Was IBU to Facebook search the nursery staff?

[LadyLupin]

I didn't think I was until I mentioned it to my sister and she was a little shocked.

Two of my children recently started pre school and before they did, I Facebook searched the 3 staff members that run it. I don't know what I was looking for really, part of it was plain nosiness and partly because I wanted to see what they were like, whether they re posted Britain First crap or had photos of themselves posing gangster style it something. I would have probably sent the DC somewhere else if they had.

I also read reviews of the pre school and all the usual stuff. I'm a little more concerned than I was when my older children were young enough to be starting out at preschool as one of my DC has SN and I've been worried about leaving him.

I justified it to my sister by saying that if they didn't want to be searchable then they would've had their Facebook accounts locked down tightly. I can only see what they have made public.

Was I unreasonable to have searched for them? Do you do this, or am I odd?

Yanbu at all. I would definitely do that.

I would do it, I searched the midwife who delivered my DD. I like coming across public FB profiles nosey shite

I'm obviously in the minority in finding it a bit weird. It would just never enter my head to do it. I'm quite big on the right to a private life - its none of my business what people at DS's pre-school do or say when they're off duty (provided its legal) once they behave professionally at work.

If they have their profile public theen they shouldnt be surprised if someone searches and finds it. If they have they dont want the worls to see then they need to change their settings.

I think you should do it if you wish this is why I have a normal FB and a secret one closed to fuck

Although (as I said already) I don't "do" FaceBook, I have had to endure the ramifications of a relative's FaceBook shenanigans because it impinged on my life second hand.

If I bloody well knew how to search said relative's FaceBook crap I bloody well would. Just to vindicate my belief that they are a total knob.

YANBU. I have browsed fb before, not nursery staff but new friends and colleagues. Useful to see if a new acquaintance has a passion for Britain First or UKIP, doubly useful to see if they are stupid enough to share such views on a public forum.

Also I'm just really nosey.

This is exactly why my Facebook name is nothing like my real name!

I work with children and, even though my privacy settings are to friends only, I never tag people in photos, I use my maiden name and I would ever post things I would say out loud in front of a parent or child.

I think everyone facebook everyone these days

I'm facebook friends with all the staff at DD's nursery, but I live in a town where everyone knows/is related too everyone else.

Would never cross my mind to search my kids nursery staff or teachers on fb tbh. As long as they can look after and teach my kids then thats fine with me.

Well I think it's creepy and weird but it's apparently the accepted thing to do these days. It's why I have my FB account locked up tighter than a bat's arse..
Just out of interest what would you do if you couldn't find them on FB or their page was restricted?

My employer Facebook searches all new and potential staff. As well as existing staff. My profile is private an I wouldn't put anything there I wouldn't say to peoples faces anyway....

Suprised how shocked people are when I tell them that employers do this.

Oh. And yanbu

I don't think you were being unreasonable. I have done the same

It's very common for parents to search people who work with their children. One of my brownies told me her dad was frustrated that he couldn't see anything bar my cover photo and profile photo.

My work often brings up social media and the necessary advice of ensuring things are not public and your privacy is tightly locked.

I also do not accept parents on to my Facebook friends list. I often tell them face to face that I only add people I know well.

Not unreasonable. If you don't want people to look at your profile you lock it down. Or don't have one at all.

Tbh anyone who has a public profile on Facebook already goes down in my estimations a little bit anyway. Whenever I see someone with one i always just think....why?

Nah YANBU I regularly fb check parents myself. Turns out a lot of their posts leave a lot to be desired and this gives me a sense of smugness and superiority I really enjoy. Thanks facebook!

Ha, cross posted with miaow !

It does make me laugh though that parents seem to have the same idea about teachers as the kids do - ie. that we reverse into our classroom cupboards at about 3:30pm, and then emerge at 8:40am the next morning!

YANBU. I don't want people seeing what I put on FB, so my settings are as restricted as they can be. If people are happy to have a public profile, they can hardly complain when the public look at it!