to laugh at this second-hand wedding drama?

[kitchentableagain]

It's second hand because it's actually happening to someone I know vaguely on FB who is in America.

She is getting married! And man, does everybody need to know about it! So far she's had:

An engagement shower (which seemed to be a party just for her thrown by her mother)

An engagement party (for the couple and potential invites to the wedding)

A wedding shower (same again?)

A bachelorette party (hen do)

Sent out save the dates (which I'd never heard of before her fb post about "looking out for them"), invitations, RSVP cards. And on and on.

Many many public dramas on the way, including rants about the fact that some people RSVP'd "sorry I can't attend" AFTER getting their save the date cards - she sent the save the dates SEVENTEEN MONTHS before the wedding. I'm sure most people had lost them by the time the correct year rolled around!

Anyway the wedding is this weekend (yay! An end to it all!). This week's FB drama is that people are cancelling last minute. She posted a screen grab of a text convo today though that has had me scraping my chin all day (my jaw is on the floor). It said:

Friend: Wanted to warn you hun, I won't be able to make it on Saturday. I'm so sorry. I'll call you tonight.
Bride: You know what, DON'T call me. You're the second to do this. So sick of selfish people wrecking my special day.
Friend: Mum died this morning.

Bride is on FB asking her friend list AIBU to think that "if her mum died on Monday then she could totally attend a wedding on Saturday".

Amazing.

And before anyone says it, yes I know I should unfollow/unfriend but I am shamefully addicted to this stuff...

Coasters are great for stopping the cocktail spillage from marking the table right?

Notreveal there is a kind of person, man or woman, for whom a stripper is not a person, basically - makes the logic of it easy, eh?

Blatant place marking

is it just me that likes the sound of those favours

Yes. Yes you are :o

Please tell me it's a Southern affair.

Just can't be. Any self-respecting Southern MOB would know that it is the height of tackiness for said MOB to host an engagement shower (or even to have an engagement shower).

Thisisatroll

www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_wedding/weddingsfhell/weddingfromhell.shtml

Read these archives and then tell me that the OP is being wound up. I personally know of several appalling weddings and one in particular where it wouldnt have surprised me at all if she had reacted like this to a last minute cancellation. She cut off one BM for sneezing during the ceremony (not even the vows, it was during a hymn!).

Someone I knew declared during the bridezilla phase that she didn't care if [h2b] turned up on the day, it was her wedding etc etc.

Sure enough we later discovered that they were already on the rocks good job too, he was a twat and their marriage lasted about a week.

I feel this woman will go the same way. No stopping the juggernaut now.

I do feel slightly sorry for her. No bad behaviour deserves infidelity in retaliation. And maybe she did already know and had just come to terms with it. ::angst angst::

rooty you speak the truth but a part of me refuses to believe that.

Nope, not place marking, not me....

Or maybe she doesnt care because she wants a wedding not a marriage and will sack him off within 6 months.

And probably do all this again in another couple of years.......

It makes me want to get married again - maybe I need to plan a vow renewal that lasts three days

BLOODY HELL. It's hard to believe people like this actually exist. I kind of wish I had a nutter like this on my FB.

I went to a wedding three days after my dad died, but that was completely my choice and not at all demanded or expected by the bride or groom! I'm sure it is very normal to cancel in those circumstances.

I nearly spat tea out my nose at this thread. A friend cancelled two days before my wedding as a relative had a stroke. Never occurred to me to do anything but be concerned for her.

I am in full agreement that the OP must cancel all plans this weekend in order to keep us all in the loop.

Wouldn't surprise me if the BZ spent her 'big day' bitching and whining on Facebook

Oh this thread has stopped me doing my ironing..I would love to add her just to have a nose too

I bet if you let us know the State she's in we could find someone who could volunteer to eat that meal...

The wedding breakfast favors are... Glass coasters with photos of the couple set inside them. Sets of three (with a pic of her alone, him alone, and them together accordingly). Three coasters seems an odd number to me. I was secretly hoping they'd be cheerios in 'broidery anglais bags.

Or as we here in the US refer to them……..practice targets! 'Favours' like this are one of the reasons 'everyone in America owns guns'. (Yes, I'm being facetious).

I'm not doing anything special on Saturday, but I'm in the South, and I just know this cannot be happening in the South.

*opens a bag of popcorn and offers it around

I've got one of these, but she's English. Fb crazies must be better in America! I want to hear more about this Transatlantic Terror.

This shower trend is getting popular here too. I was invited to a pre hen shower last year. Eh naw. Just naw.

Oh, I forgot about the pictures of the groom with a variety of dead animals. So the South is indeed a possibility. But if so, that MOB shower-throwing woman has to be a Yankee transplant.

I am so excited for post-wedding updates!

Do not get me started on showers.
I will never attend a shower of any nature and hope I don't know anyone who is so self absorbed that would have one

Just marking place ...