Prevention is so much better than cure.
I agree SallyingForth but we can do both. I think telling someone of 16 that they are taking an irrevocable step is unlikely to deter them or many other teenagers.
I read something on Saturday about two 17 year old girls, one of whom was killed on a level crossing in and one who managed to run in the nick of time.
Apparently they thought the last train had gone and decided that this would be a good place for a goodbye chat because they were both going home in opposite directions
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I first read it thinking: 'How fucking stupid were you?' But they were 17 and they thought it made sense. Now one silly girl is dead and the other one will always remember seeing her friend's body.
I don't think I'd have done that, much less run away to join a bunch of murderers, but as a teenager I did some pretty daft things and I don't believe anybody who says they didn't either.
And the idea that children should be abandoned pour encourager les autres is vile. Like being left with IS is akin to being on the Naughty Step.
I also find the idea that you would cut all sympathies with your child odd. I don't doubt that some posters are sincere in that view, but I find it alien.
I'd condemn their actions but I'd still have a vestige of love. I'd probably spend the rest of my life blaming myself for the waste of their life and the lives of the people they'd harmed.
I can't imagine much worse for a parent - and before anyone says, yes, I am aware of people who think that being a suicide bomber is a noble fate for a child. Or at least I am aware of news stories telling me that this is what the majority of the families of suicide bombers thinker. Along with 72 virgins etc...
I don't think anybody on this thread is advocating letting the girls roam free with no questions asked and no consequences if they return to Britain. They may have committed crimes and they definitely hold some dangerous ideas which need knocking out of them.
Their parents may also have some questions to answer about the values they have instilled which may have become warped.
There is no suggestion that this will not happen. I want the children brought home and I want hard questions to be asked.
I forgot to mention that the people used in the radio broadcasts were young people of both sexes who'd been in the LRA to show people that it is possible to break free and make a new life. It would be hard, but not as hard as what they were going through.
That was more powerful than having a well-meaning charity worker prattling on.