Not seriously - but will possibly get flamed here.
My significant bday this yr. Oh in forces and has been away a lot the last 5 yrs but is now in one place for a few yrs working away in the week but home at weekends.
I have 3 DC who live with me 12 yr old has Aspergers and has different dad to my elder two who are 15 and 17 (so he will be at his dad's w/e of party).
OH has two other DC under 10 - who we are not due to see that weekend.
I brought my DC up on my own mainly and as a result we are quite close - they are due to see their dad said weekend but he is going away and leaving them with their step mum who they hate.
I have organised my own birthday party and am a bit pissed off OH has done nothing to help or even been involved. It's at a hotel so licensed bar but teenagers would be allowed.
My youngest DC would not want to come as he hates noise, parties etc, but I would quite like my 15 yr old and 17 yr old there.
OH threw a massive childish strop and said if they were there he wouldn't go as he isn't going to be responsible for them (was planning on asking my parents to gently keep an eye on them - they are good kids).
He has now invited his 19 yr old son (who I am very fond of and happy to have him there) but how they hell are my older two going to feel?
AIBU to think hes behaving like a selfish twat - and it's my party?