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school nurse letter

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devonshiredumpling · 14/02/2015 18:42

got a letter this morning rom the schoolnurse service to say that after being weighed my dd has been catergorised as severely overweight. we also got a leaflet saying that her diet could be better (she has at least seven portion of friut and veg) we also need to increase her activity level but since moving to the country we cannot get her out of the garden and off her bike ,she is tall for her age at 122.8 cm and she weighs 29.9kg but you cannot see any fat on her she is five .any help would be good aibu to feel peeved about this (she is five and half)

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TheRealAmandaClarke · 17/02/2015 09:55

I doubt there was a second letter tbh. My guess would be that op called to inform them of their error and they apologised. Aletter might be sent if someone was kicking up a massive fuss as a damage limitation exercise.

NerrSnerr · 17/02/2015 09:56

If what the OP said is true then what was the point? If it was a mistake then you get the letter, think 'that can't be right', weigh the child and then call them to say there was a typo. No problem.

I think there was no mistake, the OP just wanted everyone to tell her that her child is fine and not overweight and did not like the answers she got.

Only1scoop · 17/02/2015 10:00

Should the Op have not just read....

"Dd has been weighed at school and they have weight to be 10kg out. I know this as I've weighed her myself....I have been sent a letter....how bad is that"?

Would have been a non entity really.

TalkinPeace · 17/02/2015 10:13

My guess ......
There was no 10kg error.
The menus listed were true
The child needs a parent who understands portion control, not one who lies.

JudgeRinderSays · 17/02/2015 10:26

I was warned and deleted my MNHQ for calling bullshit on this thread yesterday.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 17/02/2015 10:27

So, which is it?
Therealamanaclarke's version or TIP's?

Number3cometome · 17/02/2015 12:58

I would say (and I'm being careful here as Mumsnet bollocked us and deleted posts yesterday) that OP's child is indeed obese, she wanted to be told not to worry, but us being HONEST people told her the truth, she didn't like it, revised the story and has now fucked off down the gym with her overweight child in shame.

Only1scoop · 17/02/2015 12:59

Or maybe she's just eating more 'Devonshire dumpling'

TheRealAmandaClarke · 17/02/2015 13:02

No. I still think dddumpling is not overweight. The original op was skewed in order to create some drama when the mistake was revealed.
Busting to know. I'm off sick, can barely get out of bed and have little to occupy me atm.

Number3cometome · 17/02/2015 13:08

I don't think there was a mistake, I think OP was also off sick and bored!

fattymcfatfat · 17/02/2015 13:18

im thinking more along the lines of OP not liking the fact that her dd is a diddydumpling and wanted everyone to say no no thats fine..when we all said actually thats huge (DS is fat, OPs measurements were much bigger) she backtracked quickly

TheRealAmandaClarke · 17/02/2015 13:35

OP I have to wait a whole week to find out what happened to victoria grayson. I need this.

Number3cometome · 17/02/2015 13:36

Come on OP - all will be forgiven!

Ifyourawizardwhydouwearglasses · 17/02/2015 14:28

Oh what a load of BOLLOCKS.

Fat kids make me sad :( and denial and lies won't help yours OP.

TalkinPeace · 17/02/2015 14:33

FWIW I do not believe the OP is a troll at all.

I think she genuinely thought the letter was unreasonable.
That makes her a lot less uncommon than she realises.

It is sad that she felt the need to backtrack, rather than have this thread removed from AIBU to the peace and quiet of Weight Loss where she and her DD could have got the constructive support about portion sizes that they need.

Shouting at her will not help.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 17/02/2015 14:38

Yes maybe TIP. I just re read the OP's op and its definitely worded in a way that suggests the measurements were correct but she couldnt see it.

Number3cometome · 17/02/2015 14:40

Well she isn't going to answer us, so lets just hope her and DC get the help they need.

It's a sad story either way.

concretekitten · 17/02/2015 14:47

My friend got a letter in error, told her her (perfectly normal) DS was huge and she found the letter and advice very patronising.
They were invited along to a clinic to discuss his 'weight problem' and the nurse was quite surprised when he walked in, the figures they had for him were totally inaccurate.
However, the figures that the OP gave, to me sound like her DD is a bit overweight although I do appreciate that they all carry it differently and it often comes off when they're older.
But they're are parents out there feeding their children unhealthy diets and giving them little exercise and so for those parents it's important that the problem is recognised and addressed.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 17/02/2015 15:17

Yes kitten i cant see that they would have known their mistake.
The weight would have been recorded. So it would only be the OP's measurement they had to check it against. Their records would have have the 29 kg measurement.

BigChocFrenzy · 17/02/2015 16:20

That's why I wanted to see the apology letter. Even with names blanked out, enough folk here would have a good idea if it is genuine.

Really odd thread Hmm and that was before the lizard people started microchipping DCs.

< waves to Amanda. Hope your lurgie goes soon. At least you have had this spiffing entertainment >

TheRealAmandaClarke · 17/02/2015 16:26

I know bigchoc
Thanks Grin

Rhinosaurus · 17/02/2015 18:53

That's an amazing turnaround speed for a letter from the NHS, particularly as public health would have to have contacted the school nurse, who would then have got their admin to type and send the (second class) letter immediately, taking precedence over all other letters, which as school nurses work in the community would have probably gone on the NHS courier to the nearest base with a mail room to be franked. Absolutely amazing speed I can only dream about where I work!!

Rhinosaurus · 17/02/2015 19:04

The weight of 29.9kg gives a severely overweight BMI for her age. The weight of 19kg gives a significantly underweight BMI which would also require follow up. How could you not notice they had weighed her a huge 10kg out - that is 22lbs or a stone and a half!!! At 5 and measuring 122cm high!!! Surely you would notice that right away!!! And public health would request the school nurse re weighs using the same equipment as the other children.

Only1scoop · 17/02/2015 19:06

Hhhmmmm well now Rhinos done the math....the plot thickens ....

Rhinosaurus · 17/02/2015 19:12

And you can use BMI for children, it is different to adults, and has to be plotted against a child's age on a centile chart. 19kg is below the 0.4th centile. 29.9kg is just below the 99.6th centile for 5 year olds. Healthy BMI is between the 9th and 91st centile. I cannot be exact as I don't have the exact age, but the 19kg would have made me refer to GP immediately as dangerously underweight!