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Original poster

Was IBU to Facebook search the nursery staff?

147 replies

LadyLupin · 12/02/2015 17:23

I didn't think I was until I mentioned it to my sister and she was a little shocked.

Two of my children recently started pre school and before they did, I Facebook searched the 3 staff members that run it. I don't know what I was looking for really, part of it was plain nosiness and partly because I wanted to see what they were like, whether they re posted Britain First crap or had photos of themselves posing gangster style it something. I would have probably sent the DC somewhere else if they had.

I also read reviews of the pre school and all the usual stuff. I'm a little more concerned than I was when my older children were young enough to be starting out at preschool as one of my DC has SN and I've been worried about leaving him.

I justified it to my sister by saying that if they didn't want to be searchable then they would've had their Facebook accounts locked down tightly. I can only see what they have made public.

Was I unreasonable to have searched for them? Do you do this, or am I odd?

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SallySolomon · 13/02/2015 22:42

And you're alarmingly naive when it comes to keeping yourself safe on the internet.

sweetsomethings · 13/02/2015 22:44

Oh prettyfeet losing your argument so you result to insults. I thought we were all adults here. Its ok sweetie maybe one day you will have a valid point.

PrettyFeet · 13/02/2015 22:46

I have the "right" to do lots of things doesnt mean I would ever want to.

People that go snooping at others on a "social" network with intentions other than saying hi, do you know me blah blah are not nice people.

PrettyFeet · 13/02/2015 22:51

Here we go... I dont have an argument to loose or win?

I have said that I dont like snoops and we all know what that means.

Im neither naive nor nosey.

I live my life and never judge others.

It's a good way to be.

sweetsomethings · 13/02/2015 22:51

Well must be alot of not nice people out there as millions of people all over the world use it to do just that.

BuggersMuddle · 13/02/2015 22:52

YANBU to search any bugger on FB.

DP randomly searched a colleague (no malice) and found out rather more than he would have preferred.

You put it online, it's public.

SallySolomon · 13/02/2015 22:53

People ARE going to look though. It's human nature. If you so don't want people looking, don't put all your business on an international, publically accessible notice board. Surely that's not hard to understand.

sweetsomethings · 13/02/2015 22:54

Hmm calling others who disagree with you nutters then goes against everything you stand for then. As that is judging is it not. You dont even make sense anymore.

BalloonSlayer · 13/02/2015 22:55

"Isn't everyone entitled to privacy and a private life out side of work? "

Oh Absolutely! Hear hear!

That's what privacy settings on FB are for.

If you haven't got the brains to use them, post inappropriate stuff (not saying OP's childcare providers did) and work with children, well, that says a lot about you.

PrettyFeet · 13/02/2015 22:55

yeah, you're right there.

I dont ever actually call people out. I say "my" view and write accordingly. I never ever name a person on here unless I think they have said something I agree with.

So.... OP, YAB vvvvvvvv U

SallySolomon · 13/02/2015 22:55

publicly

PrettyFeet · 13/02/2015 22:57

Now people that don't have a squillion "privacy" settings are stupid? really? I think that if I delved into most of your lives I'd find rather shocking things. So people in glass houses should never throw stones.

PrettyFeet · 13/02/2015 22:58

I choose not to delve or do anything remotely devious. I dont actually care what people do in their private lives as long as they do a good job. It is not my concern.

That is normal.

BoffinMum · 13/02/2015 22:59

Perfectly fine to access any information on the internet that people haven't made private. If you suddenly find yourself hacking into their private accounts and tracking their movements via GPS you have probably overdone things Wink

SallySolomon · 13/02/2015 22:59

Now people that don't have a squillion "privacy" settings are stupid? really? I think that if I delved into most of your lives I'd find rather shocking things. So people in glass houses should never throw stones.

You're not getting it though. People are entitled to do whatever the heck they like (within the law obvs Grin ) have a social life, have fun, go mad. It's up to you to decide whether you tell the entire world (which FB IS) or keep your personal life personal to friends and family and people you actually know.

PrettyFeet · 13/02/2015 23:02

To actually go on a workers facebook is ridiculous. Its sad and unnecessary. it says far more about the person that does it.

SallySolomon · 13/02/2015 23:02

Perfectly fine to access any information on the internet that people haven't made private. If you suddenly find yourself hacking into their private accounts and tracking their movements via GPS you have probably overdone things

This. Smile Now THAT would be snooping. I'd never go there, lol. If it's public, it's public and that means it's PUBLIC.

SallySolomon · 13/02/2015 23:03

Said public that many times in that post it's starting to look like a made up word Grin

PrettyFeet · 13/02/2015 23:04

Its a social network site. Its not a "business" one.

You are stepping over a "normal" boundary here.

PrettyFeet · 13/02/2015 23:06

However you try to argue it. Its not a right one in my opinion. Its very odd.

PrettyFeet · 13/02/2015 23:07

But in saying that, people that use facebook for anything other than it was intended for are odd Grin

sweetsomethings · 13/02/2015 23:08

Again i will repeat that these people have chosen to have their profile public. Its their choice to have the public look at their page. You can choose to do your profile so that if people search for your name it wont show up its pretty simple to do it. Children know how to do it so an adult should too

SallySolomon · 13/02/2015 23:09

Its very odd. In your opinion. As you can see from this thread, lots of people do it! It's just baffling why you would make information public that you don't want to be public. It's nonsensical.
So what if it's a social networking site? What difference does that make? They're all out there in the public domain whether it's a business one or a social one.

sweetsomethings · 13/02/2015 23:11

Its intended for looking up people you know so thats what it is intended for. Are you for real? Or you out trolling?

Original poster
LadyLupin · 13/02/2015 23:11

I like being vvvvvvv unreasonable, it makes be feel like a rebel.

1 nursery worker didn't have a profile, or it was hidden.

2 had quite closed up profiles, so photos were viewable, things that they had shared were visable, but no status' etc

1 was totally open and incredibly boring, lots of game updates and pictures of cats.

Nothing juicy.

They are all very nice people. And, I took them a chocolate cake in yesterday so I'm sure they would forgive me for using Facebook exactly as it's intended to be used and looking up their public profiles, and viewing the information that they chose to make public whilst not being able to see the information that they chose to keep private.

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