to think people shouldn't ask you if you're pregnant until you're the size of a house?

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Have been asked twice today by different people. I'm not pregnant and had my youngest 7 years ago. Ok, to be fair I do look in the v early stages - maybe 2 or 3 months gone but am a size 10 so I guess my spare tyre does show a bit. Then I was referred to as "apple shaped" by one lady. Great!!! I just think people should be really, really sure before they ask - ie there needs to be a full football sized protrusion!! Too much possibility of upsetting someone imo. People just don't think before they speak do they?

I follow Dave Barry's advice: “You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests you think she's pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment.”

I think some people like to be the first person to guess you're pregnant. When I was in the very early stages of pregnancy I got super bloated and people kept asking when I was due (which was in about 8 months time). more than ones someone replied something like "I can always tell when people are pregnant straight away"

I was asked this too. A person I hadn't seen in a while said, "you're having another baby, how lovely".
I explained that I wasn't having a baby I was just fat. She looked mortified, I cried (in the toilet afterwards so no one could see)

People keep asking when I'm due (I'm not). They never seem that embarrassed when I say I'm not, I think they think I should be embarrassed for being so fat.

When I was at school, a friend's mum was dying of incurable stomach cancer and used to get asked when the baby was due

I don't ask. Ever. I wait to be told.

I was asked by a few people I'd I was pregnant (when we were having difficulty ttc) and I found it upsetting, insensitive and rude. I am pregnant at the moment and I've overheard a group of girls (who were eye balling me) discussing whether I was just fat or if I was heavily pregnant while I was waiting for a bus and on another occasion had a delivery guy recently say he too (whilst looking at my sizeable bump) was struggling to lose the extra weight he had gained over Christmas and gave me advice on how to lose it .
I have been tempted to pretend I'm not pregnant just to teach people about having manners/asking random strangers personal questions.

I was devastated to be offered a seat 'as you're pregnant' the day my then boyfriend had dumped me (when I wasn't pregnant). I had a slight amount of fat on my tummy, I definitely didn't look pregnant by normal standards.

Then when I was literally just pregnant- before my first scan- and a bit bloated and constipated someone I barely knew at work asked. Risky, but she was delighted to have guessed so early, some reckless people do like to be the first to guess.

Now I have a baby I have been mistaken for pregnant a few times and couldn't care less. Usually the people are daft, as I was asked when my baby was 3 months old, how could I be visibly pregnant by then?

I'm a former midwife and can almost always tell the difference at first glance. I'd still never ask. It's personal.

If someone does tell me I am always very thrilled for them.

Yanbu.

This happens to me all the time because of my apple shape/fat stomach/big boobs and slim hips. The only time I wasn't asked was when I was pregnant with my DS!

I hate my shape and end up in floods of tears every time I'm asked. I wish people would shut up.

im pg with number 3. I love it when people ask if you are pregnant then see you a few weeks later with baby and ask if its yours....I once told a woman no I had really just shoved a cushion up my top.and kidnapped my ds....I dont think she was impressed. but if you dont want a silly answer dont ask a silly bloody question. People are currently asking me if im having twins....no im just fat and pregnant!

I never, ever ask. But still cringe about the time I stopped and chatted to a girl I used to work with. Realistically I reckon she was probably about a week overdue but I did not mention it, just in case. I know now from FB that of course she was as pregnant as she looked.

Probably just as hurtful wasn't it :(

It's difficult though.

You look rude if you ask and their not, and rude if you don't ask and they are.

One of the Mums at my DC's Primary school, stopped speaking to me years ago because apparently I never congratulated her.

She was offended that I'd assumed she was just fat, even though I never said a word about anything

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It is tactless as obviously if the person isn't pregnant they will be upset. A complete stranger once asked me when I was due and although I was pregnant I was only 11 weeks and hadn't told anyone! I didn't know what to say.

I got called 'sir' in a shop a few weeks before dc1 was born.

I still remember now how I was given it was summer so I was just wearing t-shirt and baggy trousers.

So my massive bump and norks were masked by my height and short hair

I have also congratulated a non pregnant acquaintance on her pregnancy I was mortified and have never made that mistake again!

That's awful OP,

I'm in the camp of not saying a word until the suspect confesses.

There's a lady at my gym who I thought was pregnant and slightly further along than me (I was 14 weeks at the time... Thought she was roughly 20) and would smile at her in a 'fellow pregnant gym goer' way... Only my bump has grown considerable over the last 4 months and here... Hasn't.

I feel dreadful, can't even look at her now!

badroly when I was recovering from chemo and had short hair! a waiter in a restaurant commented all shocked 'oh I thought you were a boy!' I wanted to cry. You must have been mortified