To feel uncomfortable about my childs teacher moving in next door

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I feel very uncomfortable and on edge all the time. We have lived here for 15 years. I try not to be shouty normally but need to to get my dc's ready on time for school. I feel I now can't do this.

She is a nice lady but it has totally ruined how I feel about my home.

Our walls are quite thin and I can hear them and worry they can hear us too.

Our walls are quite thin and I can hear them and worry they can hear us too

There's your answer then. Maybe she's crapping herself that you can hear her.

You could probably do a lot worse where neighbours are concerned but it could take a bit if getting used to.

OMG I feel sorry for the pair of you.

She must have died when she realised

YANBU

Does she have her own kids?

I assure you, she won't be perfect either.

Ooooh I feel the same.

One of the teaching assistants at my girls school lives bang opposite us but that's more bearable than being next door. I would feel uncomfortable as I can be shouty at times.

She'll leave before you in the morning, shout at them then

I'd feel the same

No she doesn't have children yet. She seems a bit of a party animal. They have had about 5 since moving in a few weeks ago.

Mmm, that could be a bit uncomfortable, I agree. It's a bit awkward for you. Dd's teacher lives next door but one. Dd is SO embarrassed about it and whispers "Hi" to her if she sees her on the street!

Having said that there's not alot you can do about it other than move is there? If she's a nice lady (has she got/had children of her own?) she will hopefully understand that everyone shouts a bit occasionally. Agree she's probably just as worried!

YANBU

I'd feel the same. I can imagine it'd be just as awkward for her though seeing as she is the professional in this instance. I would be constantly telling my dc to not intrude on her and her family seeing as she'd be with my dc all day then seeing them at home/in passing.

YANBU. My DS's teacher is lovely, but I wouldn't want her living next door!

In my last flat I used to live above one of the TAs from the DDs school. She was just as shouty and scruffy as me behind closed doors

I doubt it's an ideal situation for either of you. Imagine (don't!) the poor woman trying to get jiggy with one of her pupils next door.

Well if she's a party animal you have nothing to worry about! It will probably be her making the noise and you wondering how to talk to her about it!!!

She won't be your child's teacher for that long, really, will she? The years fly by.

Have you not asked her to do your school runs yet? She's going that way anyway...

I'm joking before I get jumped on

Saucy....I was thinking of that too......urghhhhhhh! Poor woman!

It's more me getting jiggy I am worried about. I don't want an audience. Feel like I am the talk of the staffroom.

I'm a teacher and I would feel really awkward if I was living next to a child from my school. She probably worries about being judged just as much as you are.

Ooh no I'd be the same op! I'd be in horror that she'd see my messy bins or hear me roaring "GET THAT VEST ON!!" in the morning!

She won't judge you for shouting at your kids anymore than you will judge her for being a 'party animal'.

You are over thinking this. This isn't that big a deal. Just be a normal considerate neighbour. This will only last for 6 more months and then your child will have a new teacher.

I would use this situation to my advantage I think - I am just imagining that my DC would be so worried about their teacher thinking they might not be quite as perfect as they are at school, they would stop being noisy little monsters at home - win win!

I'm assuming you both live in the school catchment? I'm surprised she would want to live in the area as this happening would be a strong possibility?

Although, you can probably use it to your advantage. When dc start to play up, or fight or whatever, just mention "your teacher can hear you". My kids would have been mortified had their teachers heard the way they carried on sometimes, lazy but effective parenting!

Yes we live very near the school. We were away over Christmas when the old neighbours moved out. I saw a lot of workmen coming and going but didn't know who the new people were. I saw them on moving in day and couldn't believe it.