I don't know about this "judging" terminology - that implies I'm still in the process of making a decision. I don't respect people who have done nothing with their lives. I find it quite easy to distinguish genuine people and non-genuine people, as in the latter like to pretend they are something they are not, more helpless than they actually are, in order to get out of doing stuff for themselves. That sort of person I really do not respect.
If you have never bothered learning a skill or obtaining paid employment in your life but instead have devoted it to finding a partner much richer than yourself, then I wouldn't respect you. People who have worked before having children or reduced their hours - completely different.
As I said, I know quite a few examples of the former - all living in rather good circumstances due to no effort on their part. I actually know two men who married into wealthy farming families, cheated, got divorced and ended up with farms of their own despite never having had to go out into the real world and get a job. I know people, both men and women, who have done degrees and then never worked, but moved in with someone who has a nice house. My neighbour is a weasly little man, who lives in a million pound house in the country, despite having a sketchy at best employment record. His wife inherited a lot of money from her parents. She's a lovely person. He's a sneaky two-faced conniving git. In a moment of weakness, she admitted to me that she hadn't put the house into joint names as he wanted. I think she is beginning to see through him.
I think the lack of a proper period of paid employment at some stage in their history is a bit telling tbh. Its not that I quiz people on it, its just that once you get to know people, you like to talk about your life experiences, and for most people, that involves work. Unless you born into great wealth.
Its certainly not just women that are golddigers. They just get all the negative publicity. There are some though, its true. Its human nature. But they are not always the ones you would think they would be - the model types, the glamorous ones.