To feel uncomfortable about my childs teacher moving in next door

[ButterflyUpSoHigh]

I feel very uncomfortable and on edge all the time. We have lived here for 15 years. I try not to be shouty normally but need to to get my dc's ready on time for school. I feel I now can't do this.

She is a nice lady but it has totally ruined how I feel about my home.

Our walls are quite thin and I can hear them and worry they can hear us too.

Saucy - I read that completely wrong, as in the teacher would be getting jiggy WITH the pupil I thought, well, I think there's more to that issue than just someone hearing next door

OP, if it makes you feel better, she probably leaves the house a lot earlier than you, so probably isn't there when you are in full on leaving the house panic

Right a little rant - I didn't think prior to having a child that my b00bs were massively massive but apparently I cannot find a breast pump with the cone bits (the flanges - which makes me laugh like a 13 year old boy!) that are big enough.

Grrrrrr. I'm desperate to express so I can share a bit of feeding responsibility, get out a bit more as my LO cluster feeds a lot and DH wants to be involve but I cannot for the life of me find one!!!!

I know medela pumps have different sizes but that's based on nipple size - they don't appear to be a problem but I can't get close enough to the ducky Tibet bit because the b00bs won't let me.

Argh. Rant over.

Can anyone help/suggest anything?

Omg wrote in wrong bit - New to this - so sorry!!!!

how many staff in the staff room conpared to how many parents in the school playground? she will be more worried about it going the otherway.

YANBU I would hate that.

I'm a teacher who lives in the catchment area of my place of employment and I've just moved to a tiny corner of the town to get away from my pupils a bit! It will be worse for her, honestly, I can't pop into a shop without bumping into an excited teenager dragging a parent to say hi. No popping out in slob clothes for sanitary towels...!

When I was growing up, my teacher lived in our house! My Dad.

In all seriousness though, I actually feel more sorry for the teacher. My parents lived very close to the school before moving to a nearby village just before I was born. He always describes his time living in the catchment as like living life in a goldfish bowl. He hated it.

No noisy sex for you OP till your kids have left that school.

My neighbour has just become a teaching assistant at my son's (to be) secondary school.
I am unhappy about it.
Especially as she has said unkind things about my sons that have been filtered back through her son.
So you are not unreasonable in your concern.
I like school and home to be kept separate, very

I would look into soundproofing that side of your house. It can be done.

is it just me sitting here smirking lol
i would not like that 1 wee bit :)
i would be the talk of the staffroom!

I stayed next door to my head mistress in school. It wasn't awkward until my cat started hunting and kept leaving her presents on the doorstep....

Getting called to the head teachers office for that was pretty uncomfortable!

We used to live next door to our head of year, was never a problem. Also used to live with my geography teacher, but she was my mum so that doesn't count!!

Was going to agree - it will be nearly as bad for her

And I agree with Blackeyed. Parents gossip about school staff way more than staff gossip about parents

I wouldn't worry I once turned up early to pick my DD from school. I was waiting outside and the window to DDs classroom was open and OMG the way she was shouting at the children made me think I certainly had nothing to worry about!

I grew up in the 80s in a small town where all our primary teachers lived too, it was unlikely not to have a teacher on your street or nearby and we always saw them at church or in the shop.
Not the same at secondary although one of the secondary teachers lived in our small town and went to our church.

I don't get the angst, teachers, doctors, vicars etc. are all people - if you live in a small community you will know them / be married to them/ be their offspring etc.

How long before the children leave school?

Befriend her and voilà, you have someone to do the school run for you.

Look for the positives

It wouldn't bother me at all, I think it's WAY worse for the teacher.

Teachers have to live somewhere. Also she probably leaves for school way earlier than you do so will miss out on the getting out the door to school noise.

I am married to a teacher (secondary school) and a family with 8 children moved next door about 9 years ago, so far 6 are either at the school or have left, with 2 more to come.

We wouldn't have chosen to move next to anyone from the school, but I think they find it useful as they are often asking DH to sign passport forms or for references for jobs.

When you are getting ready for school, the teacher will probably already be there, and they will probably be more worried about you hearing their noise than you are hearing theirs.

But yy, keep the loud sex for when she's away.

Another 3 years until they leave unfortunately