook updates are unbelievable. The bereaved friend and the bereaved aunt watched their loved one die in hospital 'early in the morning' then went home and went almost immediately onto Facebook. Given that the OP posted at 14:00'ish - this happened BEFORE 9 in the morning (East Coast time) at the latest. ...and then the BJ revelation!!!

C'mon OP you can't really believe that this is real.

I know some brides become a little 'bridezilla-ish' before their wedding, but I don't believe barely a word of this (obviously I'm in a tiny minority).

Either someone is winding the OP up, or the OP is spinning a yarn.

Ok, ThisIsATrollThread is with me

@ perfectly timed cross post.

Sorry not sorry

Sadly I'm perfectly able to believe this is real. There are far too many utterly self-absorbed "princesses" out there whose empathy bone has been removed, and who ONLY think about themselves and how things will impact on their wedding.

This one is quite the worst I've heard of so far, apart from Midnite's ex-friend (do you not believe her either, rebel and Thisisatroll?) - gluezilla was pretty bad, but this is dreadful. Good for the aunt giving her a serve, shame it got deleted!

Widen your horizons, doubters - find some entertaining FB groups where people with a major inability to spell hangout, and you will be less convinced that this is a wind up.

I'm pulling up my pew... If its a yarn, its a good one

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2317026-just-told-my-friend-to-f-off Not quite so self-absorbed, but still pretty bridezillaish.