to think people shouldn't ask you if you're pregnant until you're the size of a house?

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Have been asked twice today by different people. I'm not pregnant and had my youngest 7 years ago. Ok, to be fair I do look in the v early stages - maybe 2 or 3 months gone but am a size 10 so I guess my spare tyre does show a bit. Then I was referred to as "apple shaped" by one lady. Great!!! I just think people should be really, really sure before they ask - ie there needs to be a full football sized protrusion!! Too much possibility of upsetting someone imo. People just don't think before they speak do they?

someone asked me if i was pregnant last year. Im not. I just told them im not. Didnt bother me particularly. Was probably just my posture and the fact ive had 3 kids.

A few years ago it would have sent me into self hatred and despair, but now i dgaf what they think really

Agree how bloody rude op.

Awwww

No, YANBU! I've been asked if I'm "pregnant again"... No, I'm not. My DS is 9 months and I haven't lost the pregnancy weight so leave me alone!

Btw, I'd gladly trade being a size 10 with an early pregnancy belly with my current jelly mould shape!

Has happened to me too. Yes I agree should wait until completely obvious has happened to me when I've been fat and when I weighed my lightest ever just have no hips or waist and a sticky out tummy. Ho hum.

As long as you arnt a midwife EatShit that may not inspire confidence.

agreed EatShitDerek!

I wish people would think first too.

Someone asked me last year and I was mortified and really upset. I knew I'd gained weight but was very sensitive about it. Someone asking if you're pregnant when you're not basically just screams 'you're fat'.

I'm 30 weeks pregnant and the size of a house.

I take great delight in glaring at anyone who asks when the baby is due and ask them "what baby?"

Overheard a woman asking DH when our baby was due. He looked suitably and I vowed to bin my voluminous maxi dress (which tbf did make me look like a comfy sofa)

I am fat all over, I am under no illusions about that, but as someone who is TTC, it was a bit of a punch in the (fat) face.

I've never been asked when I haven't been pg but was asked with my first and couldn't help but say "no I'm not". I was 34 weeks in a big coat and the woman's face just dropped. I felt a bit bad so had to explain I was joking

I just take the seat on the tube whether I'm pregnant or not, frankly.

Yep, unless I was to actually see a baby pop out of someone's vagina I wouldn't ask/mention pregnancy unless they had told me about it. You just never ask unless they mention it!

I am apple-shaped, so I look like I'm just starting to show all the bloody time - although I'm not pregnant, and never have been.

Yanbu. People shouldn't ask if there's any room for doubt whatsoever!

I gave my train seat up for what I thought was a heavily pregnant women, she went ballistic and stormed off. The guy sat next to me was thanking me as he was about to do the same and I had saved him from an earful. Now I just look at my own shoes unless the rub their belly and even then I am sheepish.

I've been asked a few times lately. I don't find it offensive. I'm not pg but I have a fibroid the size of a six-month fetus so I do look pg (quite slim in other places), and several occasions were on public transport where I'm sure I would have been offered a seat if I had said yes (it did cross my mind as it would have been nice to sit down!). Others were friends who I'm sure would have congratulated me. I'm just a bit bemused by it, but I don't get why I should feel upset about it.

I used to suffer from fibroids which caused my stomach to swell and, because I was slim everywhere else, I was constantly being asked when I was due and being offered seats on the bus. It used to really upset me and I never ever assume anyone's pregnant unless they tell me.

YANBU.

If you do look pregnant then why would someone not ask if you are?

Because it's tactless. There's always a chance the person has just put on weight, has a tummy that's out of proportion to the rest of them, has fibroids etc etc etc

Lady luck - because if they're not pregnant then you're basically just calling someone fat. It's just tackless unless you're really sure.

Cobain I think this is why many women wear the baby on board badges - to avoid situations like yours . I did once suspect a woman was pregnant but didn't want to offer my seat just in case but she got all huffy with everyone because no one got up for her

eatshit I just sprayed my phone laughing at the nice shoes comment.